Any Other Photo {Sarah and David}

This morning’s AOP s another ‘no groom’ one. Despite that, it’s not lacking in affection or love – the love in Sarah’s ‘not favourite’ photo shines so, so brightly; it’s a joy to behold.

Also, I would like a Hannah. Plsthx.

I need to begin by stressing this is not my favourite photograph from our wedding. I’m not sure I have one favourite to be honest – there are lots of them that I absolutely love and really, this isn’t up there with them. It doesn’t even have my husband in it (sorry David). So why is this my AOP? (Have I made the right choice?). I’ve chosen this because it shows my mum and my cousin, Hannah. As they did all throughout the day and the planning, and in my life in general, there they are helping me.

First of all, let me tell you about Hannah. She is, quite simply, amazing. We grew up together (kind of) as we used to live near each other and went to the same primary school for a while. We were inseparable. We’re only a few months apart in age and I have rather fetching photographs of us both in bright party dresses as 5 or 6 year-olds. Not only were our mum’s sisters but our dad’s were best friends. Things changed though. Her parent’s divorced. Hannah’s family moved to a town about half an hour or so away, she was no longer at my school and we saw each other less. When she was 12, she moved to Australia after her mum fell in love with it during a family holiday. We lost touch for a good few years, with only the occasional phone call or email. I was 18 when Hannah came back to visit us for a few months. It was great, we were inseparable again. She straightened my hair for me one night when I was going out on a first date (more about this in another post, hopefully!) and we were sisters again. Five years later, I excitedly phoned “The Other Side of the World” to tell Hannah the news. We were engaged. Honestly, you’ve never heard anyone so excited! She immediately started planning how she could afford to come back for the wedding. There and then I insisted that if she was flying half way around the world, she was definitely not going to sit in a pew and watch. She would be standing at my side as my bridesmaid, and that’s exactly what she did. But that wasn’t all she did. Oh no. She is incredibly talented when it comes to arts and crafts and after sending a scrapbook of ideas to me(!), she then designed and made all 100 invites, in fact she made all our stationery including place names, table plan, centre pieces, orders of service, thank you cards etc. She did my make up on my wedding day (after going on a mad dash around MAC in Harvey Nichols in Edinburgh with me… two days before the wedding!) and she helped with so many other aspects of our big day. Everything looked so pretty because of her and I can never repay her for all she did for us.  This is turning into a “friend that made me me” post so I’ll move on…

My mum. What can I say about my mum. We have an interesting relationship. She drives me ever so slightly crazy. I often feel guilty about it actually as I seem to snap at her all the time. I don’t know what it is she just seems to be able to say things that rub me up the wrong way (and most people who know me would say that’s usually a pretty difficult thing to do). I’ve always known though that she has my back. She is one of my biggest supporters and is always there for me. Whether it’s asked for or not she always has words of advice to give me and she always has complete faith in me. I’m currently waiting to find out if I’ve passed my big final scary exam for my job and she is already certain that I’ve passed. We live about 300 miles apart now and I know she really struggles with this, especially as she doesn’t get to see her 15 month old grandson anywhere near as much as she would like to. Like Hannah, she was fantastic in the run up to our big day. No matter how stressed I got or how the budget seemed to be stretched (again) she was always on hand to help.  This picture reminds me that no matter how crazy she makes me, she’s my mum and I love her much more than I can ever tell her.

There’s someone missing in this picture though. My other bridesmaid, Jo. Like my mum and Hannah, Jo has also always been there for me. The bracelet my mum is carefully fastening around my wrist in the photograph is from Jo. This is another reason why this photograph is special to me – a few hours later one of the beads from this bracelet was caught on a diamante on my bodice and before I realised what was happening, the bracelet snapped and beads were flying everywhere. I was upset at the time as I knew how special the bracelet was and although we collected up what beads we could, we’ve not been able to remake it. This photograph reminds me that accidents can happen, even on one of the most important days of your life. In the grand scheme of things though – they don’t really matter and they don’t ruin your day if you don’t let them. As nice as the bracelet was, it’s the sentiment behind it that I treasure and I still do to this day.

Finally, and this may sound a bit weird, but I like how this photograph shows how messy the bed is. Oh yes, by the time us girls had finished getting ready, it resembled the proverbial bomb explosion. I like that it reminds me that the big things in life often come with their fair share of mess – but life is messy and we just need to go with it, because we only get one shot at it.

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  1. rachel JHD
    Posted December 13, 2013 at 7:43 am | Permalink

    I really like this AOP – the bit about your relationship with your mum, the bracelet story & life being messy sometimes. Good things to think about on a Friday – thank you & happy weekend everyone.

  2. Posted December 13, 2013 at 8:16 pm | Permalink

    Such a great photo, especially with the significance of the people in the photo with you! Your and your dress look amazing too! X

  3. Sarah
    Posted December 14, 2013 at 3:06 pm | Permalink

    Thanks Rachel & Emma! Very kind of you both.

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