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Z is for Zzzzz (Get Some Sleep) by Abi
I have a confession. I was planning to write an article for U – Umbrella (Rain on your wedding day). But I was in Thailand. Ironic.
Yes, sorry, not only did I not write one of the articles I was supposed to, but I am now also bragging about being in Thailand. You want me to go?
When I decided to write an A-Z post, it was a couple of months after the wedding and perhaps momentarily I felt like some zen wedding guru who knew ALL ABOUT IT. I’m no wedding expert, but like many many readers I’m a relatively recent bride. One who struggled sleeping.
I usually can sleep through most difficult, stressful life events. I love a good 8 hours. That’s just me.
But not before the wedding.
Before the wedding I was acting as if the world ended after the wedding day, I just couldn’t see past that day.
For a year and half, a lot of my brain was taken up with wedding thoughts and plans, and the closer it got, the more thoughts running through my head of all the things I needed to remember and do and sort and find and pay for.
The month before I got married was also one of the busiest months in work. I was organising a lot of events and conferences.
As you can imagine, there were a lot of lists. In bags, on kitchen tables, next to the bed and in work. Lots of lists and a lot of panic.
I couldn’t sleep, I would toss and turn with excitement and nerves. The sheer number of thoughts in my teeny little brain would not be silenced. As such, I did some of the things below, some of them I WISH I had done more of.
So my bit of advice for all those who are sleepless, excited, nervous, with only a few weeks to go:
1.Write those thoughts down. All of them. What you have to do, what you are worried about, how excited you are. (You’ll love looking back at that)
2.Talk to other brides to be. I met a few people online and we formed a little facebook group. I know it might sound a bit strange to some, but knowing that some of these girls were getting married around the same time really helped. I would chat to them about my worries and the excitement. They got it. They were often going through similar worries in their head.
3.I put on a large important conference a week before the wedding. I had suggested the date to the speakers… it was all my own fault. If you have any control over your work schedule, just DON’T do this. That would be silly.
4.Delegation, personally I’m terrible at this. If you are forgetful or panicked, see who can help. Whether it’s just asking someone else to remember something, so you don’t have to it all whizzing around your brain.
5.Take time off BEFORE the wedding as well as after. I was lucky that the Jubilee fell just before my wedding so I was given a couple of bonus days off to sort things out. I know it’s tempting to save all your leave for honeymoon. But if you have had lots on in work, try and take a couple of days beforehand.
I used these days very productively. I got excited and then madly panicked for no reason. I also got my nails done.
6.Read a book. Some days I would wake at 3am and my brain was not going to go back to sleep. I would take myself off to our living room and read for a while. It helped me take my mind off all the silly little bits I was worrying about.
7.Do something. Is there something on that list you could do right now? Do it. An email to the venue, buying something online etc. You can do that anytime of the day. If something will make you feel better, just do it.
8.Don’t worry about not sleeping; this will only make it worse.
9.I love a bath. Have one. Take a book in there. (yes, most problems can be solved by reading)
10.Breathe deeply, tell your future spouse you love them, snuggle in and relax.
11.Enjoy it. Catch up on sleep on your honeymoon instead.
12.On the day, wake up early, with someone you love, and start to get really really excited. It will have all been worth it.
Here’s a picture of me and my sister, up early, and really excited!