Any Other Photo {Kate and Barry}

How many of us have a list of Things That Went Wrong On My Wedding Day? Probably all of us, I reckon. Kate’s list makes for heart-wrenching reading and yet here she is, with an AOP that represents that list.

Many things make Barry’s photo of choice beautiful – it’s the kind of picture you can look at time and time again and see something different each time. (I keep coming back to Kate’s outfit – SO gorgeous) But’s it’s that smile, that gorgeous smile that tells the story. A less-than-perfect moment, yes. But still a completely perfect one.

Our wedding planning never included the word ‘perfect’ anywhere in amongst the lines and line of budget calculations. I never chose my perfect flowers or my perfect dress. I didn’t think about what the perfect combination of guests would be and we didn’t choose the perfect venue. Looking back we certainly didn’t have the pinboard perfect day.

Imagine if we had expected it to be perfect:

Our specially planned birthday cakes for three of our guests disappeared. My pageboy’s present went missing (his sad little face still a haunts me) There were no favours for the adoption charity I had donated to. There were no specially designed menu cards. My Polaroid camera and hundreds of photos went unused. Finally to top it all off we had a fire alarm (with real firemen) half way through our reception and our guests ate the buffet in the pouring rain.
But we didn’t let any of that faze us, as we knew there was no perfect in our wedding day. The day turned was exactly how the day was meant to be.

So why this AOP?  Well, before we went up for dinner and all our guests were waiting for us, my husband sat me down to tell me about our missing favours, menus, presents, cakes, and camera. I was devastated, but was shrugging it off in only the way a bride who has given up on perfect can.

However, right at that moment I didn’t realise that our photographer was in the background snapping away. I’m glad he was as he managed to capture that moment as he caught what my husband describes as ‘me’ in one photo. This is how I usually look to him, the look I give when things as usual turn out to be less than perfect. But it turns out that sometimes less than perfect gives you and your new husband the perfect photograph.


Categories: Any Other Photo
8 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted June 21, 2013 at 8:19 am | Permalink

    I love this, I love how you can see from your look that you don’t really care what’s gone wrong, you’re still with your person, you’ll still have a brilliant day, it’s a brilliant moment captured. Perfect is overrated, I think.

    KL x

  2. Posted June 21, 2013 at 8:53 am | Permalink

    THIS – “The day…was exactly how the day was meant to be”.

    This photo perfectly captures the look of you being a team and dealing with whatever comes your way together. And having that = perfect.

  3. Posted June 21, 2013 at 9:36 am | Permalink

    Such a great photo. I love all the pictures where people have no idea they are being photographed – they show so much more about a relationship and couple than any amount of posed photos can.


  4. Laura
    Posted June 21, 2013 at 10:46 am | Permalink

    But you are both still smiling! Beautiful photo! I said all the way through our wedding planning “so long as we were both there and we say our vows, I don’t care what else happens” Perfect attitude to have. (although our registra got confused and our vows were the one thing that went wrong! Typical!)

  5. Posted June 21, 2013 at 11:10 am | Permalink

    LOVE this photo, love your expression and love your attitude

  6. Posted June 21, 2013 at 11:22 am | Permalink

    This is lovely! I’ve written a post about all the things that went wrong/right on our day – “The day turned was exactly how the day was meant to be.” is just the perfect sentiment and that photo is STUNNING!

  7. Rach M
    Posted June 22, 2013 at 2:11 am | Permalink

    Brilliant AOP, love it. Xx

  8. Posted June 22, 2013 at 4:09 pm | Permalink

    Thank you all for the lovely comments my AOP! It was a fantastic day despite all the disasters. Married life is also not perfect but then why would you want it to be!

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