AOW A-Z of Getting Married – X is for X-rated

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X is for X-rated by Bex

I had seen the adverts in wedding magazines for boudoir photo shoots but didn’t truly consider it for myself until I spotted a gorgeous (green), relatively cheap corset when hunting for a tulle underskirt (for my 50′s style, day before wedding outfit).  As luck would have it, a deal then popped up on ItIsOn for a local boudoir studio session at Peachfur with 15 low-res digital images included for only £28!  If you’re even thinking about doing it – GO FOR IT!  I loved the whole experience and the photos!

 I bought the corset, booked the deal and persuaded a friend to come with me for moral support.  I then enlisted my wedding make up artist, Shannon, to do my make-up (also a good trial as I wanted smoky green eyes on the big day too!) and my hairdresser, Jane, to put my hair up – a bargain £8.  I was almost all set.  I loved keeping secrets from my husband in the run up to the big day, you can even hear him commenting on all the secrets in our wedding video as they get revealed to him.  I was so excited to reveal all the little things I had planned to surprise him.  This being one of the biggest!

 When I say almost all set.  I had another plan for our wedding day involving pants!  I wanted to get some of those pretty pants that say Mrs on them but they’re all frilly or silky or too skimpy and pink or peach or blue.  Obviously I wanted green and I did NOT want a wedgie on my wedding day so big M&S pants all the way for me please!  Another craft project was born.  I designed my own pants!  I ordered the diamante words and iron on dragonflies on ebay and found the perfect green colour dye in Hobbycraft (when I say perfect, it wasn’t ideal as they didn’t have actual dye in the right colour, only fabric paint but I managed!)

To explain the wording, it’s something Nik used to refer to me as before we were even engaged.  He’d jokingly say, I need to check with Da Missus, or some such thing and we used to laugh about it.  (You can see the full messy experience here, it wasn’t easy taking some of those pictures with green fingers!)

So off I went, armed with my new pants and corset, and suddenly very nervous!  I’m so glad Sarah was able to meet me, she was pregnant at the time and very lovely to come all the way out there with me but it really helped having her grinning at me and saying I looked great when so exposed in front of the lens.  The whole experience was fun, exhilarating and made me feel fabulous – don’t get me wrong, I have hang ups about my body just like most women, but even though I was worried about my thighs, I felt sexy and beautiful.  When my Mum commented on one of the photos that she thought I looked like a movie star, I thought, yeh, that’s how I felt!

Photo (in cover) by Allen Bell at Peachfur
Photo by Allen Bell at Peachfur

The set up was very professional with one big room with a few sets laid out, including on with a very cool dresser and vintage phone and mirror and another with a red wall and roll top bath!  I had just an hour and we focused on the chaise for the majority of the time (which coincidentally, I swear, had a green background!)  Alan sent me the photos that very same day and although they were un-photoshopped (you had to pay extra for that) they were actually very flattering due to the lighting set up he had.  I bought one as an A4 print to frame for Nik (un-photoshopped as it was cheaper and as I said, I was happy with it anyway) and printed out a few of the small images to make a mini album (from everleaf) of the rest so he could see them on the day.

He was SUPPOSED to open these ones in private but oh well!  lol

(Photo by Matt Wagster, Photo in frame by Allen Bell at Peachfur)

I had so much fun at the shoot, in fact, that when I saw a similar deal pop up on Groupon for £39 including a glass of fizz and for a bit longer in the studio, I decided to do another!!  I wanted to try a different style and this photographer suggested I bring a shirt and tie of Nik’s!  She even suggested bringing my veil but I didn’t have it yet.  More sneaking around and this time I got my make-up done in MAC as I wanted to buy a couple of things there anyway.  I also found some amazing lashes with diamantes on!  This time I was more prepared and also took along a vintage mirror I bought on ebay and had my hair down and straight this time.  This deal came with a couple of free prints but, (where they always get you with these deals) I liked so many of the photos I decided to opt for the special deal of the day and go for the album of 12 A4 prints for £120.  After all, it’s really a once twice in a lifetime kinda thing.


Photo by Matt Wagster, Photo Album by Lindsay Docherty

Lindsay’s style was totally different but I had just as much fun (I went alone this time as it was a female photographer and I was feeling more confident by then).  I know Nik loves his albums and I will treasure them too – especially when I can look back and remember how it made me feel and that even though I maybe thought I didn’t at the time – I looked damn good in a corset!


Photo by Lindsay Docherty

Some of you (ODPers) have seen the albums in (almost) full and I would love to share more photos but with this being the world wide web and after much debate with myself, hubby and friends, I thought it best to limit it to these glimpses here.  (These are photos I’ve taken of the album to share with you so the quality isn’t great.)

Categories: A-Z of Getting Married
22 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Gemma C-S
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:02 pm | Permalink

    O.M.G and that is all.

  2. Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:04 pm | Permalink

    What Gemma said. You are gorgeous. xx

  3. Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:07 pm | Permalink

    I’ve seen Bex’s albums *makes you all jealous* and the photos are all smokin’ hot!

    I did a 50′s pin up shoot with Rockabetty AGES ago and decided to hold on to the photos until James proposed as a surprise engagement pressie. He later admitted he’d have done it sooner if he’d have known.

    • Lara Blue
      Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:12 pm | Permalink

      Ha ha, I love that Amy!

      Also I’ve seen them too and “smoking hot” is definitely the right description! Xx

    • Posted February 6, 2013 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

      Afraid not

  4. Lara Blue
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    *Wolf whistles*

  5. Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:21 pm | Permalink

    Is it inappropriate to say PHWOAR? I hope not because Bex you look INCREDIBLE.

    This almost makes me feel brave enough to do a Boudoir shoot. Almost. Agh, I’m tempted. I think I’d panic and wet myself.

    K x

    • Roz
      Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:30 pm | Permalink

      How a group AOW shoot! We can all calm each other down and if that fails there’s booze!!!!

      • Posted February 6, 2013 at 9:41 pm | Permalink

        I’m making this happen I promise!!!

        • CarolineH
          Posted February 8, 2013 at 1:32 pm | Permalink

          Oh yes please do make that gappen, t’would be amazing!!

    • Posted February 6, 2013 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

      I think avoiding wetting yourself would be a good idea in most circumstances. Might ruin the feeling slightly… Unless he likes that kind of thing (ewwwwwwwww can’t believe I just wrote that).

  6. Roz
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    I love this post Bex!! You smokin’ hot movie star you ;) xxx

  7. Posted February 6, 2013 at 12:40 pm | Permalink

    You are absolutely gorgeous!

  8. Sharon
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    Wow, you look amazing and I love your eye make up, stunning!

  9. Zan
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 2:04 pm | Permalink

    Look at you gorgeous lady! Pictures are amazing. I’m not sure I’d be brave enough to photographed in my undies, no matter how fancy! But you do look fab :)

  10. Amanda M
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 2:14 pm | Permalink

    Wow you look AMAZING!

    And (probably because I’m a girl) what I liked best was your eye make-up – just gorgeous. Suspect most men would not be scrutinising your eyeliner….

  11. Posted February 6, 2013 at 2:20 pm | Permalink

    Swit swooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

    Your eye makeup bottom left is PERFECT! It’s actual make up perfection.

  12. Becca
    Posted February 6, 2013 at 2:31 pm | Permalink

    I’ve actually been super tempted myself but chickened out at the last minute. I also know that The Beloved would have been like “why have you done this when I see you naked all the time”. He certainly wouldn’t have looked as aprreciative as Nik did.

    Also…you in that corset? F-ing hell. I’m having it made into drawer liners and putting it in the cupboards everytime I feel like a cake.

  13. Posted February 7, 2013 at 12:09 am | Permalink

    Nope, not for the 1st one (where I had moral support) and only a little glass of fizz at the 2nd one as it was included! I was driving to and from both so was utterly sober. I think my excitement of giving them to Nik got me through the nerves! I love surprising him!

  14. Posted February 7, 2013 at 12:16 am | Permalink

    Bless you all! Thanks so much for so many amazing comments! I was a little more nervous than usual about this post going live (and more excited as I do LOVE the pics and remember feeling amazing, and a little silly doing my ‘sultry eyes’, at the time) but you’ve all made me feel fab again, as usual! :) I really hope I have inspired some of you to have a go at this yourself!

  15. Posted February 7, 2013 at 6:19 am | Permalink

    Sorry about being late to this post! Looking very hot Bex!

    I did a boudoir shoot about 9 months ago, and the pictures managed to persuade C not to deploy permanently. I’d say that’s a win right?


  16. Posted February 7, 2013 at 9:06 am | Permalink

    Way to go ! This is so inspiring. I might have to try it someday :)

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