Any Other Photo {Rachel and O}

Two people, one photo. A memory made and a moment captured – Any Other Photo will always have such a hold on my heart. We know that you love it too, we know that you miss it when it’s gone. So get choosing, get writing, get sending… Go!

Today’s is a photo of two (three, really!) ridiculously beautiful people who celebrated their fourth anniversary yesterday. Huge congratulations to Rachel and her wonderful wee family. I just love the idea of having photos like these taken to celebrate everyone you love being together at such an important time. 

Four years it has taken me, four years since our wedding; to get round to, pluck up the courage to and decide upon ourAny Other Photo. Is it because I don’t like our wedding photos, is it because I’m really quite shy, or is it because my husband is horrified at the thought of his face being out there? Or is it that choosing is too hard, do I pick the one of us during the ceremony, the one where I appear to be threateningmy new husband with a knife while we pose to cut the cake,the one where I’m getting my toes trodden on during our first dance or the one of my Dad and I dancing? Who knows? However given that we’ve been married for four years I thought it was about time I made an effort. But then I looked at our wedding photos again and I had a little cry. So I decided not to choose a wedding photo because AOP isn’t all about weddings it is about photos that make you smile.

This photo was taken as part of a gift for my Mum’s 65thbirthday late 2012. I’m seven months pregnant. Our life is about to change more than we could ever imagine. I love this picture because I’m probably saying something bossy and O is doing his usual and ignoring me and making me laugh.

 

The last year or so of married life has been a difficult. We’ve struggled to adjust to who we are now as parents and how that impacts on us still being Rachel and O. We’ve had conversations that turn into fights because we can’t hear ourselves over a crying child – neither of us knowing how to make her stop. We’ve been exhausted to the point of illness when she just would.not.sleep. We’ve bought our secondhouse and struggled financially with all the unforeseen expenses that come along. O has started working part time and we’ve adjusted to O being the stay at home parent and how people outside our relationship view that. But I’m so relieved and happy that we’re making our way back, we’re a team again and we’re laughing at ourselves again. Our wedding day feels so long ago and yet four years feels like nothing. When I think that in a few years my parents will have been married for 50 years, O’s parents will have been married40 years and my sister just celebrated 20 years. We have some pretty excellent role models on making relationships workthrough thick and thin.

This photo is one of a set taken of my family on a walk round Temple Newsham, Leeds by the lovely and talented Mark Dolby.

Categories: Any Other Photo
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9 Comments

  1. Posted July 25, 2014 at 8:23 am | Permalink

    Yesssss happy anniversary guys! Hope you had a great day yesterday and have fun planned for the weekend. Challenging times are what marriage is all about really, not this coasting along stuff (when does that start, by the way?)

    Love love love the picture. Doors blown wide open for non-wedding AOPs now, yes??

    Px

  2. Rebecca
    Posted July 25, 2014 at 8:42 am | Permalink

    I lub you <3 I cried reading this, and seeing what photo you chose to put up (excellent choice BTW) and the writing is lovely You two are so strong even when you think you're not. I'm so glad the internets put us together xx

  3. aDizzyGirl
    Posted July 25, 2014 at 9:11 am | Permalink

    Oh Rachel, since I am lucky enough to know both of you in real life, I also know just how perfect this OP is and how well it represents your lovely little family.

    I fully expect an update AOP in 50 years where you are still being bossy and O is still making you laugh.

    xxx

  4. Posted July 25, 2014 at 9:23 am | Permalink

    Love love love it R! Such a nice photo. Hope you had a lovely anniversary and as D says we fully expect a AOP on your 50th anniversary. Xx

  5. Posted July 25, 2014 at 10:04 am | Permalink

    That was such a beautiful, honest and heart felt piece along with the photo. Just so perfect. Your family sounds pretty awesome.

  6. Rebecca
    Posted July 25, 2014 at 10:35 am | Permalink

    I lub you <3 I cried reading this, and seeing what photo you chose to put up (excellent choice BTW) and the writing is lovely You two are so strong even when you think you're not. I'm so glad the internets put us together xx

  7. Posted July 25, 2014 at 11:32 am | Permalink

    A really lovely, honest piece about marriage and love. Happy anniversary to you!

  8. Posted July 25, 2014 at 11:34 am | Permalink

    I love this – it’s good to see the honesty about what marriage really is. And the photo is beautiful. Happy anniversary!

  9. Posted July 25, 2014 at 11:49 am | Permalink

    Lovely photo! I was chatting with a recently engaged friend about how much more solid her relationship feels now that they are getting married, even though it hasn’t actually changed. I think that’s a big part of what a marriage is, a big public commitment to making it work and getting through the tough times. Here’s to the next 44 anniversaries…and beyond! xx

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