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X is for X-rated by Bex
I had seen the adverts in wedding magazines for boudoir photo shoots but didn’t truly consider it for myself until I spotted a gorgeous (green), relatively cheap corset when hunting for a tulle underskirt (for my 50′s style, day before wedding outfit). As luck would have it, a deal then popped up on ItIsOn for a local boudoir studio session at Peachfur with 15 low-res digital images included for only £28! If you’re even thinking about doing it – GO FOR IT! I loved the whole experience and the photos!
I bought the corset, booked the deal and persuaded a friend to come with me for moral support. I then enlisted my wedding make up artist, Shannon, to do my make-up (also a good trial as I wanted smoky green eyes on the big day too!) and my hairdresser, Jane, to put my hair up – a bargain £8. I was almost all set. I loved keeping secrets from my husband in the run up to the big day, you can even hear him commenting on all the secrets in our wedding video as they get revealed to him. I was so excited to reveal all the little things I had planned to surprise him. This being one of the biggest!
When I say almost all set. I had another plan for our wedding day involving pants! I wanted to get some of those pretty pants that say Mrs on them but they’re all frilly or silky or too skimpy and pink or peach or blue. Obviously I wanted green and I did NOT want a wedgie on my wedding day so big M&S pants all the way for me please! Another craft project was born. I designed my own pants! I ordered the diamante words and iron on dragonflies on ebay and found the perfect green colour dye in Hobbycraft (when I say perfect, it wasn’t ideal as they didn’t have actual dye in the right colour, only fabric paint but I managed!)
To explain the wording, it’s something Nik used to refer to me as before we were even engaged. He’d jokingly say, I need to check with Da Missus, or some such thing and we used to laugh about it. (You can see the full messy experience here, it wasn’t easy taking some of those pictures with green fingers!)
So off I went, armed with my new pants and corset, and suddenly very nervous! I’m so glad Sarah was able to meet me, she was pregnant at the time and very lovely to come all the way out there with me but it really helped having her grinning at me and saying I looked great when so exposed in front of the lens. The whole experience was fun, exhilarating and made me feel fabulous – don’t get me wrong, I have hang ups about my body just like most women, but even though I was worried about my thighs, I felt sexy and beautiful. When my Mum commented on one of the photos that she thought I looked like a movie star, I thought, yeh, that’s how I felt!
|Photo (in cover) by Allen Bell at Peachfur|
|Photo by Allen Bell at Peachfur|
The set up was very professional with one big room with a few sets laid out, including on with a very cool dresser and vintage phone and mirror and another with a red wall and roll top bath! I had just an hour and we focused on the chaise for the majority of the time (which coincidentally, I swear, had a green background!) Alan sent me the photos that very same day and although they were un-photoshopped (you had to pay extra for that) they were actually very flattering due to the lighting set up he had. I bought one as an A4 print to frame for Nik (un-photoshopped as it was cheaper and as I said, I was happy with it anyway) and printed out a few of the small images to make a mini album (from everleaf) of the rest so he could see them on the day.
He was SUPPOSED to open these ones in private but oh well! lol
I had so much fun at the shoot, in fact, that when I saw a similar deal pop up on Groupon for £39 including a glass of fizz and for a bit longer in the studio, I decided to do another!! I wanted to try a different style and this photographer suggested I bring a shirt and tie of Nik’s! She even suggested bringing my veil but I didn’t have it yet. More sneaking around and this time I got my make-up done in MAC as I wanted to buy a couple of things there anyway. I also found some amazing lashes with diamantes on! This time I was more prepared and also took along a vintage mirror I bought on ebay and had my hair down and straight this time. This deal came with a couple of free prints but, (where they always get you with these deals) I liked so many of the photos I decided to opt for the special deal of the day and go for the album of 12 A4 prints for £120. After all, it’s really a once twice in a lifetime kinda thing.
Lindsay’s style was totally different but I had just as much fun (I went alone this time as it was a female photographer and I was feeling more confident by then). I know Nik loves his albums and I will treasure them too – especially when I can look back and remember how it made me feel and that even though I maybe thought I didn’t at the time – I looked damn good in a corset!
Photo by Lindsay Docherty
Some of you (ODPers) have seen the albums in (almost) full and I would love to share more photos but with this being the world wide web and after much debate with myself, hubby and friends, I thought it best to limit it to these glimpses here. (These are photos I’ve taken of the album to share with you so the quality isn’t great.)