When I read this post it was like reading my own mind. I am (as Anna and Aisling will happily testify) the WORST person at accepting compliments. I just don’t know how to react, and generally get really uncomfortable and make some deflecting, self-deprecating comment. So to be asked to stand up and tell people what my excellence is, as Carly has been asked to do? My worst night mare.
But, in the interests of getting things started I am going to make myself incredibly uncomfortable, put all my fear to one side, and stand up and say…. My excellence is….managing people.
(MY GOD that was hard to do. I have sat here for a good 40 minutes coming up with different things and then ruling them out because other people might not agree. My excellence is clearly not in being decisive).
Now….you HAVE to join in and make me not feel so terribly un-british. Go and read Carly’s brilliant post and then in the comments let’s all hear what your excellence is – and I don’t care how hard it is, everyone should do this…
Things are changing where I work. No more are we a team who says ‘ooh, I’m not very good at that’ we are now being asked to shout about how good we are. We were sent home for the summer holidays being asked to think what our excellence is, in time for a presentation to the staff when we return.
Now, I’m a confident, some might say very loud, kind of person. I’ll happily chat to anyone for hours about all manner of random crap. I’ll eagerly engage in a Beyonce booty shake whilst sober or tell a rude joke at the most inappropriate of moments. But, ask me to stand up in front of people and tell them what I’m good at?! Erm, no.
I’m the same with compliments – my Fiance and I are currently going through our foster carer training. The first home-study session started with the social worker asking him what he loved about me. Now on one side I was intrigued, it’s not very often that we sit down and chat through the reasons why we love each other , and I was really interested to hear what he had to say. Then on the other hand, BAM, he started to list the reasons and I visibly squirmed and found it really embarrassing. I was the same all through my teacher training, whenever I’d get good feedback I’d go bright red and then joke about swearing in front of the children or accidentally standing on one of them! (This never happened) but heaven forbid that someone might give me a compliment
I imagine conversations at our wedding in April going something like this.
Random guest; ‘Congratulations Carly, you look beautiful.’
Me: ‘ Ah, thanks but you should see how many pairs of spanx I’m wearing/how much I’m sweating/how long I sat in the make-up chair (you get the picture.)
I have been racking my brains all Summer as to what my excellence might be. I asked my Fiance and he said being highly inappropriate. Helpful? Not really. (In his defence, we both lack the seriousness gene and he thought it was a trick question.) I was complaining to my line manager last week and she ended up getting a little bit cross and listed all of my achievements in my NQT year and asked me did I not think that was excellence? Well no, I don’t really, I just feel like I was doing my job!
Can I stand up and say that I am now an accomplished pom-pom maker? That I make a rather excellent brownie? That I can rap all of the words to Nicki Minaj Super Bass? I don’t think so. Particularly when this excellence is meant to be about attitude and how excellent we are as a person. Kill.Me.Now. If I were being asked to stand up and list the things I struggle with or am not very good at I would be attacking the list with gusto.
- Spend too much money
- Eats too much chocolate
- Constant worrying
I could go on, but I’d still quite like you to like me by the end of this post!
Is this just me? Am I the only person who struggles with this? Is it a British thing? I think that deep down, I know what I’m good at, but the thought of telling everyone brings me out in a cold sweat! Now, I don’t like a show off and I sometimes think that’s why I’m so reluctant to talk about things I’m good at. But is being aware of your ‘excellence’ showing off? It’s not like I’m going to make it into a t-shirt!
So, come on lovely ladies, help me out. What is your excellence? What would you say if you had to stand up and tell everyone what you were really good at doing? We all know that on these pages nobody is judged, so tell me yours and by the time this is published, I’ll be able to tell you what I finally came up with.