Weekend Wonderings


Hands down, one of the most wonderful things I have read in a long time. It’s not dissimilar to the Captain Corelli’s excerpt – the ‘love is not the promulgation of eternal passion’ - that I had as a reading at my wedding. But there’a a quiet magic here, it makes you read and re-read and just sigh with happiness. I adore it, it’s glorious.

Categories: Weekend Wonderings, Written By Aisling
3 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted July 20, 2013 at 9:12 am | Permalink

    CS Lewis is one of my favourite writers, and anyone who hasn’t read any of his non-fiction writing should do so, because it’s brilliant. Thought-provoking, clever, challenging and very often full of wonder.

    I adore this passage, I so deeply prefer love to being in love.

    KL x

  2. Lottie
    Posted July 20, 2013 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    So true! My husband and I are definitely in a ‘love’ stage at the moment. But, as we have been together twelve years, (married for three), I have found that the ‘being in love’ stage reoccurs and gives the ‘love’ a kick start again. Some days, weeks, months, I feel like a lovesick teenager again. And it’s wonderful, but of course it is not always like that. Sometimes you just run on love and that is perfect too.

    My mum always explained marriage to my sister and I in this way. I think it’s so important to know this. Just because the being in love explosion stage does not stay around the whole time, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

    Thanks Aisling for a lovely piece of writing. Thanks Katy for reminding me I want to read some CS Lewis!

  3. Posted July 23, 2013 at 9:12 am | Permalink

    Usually I ignore anything that looks like some long cheesy, life-meaning quote…but this is profound – good choice! Really enjoyed reading this and I think the words are so true. For a while I had always thought that being ‘in’ love to just ‘loving’ someone were two very separate things and that a romantic relationship wasn’t ‘right’ if you weren’t ‘in’ love with that person after the honeymoon stage. But now I see how the two states of love are actually very inter-linked: if you have just ‘in’ love without the other – the relationship probably won’t last the full course of lifetime, if you have just ‘love’ without ever being ‘in’ love, well that’s probably a bit more stable but you might question whether the other person is ‘right’ in which case, if you do question that, then they’re probably not the right person anyway (I did question my husband at one point, but that was way before engagement and I was just thinking about being more selfish with my career!).

    If you are lucky enough to find long term love, then I guess it’s important to once in a while remember those feelings of when you were in love together – celebrate your relationship, rekindle the memories by making trips back to places significant to the growth of your relationship, write each other love letters and mention ‘remember when….?’ Have a photo shoot of the two of you talking about the things you love about each other!!! (I would say that though wouldn’t I?!)

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