Right, readers. We need you. A reader has sent in a plea for help on how to manage her feuding sister and best friend in the run-up to her wedding. I know a number of you have had the difficult role of mediator in advance of your weddings, and that the road to harmonious weddings is often fraught with difficulty.
No-one should have to deal with this in advance of the happiest day of their lives. Please help our reader out, and leave any advice you have in the comments at the end. All advice will be gratefully received!
Dear AOW Readers,
I’m a sister. I love it. I love my funny, silly, bright, bubbly sister. I’m also a friend. I love that too. I love my smart, loyal, quirky best friend.
The problem is that they don’t love (or even remotely like) each other.
This has been a long term hate-hate relationship. I met my friend 12 years ago and there was no significant event that put her at loggerheads with my sister. It was a natural occurrence.
I’m the quieter sister. I’m also the quieter friend. My sister and my friend are very alike although neither one of them would care to admit it. They are loud and outgoing and they always think they know best! There’s adefinite clash of personalities.
My sister in particular is usually very vocal about her dislike of my friend claiming that she ‘bosses me about’ although this is a complete case of ’pot’ ‘kettle’ and ‘black.’ My friend on the other hand tries to be more subtle (but is still glaringly obvious) with her little jibes and catty comments about my sister. I have learnt to keep them apart whenever possible.
When I get married next year I would like them both to be bridesmaids.
Surprisingly, my sister has been great about this. She seems to be looking forward to the big day almost as much as I am. My friend on the other hand has made it clear she doesn’t like the idea of sharing the role with my sister.
My husband-to-be is of the opinion that I should ditch my friend and just go with my sister. I think if I do this my friend might not come to the wedding at all.
I just wish they would put it aside and get on for one day.
AOWers, do you have any advice for keeping feuding wedding guests under control? I’d love to hear some success stories!