Any Other Photo {Valerie and David}

This Any Other Photo is different.  They all are, I know, but this one takes what is often an unspoken subject and faces it head on; the fact that the groom is no longer primarily a son, but is now primarily a husband.

I love the expressions captured here, sadness, happiness, excitement.  I love how we can see different family roles playing out in one instant.  But most of all I love how Valerie faces head on that she has stepped into a role, one that has not been and will not will not always be easy, and written about it so eloquently.

Over to you, Valerie:   

This was taken at our wedding in 2009 in Singapore. David, a French national, has been living apart from his parents since he was 16 as a result of being at boarding schools, university and his subsequent relocation to Singapore in 2003.

He is an only child.

This picture made me sad and happy at the same time because I am reminded of the ambivalence felt by his mother on the occasion of our wedding – both a mixture of happiness and a bittersweet feeling of resignation to the fact that her son has ‘grown up’ and will probably, in the foreseeable future, continue to live thousands of miles away from her because he married a Singaporean girl.

Nearly four years on since we got married, she remains very happy for us, if not a little wistful at the physical distance.  But the recent birth of our child Emmanuelle has brought much joy to everyone and she relishes her new role as a grandmother.

I’d like to think that she hasn’t ‘lost’ her son when he married, but rather, gained a daughter and a little grand-daughter!

Categories: Any Other Photo
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  1. Posted April 19, 2013 at 7:55 am | Permalink

    It’s so interesting to hear that Valerie, I suppose it’s easy for people to take images like this at face value. The story you told could have been very different but equally as plausible.

    It looks like a very stylish wedding, you all look so glam! And congratulations on baby Emmanuelle. That means saviour doesn’t it? X

    • Posted April 19, 2013 at 9:25 am | Permalink

      Yes – this picture could tell a thousand different stories but I am so interested to hear/read the one that you have.

      And yes to the wedding looking beautiful too and congratulations on baby Emmanuelle x

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