Any Other Photo {Yanthé and Rich}

Welcome to the first Friday of 2014, AOW readers! And we’re kicking it off with an AOP many of you have been chomping at the bit to see.  Yanthé has sent us in a story that I imagine many of us can relate to (except the Paris part, I’d really like to relate to the easting-pastries-in Paris part).  It’s  about doubting you’ll ever find someone that wants you for you, and once they do, scarcely being able to believe it.  And then deciding to believe it, to take the risk, and making big, big decisions that change your life forever, in bigger and better ways.

Overcoming doubt, taking the jump. Perfect January reading.  Over to you, Yanthé, and thank you:    


Moment captured by the talented Rhys Parker

Well goodness me choosing an AOP is HARD! I’ve read so many lovely words on these pages on Fridays for so long that now it has come to choosing/writing my own I just haven’t known where to begin.  I guess actually when I first began reading this blog I hadn’t thought I would ever have an AOP all of my own. For a long time, and for various reasons, marriage was something I wasn’t sure I ever wanted. When my now husband and I hadn’t been dating very long we were faced with the possibility of him having to relocate to the other end of the country (well, London to Manchester, but that was far enough) and he began what I have since dubbed ‘The Very Serious Conversation’. He told me how strongly he felt for me and that if he were to move we’d need to make a plan to ensure we would end up living in the same place again in the not too distant future, because as far as he was concerned one day we would be getting married and having children.

What did I do? I cried. I found it all incredibly overwhelming and couldn’t fathom that this wonderful man felt that way about me. I couldn’t explain at all why the thought of marriage and children had always left me feeling unable to breath or get my head around the fact that when *he* suggested it, my throat didn’t feel like it was about to close, in fact I think I cried because I couldn’t handle the thought that yes, maybe I wanted those things with him.  It probably wasn’t the reaction he was hoping for.

Later (when I had calmed myself down and we had talked A LOT) it turned out he didn’t have to relocate after all; we moved in together and began making our home.  We discussed marriage and agreed the main reason for it was that it made us an official team, our own little family, whether children are ever added to it or not.

A year after that he proposed very quietly as we sat at a corner table in the Ampitheatre Restaurant at the Royal Opera House (my favourite place in London) and we took off to Paris for a weekend to see Jessie Ware live and generally jaunt about eating pastry, drinking wine and making fanciful wedding plans in a tiny notebook. I remember stopping during that weekend and thinking that my life was so bloody lovely right then. I was in Paris, celebrating my engagement to the most wonderful man and could not understand how I had gotten there after so many years of not being sure I would ever find someone I could trust that much.

This photograph is of us after we had signed the register and had done ‘the hard bit’. I was a nervous wreck and you can handily see that my lovely trademark nervous rash has creeped down my neck and arm, but when I look at it that feeling comes back to me; how on earth did I get so damn lucky? How did I find a man who looks at me this way and who loves me so unconditionally? A man who is so very kind, generous and beyond patient with me, not to mention he’s a bit of a dish (obvs). He supports me without a second of doubt and challenges me when I most deserve it. He is my life and to know he has ever looked at me that way even once brings back those pesky tears all over again, but this time they’re here not because I’m scared, they’re here because I am so secure, happy and confident that we can handle whatever comes our way together, as Team M.


Categories: Any Other Photo
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  1. rachel JHD
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 7:21 am | Permalink

    What a lovely start to 2014 & a wet Friday. Wishing you both a lifetime of love as Team M.

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:01 am | Permalink

      Thank you Rachel!

  2. Posted January 3, 2014 at 7:33 am | Permalink

    Is it wrong that my first thought this morning was to wonder which pic it would be? This is such a perfect choice and wonderful story. Go Team M!

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:01 am | Permalink

      Aww thanks Amy. It was a difficult decision!

  3. Posted January 3, 2014 at 7:55 am | Permalink

    Urm….crying a little(a lot)
    Lovely lovely picture and just the sort of description I wanted to read in a dreary Friday morning.
    It made me all warm inside. Like a romance novel. Sigh…. Just look at the way he’s looking at you…look at it. *snivvles into a tissue*
    You guys are too. Darn. CUTE.

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:02 am | Permalink

      :) Made myself cry too!

  4. Fee
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    This is just perfect. You look AMAZING xxx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:03 am | Permalink

      Thanks so much Fee! I have to say I didn’t feel it at the time, but the more I look at these the more I think I looked alright actually :)

  5. Posted January 3, 2014 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    I loved the photo as soon as I saw it because of the way your lovely hubby is looking at you…then I read the story behind it and I loved it EVEN more. Such a perfect AOP to kick-off 2014. My eyes seem to have come over all cloudy… :) xx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:03 am | Permalink

      Thank you Emma :) He is ace

  6. Sharon
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 8:28 am | Permalink

    Great AOP to start 2014, just lovely. And your earrings look fabulous xxxx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:04 am | Permalink

      Thanks Sharon! *Whispers – they were a panic buy from New Look almost a year earlier en route to hubby’s Christmas Party – about £4 I think!*

  7. ChirstyMac
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 8:52 am | Permalink

    Love this Yanthe. Aside from being a gosh-darn-it beautiful picture SO full of love, it is a story that gives me hope. And I thank you for that. X

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:05 am | Permalink

      Oh Chirsty, that makes me so happy. Thank you x

  8. Lexie
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 8:59 am | Permalink

    So beautiful, Happy New Year Team M! X

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:05 am | Permalink

      Thanks Lexie! x

  9. Posted January 3, 2014 at 9:28 am | Permalink

    Yanthe this is SO LOVELY. Even though I’ve heard your crying story before (and loved it) the way you write it is just brilliant. And look at the way R is looking at you!! Magic.

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:05 am | Permalink

      Ha! Way to go me, repeating myself! Thanks A x

  10. Posted January 3, 2014 at 10:01 am | Permalink

    Yes, Yes, Yes!! As my husband would say (because he only just discovered the internet, like, yesterday); amazeballs! xx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:06 am | Permalink

      Haha, I’m quite fond of that ‘word’! Thanks Steff x

  11. Posted January 3, 2014 at 10:02 am | Permalink

    This is just lovely. Look at the expression on R’s face – so wonderfully heartwarming for a January day, and the story is magical too. Love!

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:06 am | Permalink

      Eeeee, thanks Frances :) xx

  12. Katielase
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 10:25 am | Permalink

    This is absolutely wonderful, just so beautiful. Tears in my eyes and goosebumps on my arms. Perfect start to 2014.

    KL xx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:07 am | Permalink

      I’m not sure I should be proud of myself for making a pregnant lady all emotional – but I am a little :)
      Thank you KL xx

  13. Posted January 3, 2014 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

    Man I know that feeling. So incredibly, unbelievably lucky. You deserve that way he looks at you, and you are both so gorgeous. Xxx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:07 am | Permalink

      Oh thank you Katy! xx

  14. Amanda M
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

    You look beautiful (and I can’t see a rash at all) but the WAY he looks at you…. Well, I’ve gone a bit silly here.

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:08 am | Permalink

      Oh Amanda it was AWFUL! My bridesmaids told me after they just stared in horror as it worked its way down my neck and arms and there was nothing they could do!

      I am a very lucky lady :) xx

  15. Claire H
    Posted January 3, 2014 at 10:57 pm | Permalink

    Have been trying to think of something more coherent all day other than ‘awwww’ – your words and the way he’s looking at you brought a lump to my throat this morning! However, I’ve failed, so awwww it will have to be! I really identified too with what you wrote about how you felt too re finding someone who loves you unconditionally just as you are and makes you be the best you can be – congratulations again and all the best for a very long and happy future together x

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:09 am | Permalink

      Aww thanks Claire – be you soon!! xx

  16. Posted January 4, 2014 at 9:53 pm | Permalink

    This is just beautiful and such a wonderful story, also a bit teary here! Yay for Team Ms (we’re a team M too!) and coping together with what life throws! I just LOVE the way Rich is looking at you, so chuffed that you’re his wife :) xx

    • Yanthé
      Posted January 8, 2014 at 10:09 am | Permalink

      Go Team M’s!
      Thanks Bex :) xx

  17. Siobhan
    Posted January 21, 2014 at 12:39 pm | Permalink

    I do love this photo and this post. Just love them.

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