Things that I do not understand*

*but that other people seem to love

One of the things I love about AOW is that we are all different.  Thanks to AOW, I have learnt that I can happily sit around a table filled with people who have interests in the sorts of things I will never, ever comprehend and have an entirely wonderful conversation and walk away feeling unknotted inside and recalibrated and remembering that the world is a marvellous, beautiful place.

But still.  There are some things that I see people do, that they love doing, that leaves me astounded.  Befuddled.  Hit on the head with a spade.  Help me, folks.  What is it that I’m missing?



I’m aware it’s taken over the world.  I have tried, I swear to God I have tried, but still do not understand it.  I quite like looking at some of the pictures that friends post on Instagram via Twitter, but I always get annoyed that the picture is blurred, or that there’s a massive shaft of sunlight blocking half the picture, or that you can only see the artfully-positioned feet of whoever it is I’m meant to be looking at.  This, clearly, shows my innate lack of appreciation of photography, “flare” and “mood”.  Is it Twitter in picture form?  I always feel quite exhausted after going on Instagram, and inadequate, because my day did not include an artfully-angled G&T, or a field at sunset, or a small child frolicking in the long grass.  You never see a picture of a commute on Instagram, do you…or a mournful, multipack can of diet Coke at the back of the fridge alongside a clingfilm-wrapped shrivelled bit of onion.  That’s MY life in picture form.

The White Queen on BBC.

This started out so promisingly.  I’m a huge Philippa Gregory fan.  I think she is ACE, and I love how she writes historical fiction about strong, ill-fated women.  How could a story about a girl, born to a scheming mother, who married a king and ended up commanding the Royal Court fail to inspire me?  It just ended up…terrible.  As in, watch-behind-your-hands terrible.  And others LOVE IT.  The Earl of Warwick’s Antipodean accent didn’t help, nor did the seemingly endless “meaningful looks” behind fans at Court, or the really painful sex scenes that always appear to be in dappled sunlight (how do they manage that?  I don’t have ANY sex in dappled sunlight.  Is everyone else  doing that as well?).  The King wanders round looking sultry and hot but making no decisions whatsoever (perhaps that’s the point), and there was a chance here, a real chance, to make an adaptation featuring the strongest women imaginable, the Rivers family, but all the women seem to do is scheme, seduce and flounce.  It drives me MAD.


The words “mood board” are enough to break me out into a sweat.  I have managed 31 years without pinning a photo.  I intend to sail on until 62 in the same vein.  I just don’t like STUFF much.  Or rather, I Do like stuff, but not enough to wilfully spend time browsing the Internet and collecting pictures of items and arranging them just so on a blank canvas.  I am in awe of people who have the inclination to trawl the Internet, find stuff they like, bring it together and make it into an arty collection of THINGS that other people appreciate and then like enough to re-pin.  “Re-pin”!  It’s NOT A WORD.  For Amy’s wedding, Kirsty made me a yellow dress moodboard to assuage my “oh my GOD it’s yellow” panic.  It was amazing.  So I can absolutely see the value of Pinterest.  I really can.  But…but…where do people find the TIME to do this?  What does it do?  What’s wrong with words? Grumble grumble.

Nesting, or Crafting.

The thought of making a paper pompom makes me want to stab myself in the eye with a coathanger.  So does  the thought of knitting.  I live in awe of people who MAKE THINGS,and enjoy doing it.  Personalised gift bags, beaded  bracelets, anything with a glue gun and a stanley knife turns me into a gibbering wreck.  I am very lucky that I can call upon legions of AOWers to help me in this regard, should I end up in a perilous situation where a glue gun is my only way out.  Following on from this, another thing that makes me wants to start skinning myself is the thought of buying accessories for the home.  I am the world’s worst nester.  I live in a house that is crying out for a nester. It would look incredible with linen curtains wafting in the breeze and an old oak table that I just happened to “pick up” one day (where do people do this?  None of the skips I look in have vintage wardrobes lying about in them).  A chest of drawers that looks just so, a print that one “picked up in India”, a throw, someone who will spend time and energy and love making a house a home.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not living in a post-apocalyptic wasteland, we have stuff on the walls, but honestly, Mr K is more motivated about things like cushions than I am.

(whilst we’re on this topic, can someone please explain to me what “salvage chic” is supposed to mean?  Is your living room supposed to look like you’ve combed a beach? Do people say “chic” with a straight face, or is it supposed to be ironic?)

Big hair/nail art/insert other beauty fad/#whatiworetoday

I just…cannot.  I have tried.  I swear to God I have.  But it’s all I can do to get up in the morning and wash, let alone use a diffuser or backcomb anything, or paint one nail a different shade to the others,or check that my accessories match my outfit.  Or consider that other people would like to SEE the fruits of my labour.  I actually really like seeing what other people are wearing, it’s escapism, but oh my God, where do people get the motivation to match their outfits, take a photo and post it?  Where are people finding the time, the will and the drive to do this?   If I did #whatiworetoday and actually posted pictures of myself, it would involve mismatched pyjamas at best, poorly fitting leggings at worst, coffee down my top,  a harried expression.  But the people who do it look PUT TOGETHER.  Things match.  And they don’t even have people telling them what to wear.  Respect to them.


Luckily, this is AOW and nesters and crafters and sportspervs and bakers and nerds and wannabe political pundits and all the rest, with or without massive hair and perfect nails and salvage chic can co-exist in harmony,  and meet up and be happy. Just be aware that I will be turning up to said meet-up in pyjamas with bitten nails, refusing to photograph ANYTHING.

Categories: Life Experience, Written By Anna
292 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:07 am | Permalink

    Ok coming back to comment properly later but I just need to very briefly say… Phillipa Gregory is great but nothing on Elizabeth Chadwick. Read The Summer Queen.

    KL x

  2. Claire
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:24 am | Permalink

    Yes!!! I am also bad at nesting, crafting, matching outfits and accessories, taking arty photos and Pinterest scares me. Sometimes I do feel a bit ‘what’s wrong with me?’ and ‘what am I not getting about this that everyone else is?’ But as you said, I’m grateful we can all just be ourselves over on this corner of the Internet and don’t have to pretend. Thanks Anna, this made me laugh x

  3. Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:35 am | Permalink

    Ah now you see I’m going to make a shameful AOW admission – cake. I used to love baking when I was younger and had the time and energy, but now I really cannot be bothered. I love cake, but st this point in my life I love it more when someone else has made it!

    I also don’t get Instagram.

    • Elsie
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:55 am | Permalink

      I think maybe we’d be the perfect cake – combo. I like the baking bit but I’m not a huge cake fan (I know, so very un-AOW!) Maybe I could get my weekly baking fix & work out a way to post you the results without a box of broken, soggy crumbs arriving at yours?!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:31 am | Permalink

      Amy – I can bake and you can Pinterest it. How’s that for a deal?

      (Although to be fair Elsie’s offer is way better – cake without the toil!)

      • Elsie
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:46 am | Permalink

        I’ll vote for the highspeed rail link so any baked goods can reach you by lunchtime with ease!

  4. Becca
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    I love the White Queen and as I constantly have sex in dappled sunlight with crimped hair. Constantly.


    My book review of the White Princess is coming soon on Florence Finds.

    I don’t get Instagram either. Or crafting. The Husband thinks I should get a new hobby such as knitting. Apparently Kate tried it and didn’t get it either. I might give it a whirl. It’s certainly a cheaper hobby than many and I need something to replace the manic holiday planning now I’m covered up to and including June 2015 (work is reaaaalllly bad…..Holidays get me through it).

    I’m not about make up but I do love a good skincare product. My latest us the Oxygen Bliss facial which bubbles on your skin and pumps it full of water so your face looks less wrinkled. Amazeballs. And you have to invest in your skin.

    As for Pinterest. I am an addict. Mainly because I have a tendency to shop grab everything that fits (from when I was fat) and my wardrobe is a mismatch of black and bright colours that oft resemble a bumble bee. Pinterest helps me decide what I like. And tells me what to do.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:33 am | Permalink

      I too love skincare and makeup – didn’t mean for the post to sound like I eschew ALL MATERIAL THINGS because that would be a great untruth! Yes yes yes to spending money on your skin (if you can), it’s important.

      But how can Pinterest tell you what to do? Because you come across something that looks good and you copy? I can see a use for it there, definitely/ But do you have to trawl through loads of pictures you hate before you get to the good stuff?

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:21 am | Permalink

        I use Pinterest sporadically, but mainly when I am trawling the internet and see something I want to try on/buy in real life. It’s just a shopping list with pictures, really, so I am trying to have a break because my credit card trembles when I hit the ‘Pin It’ button…

      • Becca
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:03 am | Permalink

        No. I mainly use the search tool to find “safari clothes” and it comes up with limited stuff. If you googled “kitchens” then you’d find it harder. I also follow a limited number of people – a few photographers that I like and decor people.

  5. Fee
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:50 am | Permalink

    Aside from Instagram (which is worth having just for Clare’s pictures!), this could be me talking.

    I tried with The White Queen. I continue to try with Pinterest. I wish I could craft. My outfits are not photo worthy. I fear all of these things flummox me because of defaults of my own. We are currently decorating and I have spent 3 weeks trying to buy cushions. I’m not good with colour – which is where Pinterest is USEFUL. Maybe I need to use Pinterest for outfits too? Hmmm.

    I don’t like noisy bars/nightclubs (unless cheesy). 99% of the time, I would rather go to a pub where I can sit down and hear what my companion is saying. I would blame age but I’ve been like this since I was 18.

    I also did not enjoy The Wire. And I have a strong dislike for Steve Coogan.

    I feel much better for getting this off my chest.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:57 am | Permalink

      The Wire- me too. Watched the whole first series. Completely over my head.


      • Becca
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:02 am | Permalink

        Rob actually got depressed because the Wire was the best television he’d ever watched and it was over.

        I didn’t understand a bloody word.

        And he has clearly never seen the West Wing.

        • Fee
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:07 am | Permalink

          T LOVED it. Although he ended up watching it on his iPod whilst commuting as I couldn’t tolerate it. Whoops.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:21 am | Permalink

            A loves it as well. Maybe it’s a man thing.

            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:36 am | Permalink

              I didn’t get the West Wing either…


              • Fee
                Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:38 am | Permalink

                We just gave up on the West Wing! This post is like group therapy.

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:43 am | Permalink

                  Brilliant! Last night I was five minutes away from pulling the post because I was convinced the crafters of AOW would ragefully hunt me down and hack into me with knitting needles. Just ask Aisling.

                  The West Wing, I have (shockingly) discovered, does not appeal to everyone. I’ve lent it to some folk who are truly “meh”. I also force-fed people Lionel Schriver’s “Kevin” and quite a few didn’t enjoy it. Life lessons!

                  • Rach M
                    Posted August 9, 2013 at 9:14 am | Permalink

                    I thought it was only me that didn’t get on with the Wire! Moosh is giving it another go. Highly second the recommendation for Firefly! Great stuff. Box sets kept us sorted for telly entertainment when we were in HK. Love them.

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:01 am | Permalink

                  Noooooo The West Wing is AMAZEBALLS. However, D loved The Wire and I was completely lost from the start…..I endured him watching it all twice!

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:12 am | Permalink

                    I am 5 episodes from the end of the West Wing and I predict I will feel like I’ve lost a limb. Loved it! I told one of my teacher friends to read ‘Kevin’ after she told me about the bad kids in her class- maybe not the best recommendation?!

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:49 am | Permalink

                      I honestly felt like i had lost friends when the west wing came to an end. I’m definitely in the LOVE IT camp.

                      Same with the wire although tried to watch it a second time and didn’t quite get into it.

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:04 am | Permalink

                      Lindsay. I had to take a day off work mid way through series 7. I just couldn’t go in. I was so TRAUMATISED.

                    • Amanda M
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:48 am | Permalink

                      I have never seen the West Wing, the Wire, the Hours, Mad Men or any other cult series you could think of. Not really sure how but now the weight of all those box sets exhausts me! I don’t watch a lot of telly really.

                    • Hannah
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:29 pm | Permalink

                      re: West Wing – there’s a “Donna” app available for iOS that gives you appointment info when you shout at it. Excellent stuff.

                    • Kandra
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

                      Never seen the west wing, didnt get The Wire (thought I was the only one!) Also not a fan of the noisy club/pub, would much rather have a good conversation and laughs

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

                      I basically just don’t like any serialised drama. Unless it’s really crap sci fi (heroes, flashforward etc).

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:27 pm | Permalink

                      Amy….have you seen FireFly?

                      We’re now madly into Dexter

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:36 am | Permalink

      I loved the Wire (confession – had to watch it with subtitles) – but it was a slow burner, and not sure I’d have persevered if it hadn’t been for Mr K loving it (and UNDERSTANDING IT ALL. How he understands the intricacies of deals in the projects of Baltimore I will never know).

      Fee – I was in an O’Neills a year or so ago and asked the barman to turn the music down because I couldn’t hear myself think. He refused. “It’s 11pm on a Thursday night”. Oh.

      • Amanda M
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:49 am | Permalink

        I SO AGREE with the noisy bar thing. I do. Not. Get. It. Why would you go out with friends somewhere you can’t talk to them? Or at least, can’t listen to them? Are these people with really dull friends who they really don’t like much?

      • Sarah
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:32 pm | Permalink

        The Wire with subtitles is the best idea ever – this could save my marriage!

        I hate baking. Not really a fan of cake.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:07 am | Permalink

      Liked The Wire (after persevering for a good few episodes – but Mr W definitely enjoyed it more and when I am away for the weekend spends the time watching episode after episode back to back) but couldn’t get into Mad Men. At all. In fact was thinking on my commute this morning that I am clearly not a proper person if I couldn’t enjoy Mad Men, and then thought about trying again (why? If I gave it a chance the first time I’m unlikely to like it this time…)

      Also a big fan of pubs where you can hear yourself think. With seats. Standing up all night is not my idea of a good time…

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:23 am | Permalink

        Yes! Why do people want to go out to places and then spend the evening shouting at their friends? I am glad I am not the only one.
        I also think there is nothing wrong with being in a bar late at night and ordering a cup of tea, but that may just be me. I’m not 80, promise…

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:27 am | Permalink

          Cecily – I went out for dinner with some friends one night, went to a bar afterwards – we all ordered tea, coffee or hot chocolate. I think you and I could be friends…

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:38 am | Permalink

            A confession. This happened on BOTH nights of my hen do. It was perfect.

            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:48 am | Permalink

              My hen do, we went for afternoon tea. I know my strengths… :-)

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:41 am | Permalink

            A good night out at uni for me would start with a hot chocolate (whipped cream and marshmallows, of course) and an apple pie. Everyone would scoff at me, while holding their pints, for ordering such things in a pub…until my order came out. The scoffing would turn to envy

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:42 am | Permalink

          Haa, now THIS is old: I read that and thought ‘but if I had a cup of tea late at night then the caffeine would keep me awake’. And then I thought ‘if it was a good bar they would do decaff coffee’ and calmed down again.

        • Gwen
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:19 pm | Permalink

          Nothing wrong with this. At all. I’m 26 and regularly make excuses to get the last bus home because I don’t want to spend my Sunday (the one day a week I get to spend with my boyfriend) hungover and sore throated.

          • Becca
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:05 pm | Permalink

            Aghhhh….the fact you are OUT and getting the last bus home gets you cool points….

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:26 am | Permalink

      HEH. A wonderful point in my life was realising that no matter how many people think ‘going out clubbing’ is a key part of the weekend, I hate it and actually I don’t have to do it if that’s not how I want to spend my time…

      • Bex - The Ginger Bee
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:37 am | Permalink

        I hate clubs! And bars that are too loud. Amazing I’m not alone! Also hated The Wire! Love West Wing though. And crafting… Sometimes!!! Great post Anna!

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:43 am | Permalink

        I love dancing. I would like to go out and dance to good music more often. However, the music is too loud, you can’t dance and talk because of it being so loud, and it’s always really, really hot. Plus, well, I want to be in bed at a decent time!

        I’m such an old woman.

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:53 am | Permalink

          If someone could open a post work (5-9?) cheesy dancing club that just served tea and cake I would love them forever.

          Actually maybe I should open that…

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:09 am | Permalink

            Oh, yes, yes you should open that! Like an old fashioned dance hall with cheesy music?

            • Liz
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:22 am | Permalink

              This sounds amazing, it needs to happen!

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:23 am | Permalink


                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:59 am | Permalink

                  I would go there and spend a lot of money. Plus I could make cake…

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:08 am | Permalink

                    YES! YES! Please make the cake!

                    And Amy: there would surely be plenty of wall space for frames!

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:39 pm | Permalink

                      Crysta you’re a genius!

          • Sandie
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:04 am | Permalink

            Oh dear Lord, YES.

          • Anita
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:34 pm | Permalink

            YES!!! Yes Amy you should!! Actually in this week’s Time Out I saw an article about a ‘pre work’ morning club with dancing, coffee and juices…

            • Katielase
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:34 pm | Permalink

              PLEASE DO THIS! I would genuinely give up my job to come and help you run this. We could have a book group, and discussion evenings, and karaoke.

              This has to happen.

              KL x

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:39 pm | Permalink

                What KL said. I think this is my new dream.

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

                  Right – who wants to help me with a business plan?

                  • Becca
                    Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:29 pm | Permalink

                    I can be your in house legal team. I want my own office and a vending machine. They’ve run out of Twirls in ours this afternoon. I’m considering quitting.

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

                      I could be vice legal team? We’ll need tea.

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:06 pm | Permalink

                      Frances….you are aiming too low. Tea and shortbread at the very LEAST

                    • Frances
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:10 pm | Permalink

                      I think I would be happy working in your office. Can we have cheese platters on Fridays?

                  • Katielase
                    Posted August 7, 2013 at 5:10 pm | Permalink

                    ME! ME! ME!

                    • Emily
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 5:45 pm | Permalink

                      I work in marketing, for books! I can totally do cakes and dancing too!

                    • Liz
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

                      I can get the planning permission so we are allowed to do it!

      • Emily
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:48 am | Permalink

        Yes! This! In the last year me and my other half have been to a club twice and both times left early because we hated it – being squashed in with so many people, shouting to make ourselves heard and spending extortionate amounts of money on rubbish drinks when all we want is a nice proper beer! Give me a good pub and a group of friends to chat to any day.

      • Amanda M
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:52 am | Permalink

        Yes! I had this revelation one New Year’s Eve when I suddenly realised that I didn’t have to go clubbing just because it was NYE and stayed in and watched When Harry Met Sally on TV instead. People kept saying how sorry they were but it was so much better. Actually, I hate NYE too – it’s the weight of expectation, having to have an amazing time

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:13 am | Permalink

          I hate, hate NYE and if anyone makes me do anything other than stay at home and play board games, I end the night in tears. For some reason, NYE in a club, pub or party makes me think sad thoughts. It’s really hard to explain to people, but I’m actually so much happier just staying at home, even if it’s on my own.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:04 pm | Permalink

            Oh I hate NYE too. The only time I have ever enjoyed it is when I used to work in bar during my uni years and we would go all out and dress up and have loads of fun serving drunk customers. Other than that it sucks, it’s never ever fun! We now stay home pretty much every year, watch a favourite dvd, drink tea and eat loads of cheese and that suits me down to the ground!

            • Hannah
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:26 pm | Permalink

              Ohlawd, what is with NYE? I understand the significance of starting a new year, resolutions, etc., but why would I want to PAY to get into my local pub and then spend the entire evening squished up against sweaty, drunk people?

              A few years ago I had a chest infection over Christmas and NYE and *unfortunately* couldn’t go out. There are photos of me dancing around the flat with the cat. In the background you can see my cup of herbal tea. Possibly the best new year’s eve I’ve ever had.

              • Anita
                Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:35 pm | Permalink

                Another one who hates NYE. So expensive, so crowded, so have to kiss a stranger at midnight. Blech. Last year I stayed in with my dad and watched the fireworks on TV. I’m so rock’n'roll.

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

                I HATE NYE! Shall we have an antiNYE party? It shall comprise of watching box sets and drinking tea.

                • Amanda M
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

                  And cake. Bliss. And I’ll drink all the fizz for the people who don’t like it (noble)

                  • Bex (GingerBee)
                    Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:12 pm | Permalink

                    I hate NYE too!! Yes for not being alone!

                  • Emily
                    Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

                    Another NYE hater here! The only way to do it is stay at home with friends. And cake and fizz! And playing silly games. I’m in!

                    • Gwen
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:21 pm | Permalink

                      And here. Also hate it. I was quite glad in a way when I managed to get tonsillitis this year…

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:31 pm | Permalink

                      I’ve not been out for NYE in over 12 years **smug face**.

                      Often I’m in bed for 10.30pm. ON PRINCIPLE.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:37 pm | Permalink

            Ahh, NYE! Yes! I’ve done the watching fireworks on the banks of the Thames and I’m glad I have, but I wouldn’t do it again. NYE is much better spent at home with crisps and normally priced drinks and space to move…

            • Anita
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:34 pm | Permalink

              You know, we should totally have an AOW anti-NYE party…

          • Fran M
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 5:06 pm | Permalink

            I totally get that! NYE is too much pressure for me. I like feeling snuggled up inside – every NYE night out has ended badly for me!

            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 6:13 pm | Permalink

              I also hate NYE! It;s the day after my birthday and no-one ever wants to come out the day before! (I often have a crappy birthday too – only had 3 really good ones that I remember!) NYE is always rubbish and I’d much prefer to stay in. My favourite NYEs were when I was young and we’d get to stay up late and we all played trivial pursuit and my Dad would let me drink Baileys! :)

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:47 pm | Permalink

                And what about last NYE?!? ;)

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

                  I’m also so over NYE! Why is it though when you don’t want to do anything everyone thinks you are a bore?!

              • Rach M
                Posted August 9, 2013 at 9:17 am | Permalink

                I feel for you Bex – Moosh’s birthday is New Year’s Day and it’s always rubbish. No one is around, if they are they are all hungover. It is usually raining and gloomy. Boo. It’s my mission to make them better for him x

    • Sarah
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:28 pm | Permalink

      The Wire – Yes! We watched the first 5 episodes, concentrating hard to pretend we got it, like ‘everyone’ else. Nope, didn’t work. I’ve said that one day I’ll return and give it another shot. Not feeling so bad if I don’t now!

  6. Elsie
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:52 am | Permalink

    There’s so much I don’t get & now I’m trying to think of them I can’t remember them…
    I don’t get selfies. Not the WIWT type, I LOVE seeing what outfits people are wearing, the way they have put together an outfit or what accessories they have chosen but the kind of selfie close up pout thing makes no sense to me whatsoever. I’d be very similar to Anna if I posted my outfits on instagram & things, with maybe an extra added dose of bag lady/scarecrow thrown in for good measure!

  7. Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:53 am | Permalink

    Sadly, my #whatiworetoday or #ootd all too often involve food stained tops and a pair of jeans that start the day tight but by night fall are coming to rest somewhere half way down my arse.

    Pinterest – I need to be in the mood for it, sometimes I feel all inspired and pin lots, others I feel a bit meh about it all and can’t really see the point. Fickle, me.

    Instagram I love – I use it like Facebook but with pictures rather than ‘status updates’. It can instill feelings of inadequacy though as I never have artfully angled G&T’s *sobsintoglassofmilk* Some instagrammers post beautiful pictures that otherwise you would never get to see, and it’s easier to use than Flickr.

    As for crafting…..well, I attempted to make padded hearts for Christmas decorations. It all seemed so simple, but by the end there had been both tears and blood shed. Never again. If I need anything that is crafted/home made/vintage, then are lots of talented women out there that I can call on to save the affront to sewing that I am. I can knit though. Sort of.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:17 am | Permalink

      I think Pinterest is utterly pointless unless there’s a reason you’re pinning – it was invaluable for me for wedding planning, and I am now moved on to future house / dream holidays planning / escapism. I’m not very good with the outfit thing though because more often than not I don’t really care what I wear.

      • Becca
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:26 am | Permalink

        Yes. This. Wanderlust.

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:39 am | Permalink

        Agreed. I find Pinterest a real ballache to use and am not a natural pinner, but for planning interiors or anything with a few visual elements like a wedding or a special outfit I have found it really useful.


      • Abi
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:12 pm | Permalink

        yes this… occassionally do outfit planning,… then realise that those clothes do not suit bums and boobs… Love it for Holiday & Day Dreaming. My friend does loads of fitspo shit which I absolutely fucking cannot stand!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:39 am | Permalink

      The thought of tears and blood being shed over crafting hearts made me laugh!

      I’m so glad other people wear crap clothes as well. I look at some bloggers and just think “what gene am I missing?”

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:40 am | Permalink

      The thought of blood being shed over crafting hearts made me laugh!

      I’m so glad I’m not the only person who wears clothes for functionality. I look (in awe) at some bloggers and wonder what gene I am missing.

      • Katielase
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:07 am | Permalink

        I can so identify with the blood and tears over the hearts. I rashly decided to handmake our wedding invites…. 5 minutes in I had glue in my eyebrow and was calling my Mum to beg her and my sister and cousin to come and save me from myself.

        KL x

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:28 am | Permalink

          Yes yes yes! I used to try to make stuff. In my mind I would have an image of some beautiful hand-crafted object, but sadly the finished (or more-likely half-finished) object would inevitably be comparable to a nursery child’s effort. Seriously frustrating if you are something of a perfectionist. Now I just buy stuff from talented people – much easier.

        • Abi
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:13 pm | Permalink

          I bought some ‘shit’ from hobbycraft… then realised my talents lie in digital invites, printed and folded by SOMEONE ELSE!

  8. Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:20 am | Permalink

    I would like to take this moment to say I hated The Night Circus. I didn’t get it and I thought it loved itself a bit too much and was just trying to be clever.

    Also I don’t really like to do much except sit at home and watch TV or go to the pub.
    So what? As long as I’m happy.

    Also to anyone who thinks they are odd for what they like or don’t like – my husband hates going on holiday. I will leave you with that thought!!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:23 am | Permalink

      Oh and I didn’t understand a word of The West Wing so gave up after 10 episodes.
      Phew that feels good to get off my chest!

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:41 am | Permalink

        Yes to the Night Circus too! Did. Not. Get. I’m also reading Divergent at the moment and praying for it to end so I can read something I actually enjoy. Because obviously I can’t leave a book half finished.


        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:44 am | Permalink

          Do you know what – I thought Divergent was a GREAT premise, and loved the first half of the first book, and then the rest of it made me want to sink myself into boiling water.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:46 am | Permalink

            I thought Divergent was okay. Not good enough to make me want to read the other two though.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:09 am | Permalink

            The first half was definitely better. I think I actually enjoyed the aptitude testy bits. But the main characters are so worthy and bland…is it an American YA thing?


            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:34 pm | Permalink

              Oh for sure. A lot of American YA I’ve read the characters are all too “holier than thou” for my liking.

  9. Anita
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:24 am | Permalink

    This post made me laugh- Anna, I am not suggesting you follow me on Instagram (far from it), but my Instagram often DOES contain pictures of my commute (I’m just lucky that I walk to work, so often my commute happens to have nice views in it – which I then take messy pictures of). Am also not convinced on Pinterest- I have an account, I do pin things, but I never ever go back and look at what I’ve pinned….

    I don’t get twitter. Having resisted for years, I am now on it (mainly because it seemed the only way to keep up with the plans for AOW Race for life) but I don’t like it. I find the feed thingy really confusing and I hate how it ends up replying to lots of random people often without you realising. And I hate the IMMEDIACY of it. If you post at midnight and no one sees it then your tweet is lost in an abyss, as if it never happened. I like email. Emails wait in your inbox and demand a reply.

    And I never get ANYTHING anyone else is raving about on TV. I’m not being funny but how do people remember when a series is on to keep up with it? Do you put it in your diary? I love hearing people animatedly discuss characters but I can never keep up with a series long enough to know anything about it! With the exception of the Apprentice. That I can do.

    I miss you Anna K. Can we meet up soon?

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:46 am | Permalink

      Of course we can meet up! I miss you too! I’ll send you an email.

      Really interesting what you say about Twitter. I too feel lost in it sometimes. I’ve found if I keep the people I follow to an absolute minimum, and strictly only to thse I genuinely like and inspire me, I find it less shouty and more tolerable.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:53 am | Permalink

      This is the EXACT reason I cannot deal with TV programmes, Anita. I always always always forget they’re on, and then forget to iplayer/catch up, and end up weeks behind. It’s odd because I’m usually a very organised person!

      KL x

      • Anita
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

        YES KL!!!! And whenever I say to people that I can’t keep up with a series they always say ‘watch it on iplayer’ etc. But WHY would you watch TV on your computer?! I obviously just don’t get it at all.

  10. Mahj
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:32 am | Permalink

    Laughing pretty hard at this. Thanks K!

    The White Queen – I stuck with this and now I have 7+ weeks of my life that I’ll never get back. That and one of the characters Never Changes Her Dress. Seriously, she’s been wearing the same dark green for what has been the last 10 years in the show.

    Instagram I used to use but when it all changed and it asked me to make an a/c I just clicked off it. Seemed too much like hard work for me.

    Pinterest – Oliver Dragonfly Bex showed me how to use this. I then spent the next hour pinning celebrity dress porn and recipes with cheese. And i haven’t used it since.

    I also seem to be missing the crafting gene so would prob end up sticking myself to some furniture with the glue gun!


    PS. Big up to the sportspervs!
    PPS. I also don’t get Steve Coogan but may have to sit through his new film as Martin wants to watch it. Ack.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:47 am | Permalink

      Oliver dragonfly. Tee hee :P (Bex, your new nickname is now Oliver).

      Yes – Steve Coogan WHAT?! Ditto here Ali G and all the horrific ‘reality TV’ a la Made in Chelsea etc. *brain cells melting*


      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:18 pm | Permalink

        haha, she already calls me greeny! :)

  11. Katie
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:40 am | Permalink

    Anna, I agree with you on all the above, except nesting, I love it. I’m far too lazy for Pinterest and Instagram, but nesting, the results are tangible and living in a nice home makes me happy. I don’t like clutter though (I include a zillion cushions and ornaments as clutter), nesting stuff needs to be useful or beautiful (artwork).

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:48 am | Permalink

      Absolutely agree on living in a beautiful home…I often berate myself for not making the most of the space I have. I just cannot dredge up the will.

      I think the secret for me is going to be…hire a nester!

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:19 pm | Permalink

        me, me, pick me! I will nest for cake! ;)

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:57 pm | Permalink

          Me too! But I will just put frames everywhere!

  12. Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:44 am | Permalink

    My crafting is at the level of an 8 year old. That’s why I’m a Brownie leader, people, I can’t be too badly humiliated.

    Pinterest I also tried and failed. I’m basically a horribly uncreative and un-visual person. I think I have the opposite of synesthesia… I don’t picture things in my head. Words make more sense.

    this to me is the AOW venn diagram thing. It’s ok not to be in those bits. We have our own bits.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:20 pm | Permalink

      Perfectly put with the Venn diagram thing!

  13. Elsie
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:45 am | Permalink

    Smoothies. The world of twitter and blogging loves them, I just do not get them.

    Does mushing the fruit up make the fruit more nutritious? That’s a genuine question – does something happen in the mushing process & drinking the fruit is more beneficial that just eating the fruit? Otherwise I just don’t get why you would take a perfectly tasty and lovely juicy strawberry & mix it up with other fruits into a mush & drink it. Why not just make a fruit salad and enjoy that instead? I was going to ask Katielase that as a real molecular circus question but it seemed a bit silly so I’ll embarras myself & publicise it here instead.

    • Fee
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:50 am | Permalink

      I’m with you. And why do they always taste of banana even if there isn’t a banana in them?

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

        This! Exactly this! I hate banana flavouring (although I love the fruit) and even when you buy one that says no banana, they still taste of bananas! So annoying.

        • Gemma N
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:02 pm | Permalink

          yes, this. I actually HATE bananas. In fact it’s more like a phobia, I can’t stand being near them once they have their skin opened. So I check all bought smoothies and fruit juices very carefully, and most smoothies will have banana featured somewhere in the ingredients list!

          I only have homemade smoothies. And only when my husband makes them. too much faff to do myself!

          • Amanda M
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:36 pm | Permalink

            I’m a banana hater too – they make me heave. Even the smell …Ugh.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:54 am | Permalink

      I wish you had emailed me this question, it would have made my DAY. Or week, probably.

      I’m so totally doing the science of smoothies for you now.

      KL x

      • Elsie
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:08 am | Permalink

        Ohhhhh sorry I worried it was not actually scientific enough, too obvious & me being a food-dick.
        If I am wrong & smoothies are better than eating fruit I will eat my words & make a mushed up glass of nutrition.
        Then I’ll instagram it ;)

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:16 am | Permalink

        Take this with a pinch of salt before KL does the proper science on this, but I was told (at Slimming World, so it must be true) that smoothies are worse for you than eating the fruit – all the fibre gets broken down and the sugar is easier to absorb more quickly. And they do always taste of banana, regardless of ingredients.

        I quite like mushing up strawberries with strawberry frozen yogurt, but I think that’s actually a milkshake not a smoothie and is an excuse to eat frozen yogurt whilst pretending to Mr W that it’s something REALLY HEALTHY and FULL OF FRUIT (NB I haven’t told him the above paragraph)

        • Katielase
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:25 am | Permalink

          I have actually heard that as well Katy, but I am definitely going to research further to double check. In that case, Elsie, you will be totally vindicated :-p

          KL x

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:00 am | Permalink

      Smoothies make me want to vom.

  14. Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:45 am | Permalink

    He he – this is a fantastic Wednesday morning post. Made me chuckle :)

    The White Queen – never watched, doubt I will. Also on the same lines at the West Wing (don’t get it). I’ll stick to Countryfile I think.

    I do Pinterest/Instagram, mainly through procrastination more than anything. Have been unfollowing people on it regularly recently as pictures/pins are able to fill me with All The Shame and feelings of ‘why am I even on the internets?’.

    I do not do make up. Or fingernail polish. I just can’t and as these things are on view I’ll save you all the need to see what happens when I attempt to! Toe nail polish I’m all for, though there’s probably more on my toes than the nails…

    Other things I also don’t get: prosecco/fizz, how the #whatIwore-ers look so amazing all.the.time., Facebook (makes me want to stab people I actually know), Google+ (I have no idea what this is even for), The Kooples. Actually I could actually go on and on here!

    I love that AOW doesn’t care what you get or what you don’t, life would be very boring if everyone loved everything!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:22 am | Permalink

      I don’t like champagne or most sparkling wines. I try. I’ve tried cheap, I’ve tried expensive, and they all taste just as bad to me. I like the bubbles aspect, but that’s all. I don’t get Google+. I feel like I could if I made the effort. Facebook: I’ve whittled down my feed to people I want to speak to/family members who’d get offended if I “unfriend” them. I then proceed to ignore most of my feed.

      What is the Kooples?

      • Fee
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:39 am | Permalink

        I dislike The Kooples too (we’re talking about the clothes shop right?) – I’m unsure why but it’s possibly because all the clothes look the same and a hat costs about£80.

        • Becca
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:08 am | Permalink

          Yes this. I basically shop in M & S and John Lewis and if I can’t get it from either shop, I don’t need it.

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:14 am | Permalink

          And all the models look like COMPLETE KNOBBERS.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:32 am | Permalink

            Even the name is wanky.

            • gemma c-s
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:24 am | Permalink

              I really like the Kooples, and in the final season of the Wire I thought the people were real and I cried floods.
              But I can’t bake for sh*t, like Rachel further down, neither R nor I can ski and we’re not interested at all, and for the love of GOD can someone explain Southcliff to me – and while you’re at it tell me why two of the main characters look the same.
              Also, and I may get banned from AOW after this but WHAT IS ALL THE FUSS OVER RYAN GOSLING??

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:30 am | Permalink

                I like the Kooples! *waves flag* however I am a self confessed hipsterphile. I could never actually afford to buy anything from there but clothes + slick marketing= ace.


              • Amanda M
                Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:10 pm | Permalink

                Yep, don’t get Ryan Gosling either. Meh. Or Bradley Cooper, who, as I pointed out, looks like Barry Mannilow.

                • Gwen
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:23 pm | Permalink

                  Oh! Yes! Yes he does!

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:11 pm | Permalink

                I’ll take Gosling, you can take The Kooples. I don’t often fancy Hollywood folk, find them too flashy, but the Gosling actually makes me feel like a 14-year-old.

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:20 pm | Permalink

                  Gosling featured naked heavily at my hen on my request (life size cut-out, hello).

                • Amanda M
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:21 pm | Permalink

                  I am emphatically not cool enough for The Kooples – but you can have RG for free.

                • gemma c-s
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:27 pm | Permalink

                  BUT WHY?? Is it just because of the memes?

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:10 pm | Permalink

                    No! it’s because I just, plain, fancy him. Plain and simple. In the same way Aisling fancies Prince Harry and that one from McFly. We all have people we inexplicably fancy – he’s mine.

                    It’s nothing to do with the feminist Ryan Gosling stuff – which is great – but it could be Feminist Jonny Depp and it wouldn’t make me fancy the Depp.

                    • Johnny Depp
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:30 pm | Permalink


                    • Katielase
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:45 pm | Permalink

                      My confession: I have never, in my whole life, fancied someone purely for their physical looks. I can appreciate physical attractiveness objectively, but I have never had that 14-year-old fluttery feeling for someone just because they look good. I was a shit 14 year old.

                      KL x

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:50 pm | Permalink

                    I didn’t get it until I saw THAT kiss. And then I got it. I didn’t even know about the meme until long after.

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:10 pm | Permalink

                      What on earth is a meme? And how do you pronounce it?

                    • Gemma N
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:06 pm | Permalink

                      KL – I am the same! In fact I used to pretend I fancied people when I was 14, just to try and fit in, but never really got it.
                      And I always struggle if people talk about who would be on the ‘freebie’ list (like in friends). I thought I was completely abnormal. Thank you for confessing. :)

                    • Katielase
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 5:17 pm | Permalink

                      Gemma, THANK YOU so much for that comment. I always thought I was a bit deficient, and as a teenager assumed that it meant I was broken in some way. I definitely made up crushes as a teenager to feel normal! It’s not that I don’t experience lust or attraction, I do, it’s just that for me the physical thing isn’t what drives that. I think I’m really just too much of a nerd for words!

                      KL x

                • Abi
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

                  Me Too! I have a huge proper young girl crush on him

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

                    Oh I had the young crushes but they were weirder than ‘the usual’ – I was properly obsessed with Atreyu in Never Ending Story! Anyone?? Just me probably. *side to side glances and keeps quiet*

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:31 pm | Permalink

                      Also, I’m with the non-Ryan G camp – his eyes are way too close together!

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:41 pm | Permalink

                      Yes! I had a crush on Atreyu when I was younger, too. Although my first crush was the brought back to life Casper in the film with Christina Ricci.

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:08 pm | Permalink


                      Me too.

                      Him and Toby Anstis. Who my friend Grace once followed around London on a Boris Bike.

  15. Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:47 am | Permalink

    I’m back… you know I’m the same as you Anna, in some of these. I cannot Instagram, for instance, I know I have no artistic flair whatsoever. And the blurry shafted sunlight…nope, I cannot do that. A lot of these though, crafting and nesting in particular, I would love to be able to do but I just… can’t. I’m the worst person in the WORLD with glue, knitting makes me rage, and I just can’t style a home anymore than I can style a photo, or myself. I know what it WANTS to look like but I don’t know how to make that become real. And then I get fed up, and eat a biscuit. I would love to be that stylish girl, but instead I’m the nerd with a messy home and messy outfits, and biscuits crumbs all over. Meh.

    The main thing that I see more and more often and cannot comprehend is photographing food before you eat it. On many ocassions now, I’ve been out for dinner, three hefty mouthfuls into my food, makinh loud appreciative groaning noises, only to look around and notice that everyone else is artfully documenting their dinner, while I’m gracelessly scoffing mine. Am I missing out on something? I keep taking photos of half-eaten food in order to seem normal. IS this normal?!

    Other things I don’t get: The Apprentice (they’re all mega knobs, why would I choose to spend time with them, even remotely via a TV screen?), F1 (I will never ever get this, they’re cars…driving…fast…nope), and spending more than £5 on any make-up product ever (that money can go on books or food, enough said).

    KL x

    • Fee
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:54 am | Permalink

      I like taking photos of food sometimes so I can flick through and decide where to go for dinner. I realise this sounds odd.

      Or I take pictures of delicious dinner to send to T if he’s working late to make him jealous. I’m kind like that.

      • Katielase
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:05 am | Permalink

        I would so take photos of food if I ever paused long enough before inhaling it, because it’d be very useful to remember what I ate and where!

        I have in the past photographed a baked ham to send a picture to G to make him jealous (the man loves ham)

        KL x

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:36 am | Permalink

          If someone puts a plate of food in front of me, my immediate reaction is EAT. Not photograph. In fact, I just don’t get the obsession with photographing everything all the time. Why do people want to view everything through the screen of their iPhone rather than with their eyes? And what do you do with all the photos anyway?

          Phew – I have reached the bottom of the comments, I can stop my random replies (rants?) now…

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:58 pm | Permalink

            I occasionally use photos as inspiration. But, er, I am a cooking geek.

        • Gemma N
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:09 pm | Permalink

          There is actually a tumblr called ‘pictures of hipsters taking pictures of food’, which amused me when I saw it. I don’t get that either. I have occasionally, and usually when on holiday, taken photos of immense puddings or cakes. But usually with me or husband tucking into said cake to show how greedy we are, not just a photo of the food!

      • Amanda M
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:01 pm | Permalink

        Tragically I sometimes take photos of food so later I can go back and dream about it with a visual aid. So kind of like food porn. Oh dear, maybe I need help.

    • Elsie
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:57 am | Permalink

      Oh jeez I can not stand the apprentice.

      This Wednesday post is awesome. Who doesn’t love a moan about things they don’t get.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:36 am | Permalink

      The Apprentice is awful but it’s my guilty TV pleasure (no, I don’t understand why either) -probably because with everything else, I never seem to know it’s on anyway so the apprentice is all I’m left with…

      • Anita
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:54 pm | Permalink

        Me too Frances!! Exactly this!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:55 am | Permalink

      Yes the apprentice….. never got that. or madmen! I don’t even know what this White Queen thing is.

      I have been sucked into this taking pictures of food thing and Rod laughed at me and called me pretentious so I stopped!! xox

  16. Mahj
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:37 am | Permalink

    I would also like to buy more things to make my house look nice but this money often ends up being spent on clothes/bags/shoes/food/cheese for me. At least I’ll be well-fed and clothed…

    Also I am guilty of taking photos of my food. Mainly so I can show people what I ate. Because that’s how I roll!


    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:40 am | Permalink

      I like that cheese is a separate category to food – shows its true importance.

      K x

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:56 pm | Permalink

        I was thinking reading this that I take pictures of food because I like to blog about it and I love to blog with pictures but then I realised I did this even before I blogged – I just used to put them all on facebook! Worrying. In fact, now I think about it Nik’s brother even mentioned that in his speech at our wedding – in reference to Nik’s preference for pudding and that if anyone had seen my facebook they knew he’d be safe with me! Haha!

  17. Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:38 am | Permalink

    I like this post!

    When I first got my phone-that-actually-did-something-other-than-phone-and-text, I downloaded Instagram because I thought it was a good way of making pictures look pretty (well, actually, I thought it was an easy way of airbrushing pics of me). When I found out that it kept making me try and have an account and publish the pictures, I stopped using it – didn’t like the idea of it for some reason. There are other photo apps that do the same sort of thing but don’t publish them, if you still like the idea of artfully shot G&Ts…

    Watched 10 minutes of The White Queen, gave up (where would they have found hair crimpers in 14something?) and watched The Returned instead. Which was totally bonkers but great.

    Am trying out Pinterest at the moment but am a bit half hearted with it and we shall see whether it actually makes a blind bit of difference to the house (planning some room stuff). I can see how it would have been fantastic for when I was wedding planning though – I resorted to cutting and pasting photos into a word document when I was trying to explain to people how I wanted my hair/flowers/table arrangements etc, so Pinterest would have been much more useful then. I sort of get the feeling that there’s something I’m missing about it though, or that I’m not doing it properly. Hey ho.

    Also: hate The Apprentice, X Factor, The Voice, Britain’s Got Talent, TOWIE, Made in Chelsea, etc etc – which means that there’s vast swathes of facebook and twitter that completely pass me by. I think I can live with that, though.

    If I did a What I Wore Today it would be a very boring rota of black trousers, top, black cardigan. Or occasionally, black trousers, black top, different coloured cardigan. I know how to shake things up, style-wise…

    K x

  18. Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:40 am | Permalink

    I don’t get instagram. Then again, I don’t get taking pictures with my phone. Yes, so fine it has x megapixels, but, well, I have this big camera that takes beautiful pictures, that isn’t that much effort to lug around. Plus everyone else takes such gorgeous shots of things with their phones. I’m just left unsatisfied with my pathetic attempts.

    The White Queen: I watched episode 1, spent most of the time making sarcastic comments about it. I have all the other episodes on Iplayer and am tempted to give it another go. I want to like it, but I don’t think I will.

    Ok, I’m a big nester. I always have been. This doesn’t mean I’m good at it. I’m terrified that in doing up our new flat I’m going to discover I have no style or taste. I also have to deal with a man who buys bright red sheets that don’t go with any of our duvet covers and wants a bright orange desk chair. As for crafting: I didn’t get it until 3 years ago. The first thing I tried to knit was a scarf, which was a failure, I took three years to do a cross stitch picture and any cards I made looked like a 5 year old had done it (looked terrible, but you could tell it had been made with love). Somehow, for someone with a lack of patience, I persevered and apparently I can make things that look like things. Not completely like the things should look, but sort of, kind of like they should. And the people I give these ‘creations’ to seem to like them.

    I also don’t get the whole #whatIworetoday thing. I mean, I love looking at people’s beautifully put together outfits. But I don’t get how they do that every single day. I always THINK about doing my hair and makeup, then remember I like to sleep, and I’ll end up looking like I was dragged through a hedge backwards by the time I get to work, no matter what. I feel like I’m missing an essential gene or something. I’d like to look put together and matching, but I don’t quite know how. I think I need a personal stylist…

  19. Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:46 am | Permalink

    This post and comments really made me laugh!

    Outit photos I’m afraid I just don’t get – in my world mornings don’t include remembering to take photos of my shoes. Although I wear the same black pumps to commute in every day so it’s not like anyone’s missing out luckily…

    I find crafting quite therapeutic, I’m just not that good at it. I know to stick to baking if I want to make something other people won’t run away from.

    Books by Dan Brown. I don’t get them. They are truly awful and I can’t work out how they got published. Anyone care to enlighten me?

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:03 am | Permalink

      I read Da Vinci code to see what the fuss was about and it made me so angry. His writing is just so awful, but, credit where it’s due, he knows how to keep a reader hooked so I had to finish the damn thing. Needless to say the copy went straight to Oxfam the moment I’d finished it.

  20. rachel JHD
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:51 am | Permalink

    Following on the book theme – Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, Divergent & all the other such like, so disinterested that I lump them all together even though probably quite different. Never read & not even picked up in a bookshop to read the back cover.
    Oh and adding skiing to things I don’t understand. Why spend loads of money to get cold, get up early & do all the exercise? Think I’d like the après part. I was so pleased when I discovered Warmth didn’t like skiing.
    The Pinterest discussion has made me think about what I pin & why hmmm

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:17 am | Permalink

      Rachel, your comments about skiing made me weep laughing. I’ve never been skiing for exactly these reasons. However skiing MUST be brilliant because so many people swear by it and the adrenaline rush.

      But then I get an adrenaline rush looking at a bacon sandwich…

      • deltafoxtrotcharlie
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:18 am | Permalink

        ski-ing is nothing like exercise, believe me, because if it was, I NEVER would have tried it And you don’t have to get up early if you don’t want to (which I never do)

        • Yanthé
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:55 am | Permalink

          I was told by my ex-housemate that I MUST learnt to ski ‘it’s a life skill dahling’. Er, no ta.

          • Fee
            Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:13 am | Permalink

            I love ski-ing despite being rather lazy. The actual ski-ing is marvellously exhilarating but the hot chocolate, hot whiskey and hot tubs make it a great holiday!

            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:34 pm | Permalink

              I went on my first skiing holiday in January . My husband had no interest in skiing so I went with friends. Luckily most of us (apart from 2 crazies!) were of the opinion that it was a holiday with skiing. Hence late starts, days off skiing, copious amounts of waffles, hot chocolate, cheese and hot wine. I feel like I did skiing for lazy people and it was ace!

              • Anita
                Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

                Oh yeah, skiing -absolutely no. I have tried twice, in France as a teenager and in NZ as an adult. No. Cold, scary, horrible. There are so many amazing things you can do in the world, why would you waste precious holiday time on this??!

                • Emily
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:28 pm | Permalink

                  I am trying so hard to like skiing as I have ended up with a man who is obsessed! He has been skiing since age 3 and is determined for me to like it. My first trip ended badly when I injured myself tobogganing (not even skiing!). I’m willing to give it one more go but suspect I’m more of an apres ski, cake, mulled wine and mountains of food kind of person…

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:22 am | Permalink

      Oh my god HARRY POTTER – yes! Cannot see the fuss at all. It’s the only fiction I’ve ever seen my husband voluntarily read and this depresses me hugely. I love the idea of skiing but going backwards down the nursery slope with my arse in the air and my hands clawing the ground aged 10 has totally put me off.


      • Liz
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:12 pm | Permalink

        You know what book I did not get – Atonement. What a swizz, I read the whole damn thing not liking it and then felt completely cheated at the end!

        • Katielase
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:31 pm | Permalink

          Oh God, if we’re allowed to start on books that we didn’t get then… I terrified to admit this because I know it makes me sound like I have no literary appreciation (oh wait, I don’t…) but… everything by Hilary Mantel reads like pretentious twaddle to me. All her books seem as if she ingested the criteria for Critical Acclaim and A Literary Award and then spat them out all over the page. I feel like she wrote to win prizes, rather than writing to tell a story, and it makes me very sad, and grumpy. I had to put A Place of Greater Safety down, I just couldn’t keep doing it to myself.

          KL x

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:34 pm | Permalink

          I didn’t get Atonement either. I’ve actually got the DVD from my mum to watch, just to see if I missed something amazing, but I doubt it!

  21. deltafoxtrotcharlie
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:17 am | Permalink

    I totally just wasted half an hour reading ALL the comments on here and laughing (quietly under my breath – stupid work)

    I tried pinteresting (ugh), I really did, but I just can’t be bothered, even for wedding planning (which I pretty much also can’t be bothered with!).

    I do have to admit to loving instagram, though, mostly because my 18 year old sister puts hilarious photos on there (you know, the ones with a million hashtags of her pouting into the camera) and my 33 year old sister puts photos of my nephew and my 30 year old sister puts photos of her dogs and glamorous lifestyle in LA (yes, I have a lot of sisters, that’s not even all of them).

    Most oddly of all (whispers) I don’t have a TV. Well… I do own one but we don’t have it set up for anything but netflix (consequently am now addicted to Orange is the new Black) which is great because I miss all the shit that’s on.

    There are many other things I don;t like but I really ought to get on with some work

    DFC x

    PS The Kooples??? – glad it’s not just me

    • Emily
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:34 am | Permalink

      I love Orange is the New Black! We watched the whole series in about a week and now don’t know what to do!

      • deltafoxtrotcharlie
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:50 am | Permalink

        Hurrah! I’m so glad its not just me :)

        We’re up to episode 9, I’m rationing us (even though the temptation to binge on it is almost overwhelming!)

  22. Emily
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:24 am | Permalink

    This is just brilliant Anna. I’ve been reading through it nodding along to so many of the comments. If I look at Pinterest or Instagram feeds I just start to feel inadequate and wonder how on earth people have time for all this stuff! It’s all I can do to get home after work, find some dinner and make sure the flat doesn’t look like a tornado went through it! And as for the mornings and outfits? I don’t think anyone would want to see a photo and there is never any make up or hair drying (let alone styling) involved!

    Other things I don’t get – clubbing, crafting (I always start believing I can do it and then get upset when it doesn’t work), TOWIE and MIC, Twilight…

  23. Liz
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:38 am | Permalink

    This is all hilarious!

    The White Queen – I love historical drama type thingys, but seriously I had given up on it within 15minutes. Dire

    I’m definitely of the nesting and planning interiors persuasion but I have no interest in creating mood boards of it by any medium – I just, you know, remember things in my head like back in the olden days!

  24. Yanthé
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:54 am | Permalink

    Phew! Thought I’d have a quick read of AOW with a cuppa after a marathon phone call and said cuppa has gone cold.

    First – BRILLIANT post Anna! I adore this sort of honesty. Here’s my two pence worth…

    Instagram – I’m on there, I try with it, but mostly I use it to look at what other people are posting and make myself feel bad about how un-stylish I am/not glam my life is/my inability to paint my nails

    White Queen – Loved the first few, it has gone a bit downhill from there but I’ve carried on watching. I haven’t read the books and don’t know much about that area of our history so thought I might learn something… hmmm Thought the Real White Queen (or whatever the title was) with actual Philippa Gregory narrating was very good and far more educational.

    Pinterest – see Instagram

    Nesting/Crafting – I love the idea of nesting, and I reckon I’ve managed it ok with our tiny one bedroom flat, but I’m not sure I could extend it much beyond that. Sorry possible future children, the walls of your nursery will most likely not be covered in Farrow and Ball and I doubt very much there will be any ‘art’ on them either. I am a terrible crafter. One of my bridesmaids and I were given tickets to Etsy’s UK launch and thought we’d go along for the free cocktail (which was rather nice actually) but turned up and found it was just tables full of people learning how to make pom poms. We had a go, thinking we ought to earn said free cocktail, but my attempt was beyond awful. No DIY wedding for us. I also tried knitting, having been given a starter kit by the future MIL last Christmas. I lasted 2 days before I gave up trying.

    WIWT – Same. Adore what other people are wearing but cannot fathom how they look that amazing every day. Or how they have the money to keep buying new clothes. I buy something new probably once every couple of months MAX. I hate clothes shopping – I manage 5 minutes in one shop and generally either I don’t find what I’m looking for or have tried something on and decided I am HUGE and am out of there. I cannot ‘browse’.

    Big Hair/Nail Art/Etc. – Where do people find the time to practice this stuff?! I can’t even teach myself to curl my hair; just do not have the patience.

    Steve Coogan – CANNOT STAND HIM

    Reality TV – Bleugh. No thanks. We found out post booking our wedding venue that it is regularly featured on Made In Chelsea. If we had known that before booking it would probably have made us re-think!

    This is definitely my longest AOW comment ever and I now feel LOADS better.

    See Anna K – this post was necessary for the sanity of AOWers everywhere.

    • Yanthé
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:57 am | Permalink

      Forgot the most important point. I adore the West Wing. Have seen the whole thing 3 times.

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

        I think I’ve found my people, I’m just rewatching the West Wing now for the third time and I once flew to London from Nice just to meet Richard Schiff (Toby Ziegler) It was absolutely worth it :)

        • Yanthé
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:52 pm | Permalink


          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:13 pm | Permalink

            I made a similar noise on reading that comment. Toby is my all-time top TV character. Except, in my head, he’s real.

            • Gemma N
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:12 pm | Permalink

              Sssh. He is real. And so is Jed. Don’t tell me otherwise.

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:24 pm | Permalink

            I did!! And I have a photo with him, it’s on my FB !! :) He was soooo nice and so cool with my friend and I who were completely geeking out over meeting him!! Best night ever although it took me everything I had not to call him Toby to his face :)

            • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:23 pm | Permalink

              That’s amazing! I’m now a tad jealous of you, I’d love to meet Richard Schiff, although I would worry I’d call him Toby…

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:37 pm | Permalink

                He did say it happened all the time and he was pretty used to it so even if it slipped out, I’m sure you’d be fine!

                • Gemma N
                  Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:13 pm | Permalink

                  Can’t believe you met TOBY!! Think I would go to pieces and be unable to speak if I met any of the WW cast!

                  • Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:25 pm | Permalink

                    I know! I was so excited, I couldn’t speak for the first couple of seconds but he was chatting away to us as if we were old friends and that definitely helped! He is really down to earth and friendly, my friend who was with me is Scottish and he’d just been up in Scotland filming so was telling her all about his stay and how much he loved her accent.
                    However, I did also meet Allison Janney (CJ Cregg) a few years ago and that time I completely went to pieces. She is my absolute favourite actress of all-time ever and I could barely breathe let alone string 2 words together to ask her for an autograph!!

                    • Becca
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

                      My friend named her cat Lyman. I think had her daughter been a girl it would been CJ and she has a signed photo of Josh Lyman on her bedside table…its in all her wedding photos and its the first thing she would pick up in a fire. Above her husband and cat I think.

                    • Gemma N
                      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

                      Toby and CJ???!!!!

                      Beyond Jealous!

                    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 7:44 pm | Permalink

                      Oh, WOW! Green eyed with jealousy now! CJ too?

  25. Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:00 am | Permalink

    Ha I love this post and all the brilliant comments – I agree with so many of them!

    I have to admit that I’m a bit of an instagram and pinterest addict (although my photos can be summed up as babies, food, cats). I have a board on pinterest for crafty and DIY things that I love the idea of doing, but in reality if I tried I imagine I would end up in a pool of blood, sweat and tears. Plus All The Swears of course. I so wish it came to me naturally, but I am really very clumsy and impatient, which it seems isn’t the best combination for these things!

    My list of things I don’t understand:
    - Golf and darts – ‘sports’ really??
    - The Atkins diet. A carb free life isn’t worth living as far as I’m concerned (ditto being a vegan).
    - Restaurants where it’s now cool to not be able to book. I need to know that I’m going to be fed and not have to stand up for an hour before hand because it creates a ‘buzz’. I couldn’t give a shit if there’s a buzz or not so long as the food is good and the wine flows.
    - Selfies that involve you pouting. Just awful in my books.
    - Totally with Rachel on the skiing thing – I just don’t like being cold.
    - People who manage to style their hair, put on make up, wearing co ordinated clothes (sans stains) and sky scraper heels every day. Surely they get up at about 4am??
    - HOLLISTER. Oh Christ Hollister how did I only think of that now? That gives me a full on rage attack. I can’t say anymore or I can’t be held responsible for the language I use.

    Oh and while I’m at it, it’s not quite the same thing but I can’t abide people saying things like ‘he gave 110% effort’. Um no he didn’t that isn’t actually possible. Or things like ‘that is rather unique’. It’s either unique or it isn’t, make up your mind people!!

    Phew… that feels better.

    • Fee
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:16 am | Permalink

      YES! Any use of % over 100% makes we want to rip my arm off and throw it at the culprit. Who is usually on reality TV.

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:26 am | Permalink

        I am going to bite my lip about stupid things people say because they think they will make them sound more intelligent, enthusiastic or whatever. That is presumably a WHOLE other post.

        • Amanda M
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:34 am | Permalink

          I would like to read that post…..

          • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:40 am | Permalink

            I’m quite keen to write it…

            • deltafoxtrotcharlie
              Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:41 pm | Permalink

              you should! and include people who say ‘myself’ when they mean ‘me’ to try and sound more intelligent

              • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:01 pm | Permalink

                ARGH ‘myself’ instead of ‘me’ (or ‘yourself’ instead of ‘you’) – that makes my eyeballs itch

                • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:28 pm | Permalink

                  Thank you – it’s not just me then. I laugh at people in my head whenever they use myself or yourself instead of me/I or you. Fools. I had a letter from the bank which referred to me as ‘your goodself’. I had to laugh otherwise I would have cried…

    • Amanda M
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:24 am | Permalink

      Oh yes, agree on the restaurant thing. I simply won’t go if I can’t book – WHY would I want to stand in a queue for ages just for the privilege of spending my money with you?

      And agree on the ‘quite traumatic’, ‘a bit devastating’ etc. And Hollister and A&F (spit)

      I have to wear make up though or I frighten small children

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:27 am | Permalink

      Very unique…so unique…completely unique. ALL WRONG.


    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

      Your Atkins one has prompted me to add 5:2 and 30 day shred – I think it’s all completely nuts.

    • Gwen
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:26 pm | Permalink

      Yes. To all of these.

    • Kandra
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:56 pm | Permalink

      Live in the sticks so things take a while to catch on up here, but really restaurants that dont let you book?? Why would that even be thought of as a good idea? How does the restaurant even plan anything?!

      • Emily
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:17 pm | Permalink

        Oh it’s so annoying! I live in London and it is THE trendy thing to do. Seriously, go to Soho in the evening and the streets are heaving with all the people waiting for who knows how long to get into really small places that are so packed! I have managed to go to a few when there hasn’t been an enormous queue down the street and the food is pretty damn good but seriously, so annoying when you’ve got somewhere you really want to go for a special occasion!

  26. Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:07 am | Permalink

    I have no time to read the comments at the mo – house buying stress!!! But sportspervs got a mention in a post – woop!! Will be back to read comments and comment properly this evening, looking forward to it already :D

  27. Amanda M
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:19 am | Permalink

    What a great post! I’ve really enjoyed reading all the comments too (and butting in on some!).

    Social media: I don’t understand Pinterest; I need someone to explain it to me but I’m scared to reveal my ignorance. I started Twitter just to learn about it for work but really enjoy it (mostly) and do find all kinds of things out (mainly about restaurants). Instagram: it’s a new one for me. I am emphatically not an arty person but Roz introduced me to a themed photo a day thing (augustbreak) and I’m really enjoying looking at the world differently to try and get a photo. Mine aren’t good but I don’t mind! Facebook – I’ve never got it. I always said it seemed solely to exist to encourage a scary level of self-absorption and banality. But now I just tweet those things!

    I’m hopeless at craft (see non arty comment) – my very talented knitter grandmother tried to teach me to knit. And then had to grimly use a razor blade to get the entire ball of wall off the needles – I’d knitted it into a very tight and dense 1″ square and there wasn’t even room to insert a scissor blade. I’m used as a handicap on Pictionary because my drawing is so appalling. I can embroider but why do it when you could be reading? I do bake from time to time because my cakes usually taste better than any you can buy. My husband begs me not to though as inevitably we eat all the cake – I’m incapable of eating a slivver and chucking the rest.

    I can’t be arsed with any reality TV as it panders to my suspicion that most people are absolutely appalling and I’d be better off staying in, eating cake and reading (yes, Dan Brown too – I like anything that’s not worthy or gritty. I also TOTALLY believe Jesus was married to Mary Magdalene now.)

    The thing I don’t get is babies. I know this is sacrilege with most people but I find them dull and sticky and the requirement to coo and eulogise makes me nervous. I adore my niece and nephew but they got much more interesting when they started getting opinions and being able to voice them – they regularly make me weep with laughter now. To be honest I prefer puppies (always cute) – although not little yappy toy dogs that live in handbags.

    • Fee
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:41 am | Permalink

      Amanda – I have yet to meet a small child that I don’t dislike in some way. I sincerely hope this changes when/if I have children of my own.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

      “I find them dull and sticky and the requirement to coo and eulogise makes me nervous.”

      Actually crying with laughter. Yes. This. It HAS to change when/if you have your own. It has to. With my friend’s babies/children I tend not to coo or eulogise and the kids seems to prefer it.

      • Anita
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:39 pm | Permalink

        YYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so glad it’s allowed to vocalise this. They are noisy, sticky, often a bit smelly… I spend a lot of my working day having to be nice to children. It is difficult to maintain outside of work.

    • Kandra
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

      Such a great post Anna, and so many great comments!
      I dont get twitter at all, but always feel that somewhere along the line I may have missed the point of it?
      Hate reality TV and all the talent show stuff, not at all crafty or any good at nesting although would love to be both!
      I also dont understand how people find the time to seemingly fit so much stuff into their lives, I always feel like I am playing catch up at the best of times and that is without all the ‘frilly bits’ like matching my outfits and taking photos and having perfectly manicured nails and hair that is in any way styled (unless a pony tail counts?!)
      And I have to agree with Amanda M on a few counts, I do have to wear makeup, or people actually ask me if I am ill, and i dont get babies, I try I really try, but they seem to cry very easily and often seem quite inconsolable over something completely mysterious. Puppies great, but they have to grow into a ‘proper dog’ no yappys or ankle biters!

  28. Amanda M
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:16 pm | Permalink

    I actually think this is my favourite AOW post of all time. I feel so RELIEVED that there are other people who don’t like babies or NYE or noisy bars or Ryan Gosling – it makes me feel…..almost normal! (But I do love Harry Potter and nail varnish)

    I keep refreshing and going back and reading extra comments. I want to exclaim aloud but that would give the game away that I’m not doing an awful lot of work.


  29. Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:19 pm | Permalink

    Finally a place I can admit I don’t get the big deal about peonies (sorry whole of Twitter and blogland).

    Also, agree with Hollie on Hollister – too dark, you can’t see the clothes (total old lady comment). And the Kooples, sure it’s lovely but I’ll never look like a stick-thin, pissed off hipster who’s been ‘in a relationship with Tarquin for 4 months’ so why spend all my money trying?

    I like Instagram, mostly for nosiness. Pinterest is ok but I’m a bit sporadic at using it and not very good at it. And there is the inferiority about nowhere in my house/life being ‘pinnable’. Quite like certain crafting, others I’m rubbish at.

    I’ll end now before I think of loads more things I don’t get and work myself into a rage!

    • deltafoxtrotcharlie
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:44 pm | Permalink

      The smell of peonies makes me feel sick and I don’t like them. There, I said it!

      Peony-haters unite

      • Amanda M
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:56 pm | Permalink

        I like peonies even though I hate …. pink! I am aware that in the eyes of the marketing world, this means I am not female.

        • Kandra
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:39 pm | Permalink

          Lol. I am also not a fan of pink, was dispairing the other week when trying to find a milestone birthday card for my Ma and everything was faffing pink! She was 60 not 6! I found it all rather insulting! (but maybe I took it a bit personally!)

  30. Posted August 7, 2013 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

    Haha, this post and the comments made me laugh a lot. I don’t get instagram, and to be honest I don’t really get twitter either. I’m on it, but not quite sure what to do with it, I can never say what I want to in 140 characters! Also, don’t get the hashtag thing.

    I do however, love crafting and nesting. I use pinterest to pin pictures of things and then I often make them. It was great a Christmas time for pinning gift ideas to make. I’m a bit like Olive Dragonfly Bex and do “pin it do it” like she does. I did laugh at “a perilous situation where a glue gun is my only way out”, that sounds like my ideal situation to get out of! I spend most of my weekends “making things” and I have to say I love it.

    Re all the tv series, I’m afraid I’ve never really got into any of them. I’d never even heard of the White Queen, or Snow Queen or whatever it is. I tend to just watch endless repeats of the Big bang and that’s about it. How I miss Friends on E4, it was about the only thing I watched. But i do love a bit of Kirstie Allsopp, on account of the crafts.

    • Anita
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:53 pm | Permalink

      I WATCH ENDLESS BIG BANG THEORY REPEATS TOO!!! And love it!!! Thought I was the only person who’d rather do this than go to allllllll the effort of getting into something new!! I miss Friends on E4 too.

      Ahem, sorry.

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:19 pm | Permalink

        Watching Friends in the background right now! It’s on Comedy Central now and I often have it on even though there’s no need as I know them all by heart!

        • Posted August 8, 2013 at 7:51 am | Permalink

          We just have freeview, or as my husband calls it “cooncil telly”, so don’t get Comedy Central, but wish we did as I didn’t realise Friends was still shown on repeat on another channel! I knew them all by heart too, but weirdly still found them funny every time.

      • Posted August 8, 2013 at 7:49 am | Permalink

        Haha, yeah I know what you mean, it is effort to try to get into something new. I love the Big Bang, I never got into it when it first came out but it has definitely filled the Friends void!

      • Posted August 8, 2013 at 5:02 pm | Permalink

        Ha ha, I love the big bang too :)

  31. Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:17 pm | Permalink

    Hmmm my phone does not have internet, so instagram never caught me. I do see myself *maybe* getting it, but I don’t think it’s going to happen.

    I use pinterest mostly for recipes, so many good ones, I mostly spend my time there drooling and pinning outfits so put together that I will never look like that, but a girl may dream.

    I am also super bad at crafting… I want to knit but I am too lazy to teach myself. I was supposed to make curtains this year, the fabric is there, the sewing machine which I have no idea how to use has been lent to me, and yet I think we will bring all the material to the Turkish seamstress guy so he can make them for us.

    I do love to make all the cake.

  32. Emily
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:25 pm | Permalink

    Just came back at lunch time to read properly and this is so good! I can just imagine everyone here in one room saying OH MY GOD ME TOO at an ever increasing volume!

  33. Katielase
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:39 pm | Permalink

    Another thing I do not understand… people who take more than 10 minutes putting on their make-up. Even a proper night out’s make-up barely takes me 7 minutes, and that’s with a good few minutes spent lingering over the eyeliner carcrash. What are you all doing to your faces that I’m not doing to mine? It’s like ALCHEMY.

    • deltafoxtrotcharlie
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:47 pm | Permalink

      Ahahaha, I have to put my hand up here and admit that I spend aaaaaaaaages putting my going out make up on. On the other hand, its basically the only artistic thing Of Any Kind that I am any good at so if you add up all the time I could theoretically be knitting/glue gunning etc then it’s probably quite reasonable.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:54 pm | Permalink

      The thing I don’t get about makeup is people who apply it while they’re on the train. I can barely use a pen doing the crossword and there they are – concealer, eyeliner, mascara, blusher… HOW are they doing it?!!

      • Katielase
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

        YES. I often accidentally stare at women putting up their make-up on the tube, I know it’s weirding them out but I am honestly just trying to understand their magic. I can’t apply eyeliner straight at home, with both arms supported and my head resting against a wall for stability and they’re doing it on a moving train?! Makes. No. Sense.

        KL x

        • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:30 pm | Permalink

          I also just think it’s one of those things you shouldn’t do in public. If you can’t be bothered to do it before you leave the house, at least wait until you get to the bathroom at work, surely? Or am I just still living in the 19th century?

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

      And more to the point, would you not rather have another 10 minutes in bed?!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:08 pm | Permalink

      I think I only spent 10 minutes on my wedding make up, if that! And in reply to your earlier comment most of it was also £1 Superdrug MUA brand (with the exception of my foundation which admittedly is estee lauder).

  34. Gwen
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 1:57 pm | Permalink

    I am so, so disappointed that this conversation isn’t happening in a (quietly musicked) pub where we all go round in a confessional circle and clap after each other has finished and sat down.

    WIWT: usually whatever didn’t need ironing, didn’t have toothpaste on it, and wasn’t too short or low cut. I frequently have a realisation on the bus to work that I am wearing totally inappropriate clothing for the weather (this morning for example. It is 20C outside, and I am wearing a cashmere mix jumper). I’m happy to take photo’s, but I can’t guarantee that I had time to put on makeup after hitting snooze too many times.

    Pinterest: I don’t get it. I love a list, but I think you have to be sort of creative in the first place to ‘get’ it and as I am not, I don’t. It just makes me angry and envious.

    Crafts: Why do it yourself, when you can pay someone to do it for you better?

    Clothes: I don’t like them. I don’t like shopping for them (how can I be a size 10-12 and struggle to get things that fit?), I don’t like that I am panicking about a December wedding outfit already.

    Breaking Bad: I just don’t get it. I don’t. I’ve watched 3 episodes and fail to understand how they can drag it out to 5 series in a way which will possibly make me want to watch it.

    Zumba: No. Just, no. I hate dancing at the best of times. Why would I want to do it whilst wearing lycra and an unflattering sports bra?

    Weddings: I know this is controversial, but I am not a wedding person. I have hit the age where everyone is getting married and I can’t be doing with the complete lack of chat that they now have about anything that isn’t a flower, a dress or a venue. GAH.

    Beauty: I am a rubbish girl because I use Sainsbury’s own brand showergel and shampoo. It’s 79p and it keeps me clean.

    Late nights: Got a text from a friend arranging a night out for Saturday starting at 9.30-10pm. 10.30 is my bedtime on a school night. I know that I’m young and stuff, but actually, can we not go for dinner instead and have a proper conversation? That way none of us will end up crying at 2am, noone will be sent home in a taxi having lost their shoes, the person not drinking because of antibiotics won’t have things whispered involving pregnancy all night, and I won’t consume my body weight in Doritos and dip on Sunday because they’re the only thing I can keep down, having got drunk as a coping mechanism?

    Ohh that feels better.

    *sits down, hoping that there will be understanding nods and sympathy rather than wide eyes*

    • Hannah
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:18 pm | Permalink

      Boo to late nights! Both me and my other half have office jobs, his average start time is about 3 hours after mine. This means that our schedules are completely off during the week and I’m ready for bed when he is just finishing his dinner. By the time he gets home from work on a Friday night, I’ve made myself perfectly comfy on the sofa and don’t really feel like getting ready to go out. If I do make an effort, his work pals will arrange to meet at 11pm – WHAT IS THAT ABOUT??? I want to be coming home then, not leaving the house.

      It might make me a grumpy old woman but I don’t really care!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:24 pm | Permalink

      I can’t watch Breaking Bad either, but that’s because the main character reminds me of my dad (the chemistry teacher, not the junkie youth). I have to say – it gets better from Series 2, because the first series is all about building the characters and it’s definitely the most painful, heartbreaking part. Series 2 is actually quite clever.

      I may force us all into a pub (that serves coffee and hot chocolate) and set up an AA-type meeting. “My name is Anna K and I am shite at crafting”. (round of applause)

      Also, a night out starting at 10.30? Jog on.

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:03 pm | Permalink

        Nooooooooooooooooooo Breaking bad is awesome.

      • Abi
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:16 pm | Permalink

        Oh. I love a night that starts at 10.30! They are the best!

        • Gwen
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:42 pm | Permalink

          Do you not just find yourself getting really tired instead of tipsy?

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:16 pm | Permalink

        I love that you had to clarify you meant Walt and not Jessie!!

    • Ro
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

      We managed 3 episodes of Breaking Bad but have given up. Had to watch an episode of Father Ted after each episode before bed to counteract it/calm down/replace the images in my head…

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 6:11 pm | Permalink

      Gwen I did the same thing with Breaking Bad yearssss ago…then somebody told me it gets good in episode 4. I restarted there and never looked back…bloody marvellous telly.


      • Gwen
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:34 pm | Permalink

        maybe I should plough through…

  35. Sharon
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:10 pm | Permalink

    Just spent my lunch hour reading this post and the comments and have giggled to myself the whole way through – whilst nodding in agreement so many times. Love love love this corner of the internet.
    Can’t list all the things I do not get as running out of lunchtime but just wanted to share 2 things – when I found out my babys due date was 1st Jan, one of my first thoughts was i will have the ultimate not going out NYE reason for quite some time if it arrives on time- hurrah! Secondly, Hollister I will never get. I shop in there for my teenage niece and nephew if I have to – the last time I was buying presents for them, the shop assistant asked if she could help me. I said, yes please, can you turn the lights on. She looked confused for a moment, went off, and then came back and politely explained that her manager said no. Bless her for asking and missing my sarcasm!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

      I just laughed out loud then had to fib to my manager about what made me laugh when I read this…

    • Amanda M
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:23 pm | Permalink

      I LOVE this! Really made me laugh. Can we do a kind of flash mob where we simultaneously go into branches around the country and ask for the lights to be turned on? Perhaps we could whip out torches?

  36. Gemma N
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:18 pm | Permalink

    Oh my goodness, how many comments! I read this morning and in total agreement, but didn’t have time to comment.

    With regards to the original post – yes, yes and yes again. Thanks so much for writing this Anna, as I thought that all the AOWers were all crafty types and have seen lots of instagram and pinterest links so wondering whether I might be a bit of an outsider. No longer!!

    Can I just repeat…

    “The thought of making a paper pompom makes me want to stab myself in the eye with a coathanger.”
    “Do people say “chic” with a straight face, or is it supposed to be ironic?”


    I haven’t tried with instagram and pinterest, but I just don’t have the time or inclination to keep another social network on the go. I do like twitter but it does sometimes feel like quite a lot of effort to keep up to date with it. I’ve kind of given up on facebook check occasionally but rarely post anything anymore.

    And the White Queen, watched the first episode and thought it was nonsense. AlthoughI rarely watch those kind of Sunday night dramas so perhaps I’m not target audience. I recently read the review Caitlin Moran wrote (when the Times paywall was down she was tweeting links!) and it was spot on. If anyone has a subscription, definitely check it out.

    I do LOVE the West Wing though, and can’t quite understand why people wouldn’t like it. My husband actually said the other day he didn’t think we could be friends with people who didn’t like it!!

    Never even heard of Kooples, and will have to go and google Ryan Gosling as not sure who he is. Does that make me super uncool?!

    Can I add that I really hate internet acronyms. Used to drive me mad on wedding forums (MIL2B etc), and I’ve recently been browsing mumsnet (I think this may be dangerous – in my defence I’m just looking for pram reviews!) and can’t understand half of what people are talking about!

    • Kandra
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

      I will be super uncool with you Gemma, as also had to google Ryan Gosling (am rubbish with famous people!)

    • Sarah
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 11:02 pm | Permalink

      Yes to acronyms on Internet forums! Sick.

  37. Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:28 pm | Permalink

    Can I just add exercise in general?
    My name is Caroline and I have done no exerices since I left school.
    Gym, any kind of aerobics, ANY organised sports and swimming can all jog on! Swimming in particular, who made that a thing? jumping in water and flailing around like a whale? If I was meant to do that I would have been born with webbed feet.
    Whats wrong with just sitting still?!?!

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:49 pm | Permalink

      I think I love you.

      Once, in an online dating profile, I said one of my favourite activities was ‘sitting down’. It’s still true.

      • Amanda M
        Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:06 pm | Permalink

        Ha ha!

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:13 pm | Permalink

        Oh my goodness Katy that is BRILLIANT! If I was a single bloke I would have been all over that!

  38. Kandra
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:49 pm | Permalink

    oh thought of another one
    I think I may be the only person alive who doesnt get cola, coca or otherwise! its just disgusting. But I have never met anyone else who doesnt like it.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 2:59 pm | Permalink

      I don’t! I can’t finish a glass or can. I’m not a very big fan of overly sweet, fizzy drinks, anyway.

      Plus Coke would NEVER have a bottle with my name on.

      Actually, I don’t get the whole name on a bottle of Coke thing. And that’s not just because my name wouldn’t feature. I’d never get excited at having some major company try and manipulate me into buying their products by putting my name on it. The whole thing brought out the cynic in me…

      Unless I liked their products to begin with…

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

        Nope – I can’t stand the stuff either. And pretty sure there isn’t a bottle with my name on it either. We are clearly not their target market…

      • Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

        ME!!! Absolutely loathe the stuff! The smell is enough to turn my stomach.

        • Gemma N
          Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:22 pm | Permalink

          Another coke hater here! I didn’t like any fizzy drinks as a child (I was an odd child), and can manage them now (think I changed my mind when alcohol got involved) but can’t stand the taste or smell of coke. yuk!

  39. Amanda M
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

    Oh! One more (and then I really must shut up): fake tan. WHY does everyone need to be orange? It’s particuarly bad in the bridal industry where all magazines just assume that being sprayed with something akin to tikka-paste is an essential part of your routine. I am very pale and I. Just. Don’t. Care. In fact, I quite like it.

    One of my colleagues is alarmingly orange and my sister-in-law actually had a fake tanning session as a sort of additional hen do (she had the most hilarious wedding – like some kind of pastiche) with her sisters and mother. She’s very ginger – matching your skin to your hair doesn’t work when that colour is orange. She resembled a very large oompa-loompa. I was the only pale one there and looked like an alien species.

    That is NOT what the tagline meant when it said the future was orange.

    • Abi
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 4:13 pm | Permalink

      Yes. Hate.. It. Everyone kept asking if id get a fake tan for the wedding…. WHY OH WHY….

    • Gwen
      Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:38 pm | Permalink

      Actually had to pause the DVD and read that out loud to my boyfriend because I was laughing SO HARD at that.

      When I left school we had an “awards” kind of thing. Most likely to be famous/win a nobel prize/marry a footballer etc… There was the “You’ve been tangoed award for excessive fake tan”. Not won by me I hasten to add.

  40. Ro
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 6:00 pm | Permalink

    Brilliant post Anna K!

    I happen to like crafting as I like fiddly intricate things that occupy some of my mind and you basically follow instructions/copy something someone else made so don’t have to be too creative but still get to enjoy the ‘look what I made!’ pride! I am quite shallow/attention seeking…

    Interior decor though confuses the crap out of me. I have spent many hours recently in fabric shops trying to work out what on earth would go with the other random pieces I’ve panic-bought, feeling like I missed out on some inate female skill set. I know there’s not a ‘right’ way to decorate a home but there are many many wrong ways and I’d rather avoid them if it’s all the same to you. Stressful! Maybe pinterest is what I need…

  41. Posted August 7, 2013 at 8:35 pm | Permalink

    I love all these things. If anyone wants to hire me I can do any of these things for you really well! Maybe not the White Queen but given half the chance to pin and then decorate/style someone else’s house I’d be in my absolute element.

    • Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:04 pm | Permalink

      Can I hire you as the white queen? Sure you’d be awesome at that also!

  42. Posted August 7, 2013 at 9:23 pm | Permalink

    Finally caught up on the comments and have been laughing a lot!

    I Instagram and do really like it, I’m not very artistic with my photos but I like seeing others. Pinterest I have an account and go through pinning sprees and have done quite a few things myself that I have pinned but some things I see on there just scare me and make me feel quite inferior.

    I’m quite crafty and enjoy trying to make things myself but I know my limitations and will always buy things that I feel are just beyond me, nothing is worth blood sweat and tears over.

    And I’m another who doesn’t quite get most box sets…never watched breaking bad, West wing etc, I think preserving through the whole of LOST and it to end that way, like what the heck was that all about?!? Has put me off for life.

  43. Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:06 pm | Permalink

    Phew finally made it to the bottom – brilliant post and resulting comments!

    Ah, see I think I like ALL of the things you hate – apart from the white queen, never watched it – wasn’t intrigued enough by the adverts.

    I think most of the rest is down to me being a very visual person – I am all about colour and pretty pictures so I seriously love Pinterest – it’s also great for finding inspiration for recipes and outfits and I love actually doing them rather than just hoarding the pictures! In fact I often seacrh Pinterest before google if I’m after a recipe or idea these days. I LOVE other people’s WIW posts. Most days I have to wear a uniform and barely bother to do my hair or wear makeup so I do take great pleasure in putting together outfits on my days off and from sharing them – it makes the effort seem more worthwhile somehow – doesn’t everyone like compliments? Maybe that just says more about my need for validation?? :-/

    As for crafting – I definitely get that from Mum – she always used to make our clothes and I loved making things with her – I was even a Blue Peter project maker!

    I’m glad this is AOW so I don’t have to get defensive over my things even if a lot of you don’t like/get them :)

    Personally, I hate most beauty articles on blogs or in magazines – they bore me. I’m with Katie and barely spend any time doing mine – only wear tinted moisturiser for v special occasions otherwise it’s just my eyes and sometimes lipstick.

    Never tried Skiing, but the skiing for lazy people sounds good to me Linsey!
    I had no idea what The Kooples is – I thought it was a TV show or something until it became clear. Silly name if you ask me. Kooples would be good though, I like that word :) As for Hollister – never even been in one – looks far too dark to be able to shop!

    Oh I’ve thought of something else that I don’t get – shorts with tights! If it’s too cold to wear shorts – wear trousers!? And if it’s because your shorts are too short – TIGHTS ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE IT BETTER! I once read something about “keep your shorts longer than your vagina please” which I thought was pretty funny given how many seriously short shorts you can unfortunately see in Glasgow on a sunny day.

    And I’ve said it above and I’ll say it again – I hate NYE! Always rubbish – except for last year when Gems and Roz & hubbies came for dinner :) I’m also completely with Gwen on the late nights thing!

  44. Anita
    Posted August 7, 2013 at 10:36 pm | Permalink

    I’m just watching ‘The Last Leg’ and Alex Brooker is just taking the piss out of people who Instagram pics of their food! I thought of this post and laughed a LOT.

  45. holly
    Posted August 8, 2013 at 12:01 am | Permalink

    Between this post and the recent one on lurking (!!) I have to comment – I only discovered AOW a month ago and it has quickly become my very favorite website because of posts like this! Anna K, you had me at Instagram — and it just got better and better.

    For the record, I’m American (a Yank?) living in Canada, LOVE Toby, CJ, and Ryan Gosling, and can’t be bothered with Pintrest, the White Queen, knitting, nesting, or blow-drying my hair! (I will cop to skiing on the occasional weekend). Thanks for reminding me that I’m not alone.

  46. Posted August 8, 2013 at 1:40 pm | Permalink

    Late to the party (again) but here goes…

    Instagram – Love it. It’s escapism/voyerism/extreme nosiness. I like seeing what other people can see in California/London/their holidays. And it’s simpler than FB – just pics, no annoying status, so I can keep in touch with people. From an actually posting perspective, at the most basic, it’s social media, and I’m a blogger, so I have to use it. But in reality, I’m a blogger and I love sharing. It’s what we do.

    The White Queen
    Come on guys! I think you’re taking this a little bit too seriously… I watch v.little TV but when I do, I watch it for escapism, I really don’t care about realism and hence whether they would have crimped their hair in whatever year. But I love the intrigue and plotting and sun-dappled sex ;)

    Love. Just Love. I’m a visual person and I’m also very disorganised. That means I end up seeing things and immediately forgetting where I saw them and getting insanely frustrated and irritated that I can visualise the item, even down to the web page but I can’t find it. So I pin it and it’s like an extended book of contacts/resources. Plus it means that when I have to redecorate/make a birthday cake/find an outfit I can just go back to the things I have been keeping to hand on pinterest for the last 6 months and sort it out really quickly instead of wasting time trying to find a great recipe/remember the ideas I had for decorating/actually go shopping and find an outfit. And again… it’s escapism. Looking at pretty creative things revives me and mentally resets me. And inspires me.

    You’ve inspired me actually to do a post I’ve been meaning to write about for ages about how to use Pinterest. If you want to of course…

    Crafting, Don’t really have time… wish I did.
    ‘Nesting’ I associate with children, if you mean ‘styling your home’, well, I like doing that but it’s not something I spend a great deal of time on. I see something, buy it and put it on the shelf/chest of drawers/wherever and it’s done. No biggie.

    Hmm, don’t know what to say about this. I do WIWT all the time. It’s just an extension of Instagram for me and it’s WAY easier than getting a full outfit post photographed to share. And I hope that when people see those snaps they think, ‘I could do that… I have some navy pants and a bright top and some cute flats, i’ll try it out.’ I never would have started doing it or been as creative with my wardrobe if I hadn’t followed people who do the same so I hope people are inspired, as I have been. But honestly guys, you need to stop making out like people who do it (and all these things) waste loads of time on it, or that it’s frivolous in comparison to books or writing or food. I think no more about my wardrobe than you do, I assure you. I just get dressed and if it makes me feel particularly happy, I might share it, via whatever means. I have never tried different items on in my wardrobe to make an outfit or choose a particular dress for an event. It’s just getting dressed!

    Things other people brought up… Skiing – Love. Ryan Gosling, also Love. The Kooples – I have a Kooples coat, but it generally leaves me cold. Bit like AllSaints on the whole…

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 1:56 pm | Permalink

      In relation to the WIWT topic I think I can honestly hold my hands up and say that no one would *WANT* to see what I wear every day! I’m a creature of habit and rotate the same outfits and no matter how hard I try I end up looking scruffy so I am pretty darn envious of everyones outfits!
      I think I would go as as to say it would be pointless for me to do it BUT I do enjoy seeing everyone elses outfits so I’m glad there are people out there who do it.

      Actually probably the same goes for Instagram, I’m on there but don’t photograph much but I do like seeing everyone elses pictures.

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:02 pm | Permalink

      Oh and the Pinterest thing, I wrote a post ages ago about it, some of it may have changed now, in fact it has but this gives the basic overview. Rebecca feel free to pull whatever you want from it for an update post:

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:42 pm | Permalink

      I would really like to see a FF post on Pinterest, as I said above I have the sneaky feeling I’m doing it wrong or that there’s a whole lot of stuff on there that I’m not seeing.

      Re WIWT – like lots of the others have said, I really like seeing what other people are wearing, I just think that no one would be particularly interested in my rota of work outfits! I don’t think that people who do WIWT/OOTD waste time or spend ages getting ready – if anything I imagine that they are much more organised than me and quicker to get ready, because they have already thought about what they’re wearing that day. It takes me AGES to leave the house in the morning because I have never planned my outfit, and because time just seems to disappear between the hour of 7am and 8am – so I’m sure I waste much more time than most…

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 4:44 pm | Permalink

      The thing for me with instagram/WIWT is the same thing I have with blogging – I’m useless at sticking to a routine! I have set up 3 blogs and I’m just rubbish at it. I start something all eargerly and go hell to leather on it then I get bored and stop. Guest posting and me are therefore best buds because I can just do it as and when I’m inclined. Bizzarely I think this is the same reason I DO love Pinterest – there’s always something new and shiny. It’s also why I still like facebook despite so many people going off it – I can upload pics en masse and group things together.

  47. Posted August 8, 2013 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

    For some reason I can only think of the stuff I love love love (West Wing, Pinterest, skiing, Toby Ziegler, more West Wing, Parks and Recreation, more Pinterest) and none of the stuff I don’t get.

    Except maybe science. I don’t really get science. Physics is ok, it’s more the biology-y, chemistry-y, how stuff works blah blah blah. I’m sorry Katielase, don’t hate me. Also nail art. Science and nail art. Probably the only time in history that those two things have been categorised together, but there you go.

    Oh oh oh I also don’t get A Cup of Jo (the blog). It is booooo-ring, and people lose their minds over it. Do. Not. Get. It.

    So, to recap:

    LOVE: Pinterest, high-quality American TV, hurtling around on planks.

    DON’T GET: nail art, popular American lifestyle blogs, everything about how the world and everything in it works.

    Nothing if not diverse.

    • Lexie
      Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:03 pm | Permalink

      See I like A Cup of Jo, not every post, but the series she has at the moment about bringing up children in different countries I do find interesting.

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 5:04 pm | Permalink

      I like Cup of Jo too… but I think you have to be into kids to like it. The clothes/life post are a bit nothing and although personally I can enjoy endless ‘the best chocolate chip cookies you’ll ever have’ food posts, they can be repetitive. I like her general observations…

  48. Fee
    Posted August 8, 2013 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

    I hope it didn’t come across like that – I am rubbish at outfits etc (as I said above!) and hate shopping BUT I also love Keeping Up With The Kardashians so I would be coming from a very shaky place to judge ; )

    To me reading/baking/ watching KUWTK is a more ‘worthwhile’ way to spend my time – because that’s what I like doing but I also enjoy the fruits of other people doing what they like doing with their time. I get many ideas from Florence Finds so I am glad Rebecca likes doing those things and ditto with Bex/Roz/Olive Dragonfly. I would enjoy a post on Pinterest as I find it confusing (is that an embarrassing confession?!).

    I also love pictures of food on Instagram. Especially brunch, if anyone I follow is reading and would like to oblige! Or dogs dressed up as things. Or an outfit that involves a burgundy cardigan as I just bought one. I think that’s it.

    • Lexie
      Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:08 pm | Permalink

      You’re so right Fee, that’s why I like reading AOW and Florence Finds and Young House Love for example, because they each cover different things I like, some I love doing myself other things I admire in awe from a safe distance!!

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 5:01 pm | Permalink

      I’ll get right on it Fee :)

  49. Posted August 8, 2013 at 2:55 pm | Permalink

    Hello AOW readers,

    Hmmm don’t hate me but I’m with Rebecca on a lot of these…..guess that’s why we were drawn to each other as friends!!

    Instagram – It took me a while but I absolutely love it….I do have those moments though of thinking shit everyone has such a wonderful life and mine’s just pants in comparison. Then I tell myself to get a grip and that posting a carefully edited selection of snapshots does not paint the whole picture of ANYONE’S life.

    I love it because I’m nosy and yes I will admit I actually get a little kick out of sharing images and getting people’s interaction with them. Does that make me weird, perhaps, needy…possibly although my boyfriend says I’m the least needy person on the planet. Maybe this is how I let those needy demons out. Perhaps?

    I’m a creative person so a hit of visual inspiration is what drives me, keeps me sane and motivated. I much prefer instagram to twitter, it’s so much calmer and soft, whereas twitter feels like being in a room with everyone shouting at once. Use twitter much, much less nowadays.

    The White Queen
    Never heard of it, sorry. TV and TV programmes in general… this is what I don’t get. Not sure why but I’ve never been into watching TV, if I do it’s sporadic and I’ll watch reruns of Grand Designs or something eqully housey or creative. I know I’m so one-dimensional.

    Prefer a good film, browsing the internet or reading to TV anyday.

    See Instagram – visuals my thing so I love it. I’m a regular pinner, it drives interest in my business, helps my creative juices when planning event concepts for clients and is also my way of organising things – like Rebecca I see things online all the time and used to bookmark them thinking I’d come back at a later date, a URL link means nothing so usually I didn’t bother, now I just pin an image as my bookmark, it’s a far better reminder for me.

    Love it. Crafting…yep I’m into that. I’m always creating things for the house or changing things around…usually out of necessity than choice though, I have champagne tastes on a lemonade budget, I see and fall in love with Art that costs a gazillion pounds, or a chair that needs a second mortgage, so instead of just admiring from afar I’ll figure out a way to make/upcycle something similar. Crafting is also my release, I spent hours painting canvases for my bedroom the other weekend, it cost me about £30 all in all and now I have original artwork for the bedroom that gives me a warm fuzzy feeling inside when I get up each morning because I made them. Don’t get me wrong, Picasso I ‘aint. But I had fun doing it.

    Guilty as charged. At first I didn’t get it and I still hate the pouty look-at-me selfies, but then I think just because my heads not on the picture does that make me any different?! Probably not. Why do I do it….I get a kick out of clothes, buying them, wearing them, seeing what other people wear, putting outfits together, looking nice. It makes me feel good….this may be superficial but hell I couldn’t care less, I’m 34 years old and I know the things in life that make me feel good, dressing well is one of them. Getting comments off people that ‘you look nice today’ is a bonus, an instagram like is like people saying that to you. It feels good.

    One thing I will say is that I don’t spend hours in the bathroom preening. I tend to do a wardrobe purge every few weeks where I’ll put together a few outfits, decide what works with what and mentally store it. My getting ready routine in the morning is then much quicker and slicker, I already know what I’m gonna wear, I wash & blow dry my hair every other day and yes I always wear make-up as I need to be presentable for my job. My routine takes me 45 minutes max, 30 if I don’t wash my hair. I actually save my WIW pics into one file on my phone for the days I need a little inspiration on my outfit choice otherwise if I’m in an indecisive mood those 45 minutes will stretch into 145 and I’ll end up in a right tizz.

    Things I don’t get….um TV and any kind of sport. Oh and how people find the time / inclination / motivation to exercise regularly. Still thinking about this one.

    Michelle x

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:39 pm | Permalink

      Hi Michelle – just a quick one to say no hate at all! Lots of out readers are absolutely Pinterest/Instagram/WIWT fiends. I think we all respect people who are “together” enough to look photo-worthy every day – I am definitely missing that gene, but no judgement on those that do have it!

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 3:47 pm | Permalink

      I am stealing your ‘put a load of outfits together ahead of time and mentally store them’ idea. It might mean I spend less time sat on the bed in the morning staring into space trying to work out what to wear each day…

      K x

  50. Lexie
    Posted August 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm | Permalink

    Finally made it through reading all the comments!
    I love the West Wing, also a huge fan of House and How I met your Mother is the new Friends for me! Like Rebecca, TV is definitely escape time for me so although I preferred the book of the White Queen I’m not too bothered by the crimped hair either!
    Pinterest is awesome, in the middle of a full house renovation and it helps me keep track of things I think might work in the house, whether that’s DIY or a pretty mirror! Also when you’ve been living without a kitchen for 9 months it is great for daydreaming about what it will be like when all the work is done!!
    Instagram I’ve never tried and while I like Facebook in some ways, I’m just not interested in updating my status. Twitter I’m gradually getting used to.
    One thing I don’t get is painting nails. It looks great, but I find it tricky and time consuming to get it to look good and then it always chips, I do not have the patience.

  51. Posted August 8, 2013 at 4:18 pm | Permalink

    I don’t often comment on here, they always disappear somehow, but this post was too delicious not to.

    I admit to liking a lot of what you guys don’t get. Sorry.

    What I have never, ever, EVER understood however: Brad Pitt?


    Please explain what I’m missing, and have been missing since I was a young teen.

    I will also admit to spending a disproportionate amount of time going over and over the process of scrubbing my lips, applying balm, lip primer, lip liner, lipstick with a lip brush, blotting, re-applying, then sometimes glossing over the top (depending on the time of day/occasion/person I have a meeting with)…. but I never, repeat NEVER brush/comb my hair. Don’t judge me.

    Oh, and All Saints. The grey, holey, wrinkled, shapeless UBER pricey clothes brand, NOT the too-cool-for-school girl band we all know and love. Yes, we all loved, right? :-)

    • Posted August 8, 2013 at 5:00 pm | Permalink

      ‘Never ever have I ever felt so low, when you gonna dig me out of this black hole…’

      Oh yeah. Hours of that played on repeat over a teenage heartbreak!

      • Anita
        Posted August 9, 2013 at 10:35 am | Permalink

        Oh yes!!! Me too!

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