Any Other Photo {Christie and Aaron}

Today’s Any Other Photo is the right one to post just before Christmas.  It’s about love, and luck, and loss, and appreciating the moments you have with the people you love the most, whilst you can. Thank you, Christie, for reminding us of what’s important: 

  Photo by the incredibly talented Mark Cruxton, Christie’s step-dad

I’m writing with my submission for Any Other Photo, to be honest I’ve been thinking about doing it for some time but something happened recently that made the decision for me.

My wonderful wedding day was the 26th May this year, it honestly feels like a lifetime ago, time goes far too quickly!

This particular picture is incredibly important to me despite the fact that you can’t actually see my face! This was snapped my photographer (and step-dad) whilst I was having my “Father-Daughter dance” which was a dance that very nearly never was.

The night before my wedding my Dad called to inform me that  he’d been in a car accident, it was severe enough that he needed to be cut out of the car but he assured me, all was well (although he may appear slightly as if he’d been fighting. Brilliant.) The completely ironic part of this whole situation is that my Dad had been in kidney failure for 9 years, had a heart bypass (and many other minor surgeries) and most recently had had toes amputated due to diabetes. His biggest concern was being able to walk me down the aisle without a stick which he achieved but in true Dad fashion, there had to be something else. Regardless, I was so proud of him, if not slightly exasperated!

On the 28th October, the day after my 26th Birthday, my Dad passed away suddenly. Despite the history of illness (which is far more complex than I can go through here!) it was completely unexpected. I could write a separate submission on grief and the many different and extremely painful emotions that go along with it but for now I just want to feel grateful that he was there to see me marry the love of my life.

Christie has added a link to her wedding video, and says the following:

“I’ve also attached the link for our trailer courtesy of the incredibly talented Aaron at Reel Weddings. If I could stress the importance of one thing to have at your wedding it would be a videographer, there’s nothing I think I will treasure more than this film.”

Merry Christmas, Christie, Aaron and your family.  Thank you for posting this and we’ll all be thinking of you. 

Categories: Any Other Photo
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  1. Carly
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 7:10 am | Permalink

    I have just watched your video & it made me cry. Such a beautiful day. I am so sorry for your loss, I think that your AOP is a wonderful tribute to your Dad.

    Merry Xmas AOW.


  2. Posted December 21, 2012 at 7:51 am | Permalink

    Dear Christie,

    I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes to you.

    Your video is beautiful, it must be such a treausre to have.I agree with you, that more than pictures (sometimes) they really bring the memories back right as they were. We did not have a videographer but my brother and sister in law took turns with a small hand camera, and I really like the result (even if it is not professional, it brings back the day).

    On a rather superficial note, if I am allowed, I love your bridesmaid dresses, they are lovely.

  3. Emma
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 9:06 am | Permalink

    Christie, I am so so sorry for your loss. Your photo is beautiful and your Dad truly looks like the happiest man in the world. It is so wonderful that you have this photo and so many others with him that will remind you of just how happy he was to see you get married. Treasure that thought.

    I hope your christmas is peaceful and that you find some happiness in the day. I’m sure your Dad would want you to enjoy as much of your first married christmas as you could xxx

  4. Christie
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 9:48 am | Permalink

    Thank you for your lovely comments ladies, I’m sorry for making you cry Carly! If it helps I had a little tear on the train myself!

    Focusing on the thought that we had a happy day has really helped get me through the last 8 weeks, I have a crazy amount of good memories of him associated with the day and the film gives me his voice which is unbelievably precious. It’s clichéd but it really does put a lot if things into perspective.

    Amanda, the bridesmaids dresses were stunning, my girls were all different heights, shapes and sizes and I really worried about them feeling comfortable so it was a relief to see them all relaxed and gorgeous! xx

  5. Peridot
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 10:03 am | Permalink

    That’s lovely. I’m very sorry for your loss but glad that you were able to store away such a wonderful memory (and have the photographic evidence to boot)

  6. Claire
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 10:41 am | Permalink

    What a beautiful AOP and the video made me cry. I am so so sorry for your loss. xxx

  7. Posted December 21, 2012 at 10:47 am | Permalink

    Your video is so lovely. It honestly did bring a tear to my eye.
    I am also a great advocate for the wedding video, as great as photographs are nothing quite captures the feeling of the day like a really good video. I would quite happily have purely the last half an hour of the epic 2 hours that is my video as everyone dancing and having a good time makes me feel all warm inside. I recommend it to everyone I know who is getting married.
    I’m am so so sorry for your loss and I sincerely hope the video and the no doubt beautiful photos you have from your day will make you smile in the sad times.
    Lots of love to you.x

  8. Yanthé
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 10:48 am | Permalink

    Beautiful. Such a lovely tribute Christie and I am so sorry for your loss.

  9. Posted December 21, 2012 at 11:56 am | Permalink

    Christie you have a remarkable strength and your dad looks like the proudest, happiest man on earth in that picture. I’m terribly sorry for your loss but know that your dad is at peace now. Thank you for sharing your story. xx

  10. Christie
    Posted December 21, 2012 at 4:15 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for your lovely words, it means a lot for people to take the time to comment!

    I hope you all have a lovely Christmas and New Year! xx

  11. Posted December 30, 2012 at 7:42 pm | Permalink

    Just seen this on a blog catch up and have cried my eyes out. Such brave writing.

  12. Posted December 30, 2012 at 7:48 pm | Permalink

    Oh, Christie that video!! Your dress is amazing and I wish I’d had a lace thing (shrug?) the same as you. It’s beautiful. And your bridesmaid turning away when she’s emothional and the CAKE and all the kisses. It’s so lovely. Such a lovely video to have of your dad as well.

    Oh. I’m having a proper moment over here.

    • Christie
      Posted January 10, 2013 at 8:09 pm | Permalink

      Anna I’ve only just seen your comment but thanks lovely, it’s amazing how a 3 minute video can capture so much feeling!

  13. Posted December 31, 2012 at 12:22 pm | Permalink

    Hey Christie, that photo really encapsulates the love and pride I saw in dad’s face when he first saw you in your dress. It was a pleasure to have been able to have met your dad and no doubt we wish you all the best for 2013.

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