Any Other Photo – Piriya and Ben (Part One)

I’ve sneakily called this Part One, basically because I want to make sure that Piriya sends us in her wedding AOP too. But that doesn’t do justice, really, to the story that has gone before this picture. This is a perfect AOP all on its own. It has love, fighting through adversity, and a proposal at the sea-side. What more could you want?

But wait. It actually has more than that. It has a triumph, for Piriya, and for Ben, and a little bit of hope for everyone else in dual-culture relationships in Britain today, especially for those whose parents disapprove of the relationship.

I’ll leave Piriya to tell the rest of this happy (ending) story…. 


It isn’t the best-quality photo ever submitted on AOP. It was taken on my phone by a waiter we’d never met before at a restaurant far away, but in this photo I see the beginning of our life together, a moment we both never thought would come.

Due to various reasons discussed elsewhere, our relationship has been fraught by problems. Not problems between us, but other people’s problems with the idea of us. It hasn’t always been easy, but somehow we both had the courage to push past the difficulties facing us, united.

On the 24th of November, two years and 11 months to the day we went on our first date, Ben and I became engaged. The photo you see was taken at a celebratory lunch an hour after Ben proposed on a hilltop overlooking Leigh-on-Sea, a town near Southend-on-Sea, where Ben spent many happy memories with his grandparents before they passed away, and where we have spent precious Summer days together since.

We will be married on September 12, 2014 and my family will be very much a part of the ceremony. It has been a long and hard struggle but like many of you said in my first post, it has been worth it.

To my fiancé, I can only say one thing: thank you. Here’s to an extraordinary 2014.

Categories: Any Other Photo
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  1. Posted January 10, 2014 at 7:39 am | Permalink

    HUGE congratulations to both of you! Beautiful photo and I too can’t wait for part 2.

  2. Katielase
    Posted January 10, 2014 at 7:59 am | Permalink

    I have two things to say… first, Piriya, I don’t know if I should have known this but I did not realise that I actually worked with you in actual real life. I’m unfeasibly excited by this revelation.

    Second, this is so wonderful. I’m honestly delighted for you, massive congratulations. I hope we will see all the photos.

    KL x

  3. Posted January 10, 2014 at 8:43 am | Permalink

    Leigh on Sea is where I live! and where my sister is getting married today :)

    congratulations to you two! Hope you have a really happy life together xxx

  4. Posted January 10, 2014 at 8:49 am | Permalink

    So lovely – congratulations!

  5. Posted January 10, 2014 at 9:24 am | Permalink

    Gorgeous photo. Massive congratulations to you both!! xx

  6. Zan
    Posted January 10, 2014 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    Oh I’m so pleased – congratulations!! Really glad that your family will be involved with your wedding and that you’ve both been able to push on through despite the difficulties. It really is a testamant to the strength of your relationship x

  7. Katie
    Posted January 10, 2014 at 9:59 am | Permalink

    Yay for love! I love your style of writing. You and Ben make a beautiful couple. I cannot wait for the wedding photo.


  8. fbird
    Posted January 10, 2014 at 10:36 am | Permalink

    Congrats Piriya and Ben! So pleased for you both.

  9. PiriyaP
    Posted January 10, 2014 at 6:47 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for the lovely introduction and comments. You are all very kind.

    Katielase-it’s a small world!

  10. Siobhan
    Posted January 21, 2014 at 1:28 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations. This is wonderful.

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