Any Other Photo {Katy and Daniel}

This Any Other Photo makes me grin like a loon and also well up.  It’s amazing, how the stories behind a picture, one millisecond in time, can do that.  Katy describes perfectly the stories, and the feelings, behind each of the people she loves in this photograph.  There is laughter, there is love, there is relief, there is reflection.  

This photo reminds me that you can have all the film-worthy, dramatic wedding shots in the world, and the ones we love the most will always be those with the moments that represent the great tapestry of what family and friends mean  to us, and how they influence our lives.  

Beautifully captured photograph by Albert Palmer Photography.  Happy Friday, readers.    

 

So so much not the photo I thought I’d choose… But I suppose that’s the point?

Being a dedicated AOWette (totally a thing, right?) I took the AOP choosing very seriously. I didn’t want to commit to an early post; I wanted time to get the photos from our photographer and all our guests. Then I gave myself time to print them all, flick through, and see where my eyes were drawn. When this photo jumped out at me I couldn’t have been more surprised!

For one thing generally the signing of the register photos are really generally not flattering ones (look at my back fat right here, or, actually, please don’t…). It wasn’t a moment I had looked forward to or even meant that much to me before the wedding itself, apart from for its necessity.

I think partially the reason this moment grabs me is that it’s one of the first times I got to see people, to chat and laugh. I’m sure other brides agree that you walk down the aisle and you just see flashes of all your favourite people, dressed beautifully, and it’s so overwhelming and exciting and I just wanted to wave and chat and hug everyone, but I couldn’t.

But then I got to the top of the aisle and I saw Daniel, and I saw him looking at me. And for the whole rest of the service we pretty much grinned right across at each other.

We memorized our vows to say to each other and it was completely magical. We were in our own world and the rest of the people in that church fell away completely. It brings tears to my eyes thinking about the atmosphere as we spoke them across, exchanged rings, kissed and got blessed.

Then we walked over to the registry table and that spell was broken. This moment, in this photo, shows me laughing with my bridesmaids and my new Mother-in-Law, who was one of our witnesses and is just off the screen. My co-chief bridesmaid is hanging on to my bouquet, one of her only real jobs on the day, for dear life.

I see my mother, that gorgeous lady signing the register as our other witness, in the foreground. I see the outfit we hunted for, and impressive hat. I see how beautiful she is, how happy she was that day, how important to me she is. I see me laughing to everyone else about how hard she’s finding it to sign her name in a legible fashion so our marriage is legal!

And then, in the background but very much the focus of this photo, I see my two favourite men. My gorgeous new husband and my Dad.

Dan is so happy, so relieved that he got the lines right. He’s full of that jubilant ‘we’ve done it!’ feeling that I remember so well. And he’s shaking my Dad’s hand, seemingly oblivious of the emotions my Dad is feeling.

My Dad surprised me on the day with how emotional he was (he’s from Yorkshire, so…). His face as he ‘gives me away’, the moment before we left for the church and we were alone, and his face here tug at my heart strings pretty hard. It reminds me of how proud he is, how much it meant to him, how much he approved of ‘my choice’. But also how hard he found it.

I didn’t know this moment had happened. I didn’t expect to be drawn to this photo. I will probably not frame it and put it on my wall. But it shows the people that meant the most to me, and the importance of those small moments we shared with them all. It gives me the feeling. So, I suppose, it had to be this one.

Categories: Any Other Photo
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16 Comments

  1. Posted October 11, 2013 at 8:23 am | Permalink

    I love this…I love the sentiment behind it, the importance of the small moments, and think it is something I definitely need to remember more often. Thanks for sharing Katy :) xx

  2. Posted October 11, 2013 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    Katy this is too perfect that I don’t have the words to do it justice. I just love it (and your mums hat!)

  3. Katielase
    Posted October 11, 2013 at 8:43 am | Permalink

    Absolutely absolutely perfect, exactly what an AOP is, the photo that says all the things that you couldn’t even have expected you wanted one photo to say.

    I just want to read your words over and over.

    KL xx

  4. Posted October 11, 2013 at 9:00 am | Permalink

    Oh I love this! Love it. Love the descriptions – they are gorgeous!!!

  5. Posted October 11, 2013 at 9:08 am | Permalink

    I was convinced you would pick one of those absolutely amazing sunset shots, but this and the way it makes you feel, surpasses them.

    When you walked in, you were smiling. When you were standing at the alter, you were looking happy, intent and very much in love. But when you went to sign the register, I remember you looked up and had the biggest, most joyful smile on your face. It was as if at that moment it hit you what had just happened and you couldn’t contain the feelings inside – that’s the smile you had on your face all the other times I saw you.

    I think you should get this framed. Maybe not to put on your wall, but to have somewhere where you can glance at it and remember.

    • Posted October 11, 2013 at 9:10 am | Permalink

      *Altar. I should really proof read my comments!

    • Posted October 11, 2013 at 10:45 am | Permalink

      I’ve bought some magnetic photo frames from Poundstretcher (2 for 99p) to stick these ‘make me smile but don’t want on the wall’ photos to my fridge/washing machine etc.

      • Becca
        Posted October 11, 2013 at 4:18 pm | Permalink

        Amy and the Frames

  6. Posted October 11, 2013 at 9:41 am | Permalink

    Oh Katy I love this! Your words are just gorgeous, but I just can’t stop looking at Dan and your Dad. The look on both their faces speaks of so many feelings, and shows what an important day it is for both of them.

    We have a photo that’s a bit like this that I didn’t realise was being taken. It was just before we were going to walk down the aisle after getting married, and Bren leaned right over to shake my Dad’s hand. The look on both their faces in the photo had me in bits when I the photographer showed me – and I think that’s why in your photo I’m so drawn to Dan and your Dad.

    Gorgeous!

    xx

  7. Posted October 11, 2013 at 11:38 am | Permalink

    LOVE IT. x

  8. Fee
    Posted October 11, 2013 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    Ah, this is lovely. My thoughts are everything Katielase said!

    Congrats again xxxx

  9. Posted October 11, 2013 at 12:37 pm | Permalink

    Oh, I love this AOP write up with all my heart. Are there more photos somewhere?? I have hardly been online and missed you Katy!

    love your description so much and your mum’s hat is hat perfection. Gorgeous. Gorgeous. Gorgeous.

  10. Posted October 11, 2013 at 1:27 pm | Permalink

    This has brightened up my Friday so much! It’s lovely Katy and a beautiful write up. Your dad looks so emotional, I just want to hug him :)

  11. Amanda M
    Posted October 11, 2013 at 4:15 pm | Permalink

    Ohhh, what a lovely account of why this photo means so much – it’s like a peek into someone’s life, Just beautiful

  12. Gemma N
    Posted October 11, 2013 at 4:52 pm | Permalink

    This is just lovely Katy. I love your descriptions, and how you can remember this moment, and see things in the photo that others can’t and are personal to you. Obviously a beautiful day – congratulations!
    xxx

  13. Posted October 11, 2013 at 7:10 pm | Permalink

    So, so lovely x

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