Just Married Part 3: Sarah M

Here is the final part of Sarah M’s wedding story.  You all loved her swearing-fit in the run-up, and her vivid description of the day prior to the ceremony.  Warning readers; this is sheer, unapologetic happiness with which to start your Thursday morning.  It’s perfect, funny, eloquent and wise. 

For more from Sarah, follow her on Twitter @SezSaysStuff…she will make tea come out of your nose.    All beautiful photography (except the final photograph) is by Murakami Photography, and this is their slideshow of the day.  I give you Sarah:


The choir stopped and started to sing my entrance piece.  Rev Kev walked ahead of us and then it was time. My dad and I took a deep breath and began to follow him, the choir washing over us as we did.

As I walked through the doors, I saw a sea of faces and my brother wearing a huge smile and looking smarter than I’ve ever seen him. I saw his face and knew everything would be fine. I winked at him, took another breath and turned the corner.

It was at that moment I saw my fiancé for the first time that day.  Seeing his face looking back at me just took my breath away. I could see him welling up and as he looked away to stop himself from crying (he tells me!), I looked at my dad who had tears in his eyes. I looked back at Mr M and then we were almost there.  It really is a short aisle!


When we got to him, I gave him the biggest wobbly smile I could muster. I’ve never felt such a feeling of love. We both took a huge gulp of air and then broke into large, genuine smiles. ‘Stunning. You just look stunning. Sarah, I love you and you just look more beautiful than I could ever have imagined’ he said, causing me to well up even more.

My poor dad was stood next to me at this stage not knowing quite what to do as we’d all forgotten what Rev Kev had told us the previous day!  I suddenly remembered and started to lift my veil. Mr M helped me and my sister stepped forward to straighten it. I turned to my dad, gave him my bouquet, kissed him on the cheek and told him I loved him.

Standing there together was such an incredible feeling.  We launched straight into our first hymn and could hear each of our voices breaking a little at times. We kept giving each other huge smiles and squeezing our very clammy hands together. Mid way through our first hymn, Mr M leaned over to me and whispered ‘This is so much fun!’ and I whispered back ‘Better than winning the Ashes!’. As Mr M started to laugh, we got a glare from the vicar so carried on singing!

When it came to the part where the vicar asks if there is anyone who has a reason why you can’t marry to let it be known, we both turned around to look. Completely unscripted and un-discussed but it made several of the congregation giggle!  The two readings we’d chosen were lovely to listen to, very meaningful and we got to sit down, hurrah!


It was time for our vows and we both said them loud and clear, holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes.  It is such a personal moment in the ceremony and you really do forget that anyone else is there. Just magical.

Time for more singing and, my goodness, the choir and the congregation did us proud!  I’ve never been to a wedding so loud! I think our choices of hymns helped us a great deal but having 100 people belting out ‘Jerusalem’ just for us was pretty special.

We were pronounced ‘Man and Wife’ and we had our first kiss as a married couple to much clapping and cheering.  It really is a heart-soaring moment when you then look out onto all of your friends and family who are cheering your union. Just amazing.

Time for the signing of the register, some more songs from the choir and then a few photos. Before we knew it, it was time to leave the church. We stood at the bottom of the aisle looking out on so many smiling faces and, for me particularly, it was the first time I got a chance to even look at people as I was so blinkered as I walked down the aisle.

The organist started up with our very traditional recessional piece and as we stood at the altar steps about to leave my HUSBAND turned to me and said ‘Mrs M, let’s take our time and savour every moment’. I just nodded as I was smiling too much to speak!  We started to make our way towards the exit and were just amazed at the smiles from all of our guests. I could see my brother still beaming at me at the opposite end of the aisle!

The church bells were amazing but you could still hear what people were saying to you. We got so many compliments from people that I’m still struggling coming to terms with not hearing it on a daily basis   I was also amazed at the number of people who had kept the Orders of Service and the pouches that we’d spent so long putting together! We got battered and bruised from the numbers of hugs and kisses you get!  Ladies – it is not easy kissing a guest with a big hat when you’re wearing a tiara and a veil, you have been warned!

Our guests were making their way out towards the lych gate and we had a little chat just saying how much fun it had been. We made our way towards the gate and as we walked through it a cricket bat arch was formed!

Walking through it was so much fun and then it was time to be pelted with confetti!  Now, what can I say about confetti? Having the ‘confetti shot’ has always struck me as a rite of passage in the whole wedding shabbang. What I can tell you now is that having fistfuls of confetti flying towards your face isn’t the nicest thing in the world! Not only that but it gets EVERYWHERE!


After a little bit of mingling, it was time for us to depart. The weather was now beautiful so the roof had been put down on our car and on our bridesmaid’s car.  It was so nice just to be able to sit next to my husband and share a cheeky kiss or two!

As we were sat in our car, surrounded by our guests waiting to wave us off, our best man called out for ‘Three Cheers for the new Mr and Mrs M’.  Even the cricketers could hear the Hoorays!  (I love the shot of us waving to the chaps on the field!).

Whilst we were on our way, our guests headed to their cars for the short journey to our reception venue. Unbeknownst to any of our guests or wedding party, we’d decided to head to our very out-of-the-way, not-changed-hands-in-150-years local pub for a quick medicinal pint! Off we trundled down the country lanes, talking about the service and smiling a lot at each other!  Now, this pub opens from midday until 3 over the weekend and we had tentatively mentioned to the landlords that we would pop over if the weather was nice after the service.  We arrived to find that they’d stayed open and when we ordered our drinks we were amazed to be given a bottle of pink fizz by way of congratulations! What a lovely touch! We had a glass there with a few photos and had just enough time to pose outside for a few before realising it was about time we got back to our guests.



 Beautiful makeup by Alexis Day and stunning jewellery by Jo Barnes

We hopped back into our car and basked in the sunshine as we drove the twisty roads to our reception venue. As we pulled into the courtyard we could hear the fabulous Dixieland Jazz Band we’d hired (none of our guests, family included, knew about them, he he!) playing whilst people were chatting. I could see several glasses of champagne on the go but was delighted to see just how popular our G&T choice was! (I suspect it also had something to do with the way we served them!).  We were given a large G&T each and got stuck into our group shots.





The time marched onwards, conversation (and gin) was flowing, canapés were being devoured and dinner was fast approaching. We had a chance to speak to a few people but that time really does fly by. Before we knew it, it was time for the group shot that was going to signal the call through to dinner.

Our guests had been seated and as we made our way through the bar towards the Tithe Barn where dinner was to be served, we could see the amazing centrepieces, all of the great lighting from my brother and all of the touches we’d spent ages putting together courtesy of Sherrie (our on the day coordinator). We were blown away at just how fabulous it looked!

 Sound and lighting by Nicholas Boulton, Pedge Row Services  (Sarah’s little brother – he’s fabulous!)





People were asked to be upstanding for ‘The new Mr & Mrs M’ and we walked into this  - cricketing connotations – organised my my fab brother!) and some very loud cheers and claps!

We served homemade ‘non-date’ limoncello after the main course which seemed popular too! My husband and I had decided to have some fun with the dessert and so, our MC, announced that the only way to serve Treacle Tart was ‘whole and warm’ and that each guest should look on the back of their chair to find out who was ‘Mother’! We’d had a series of aprons printed up so that the designated server wouldn’t get mucky. There was a lot of laughter and the tart was very popular! At one stage, even shots of custard were being consumed…

Speeches came and went, I shan’t subject you to the details save that there was laughter, tears, poetry and much cheering.





Time for the cutting of our cake, a fabulous 11kg assortment of cheese to be served on fabulous olivewood cheeseboards handmade by my dad and served with lashings and lashings of port.




We’d only decided on our first dance a few days before and hadn’t had a chance to think about it, let alone practice! I’ve never been a fan of ‘comedy’ dances anyway, so just dancing together as naturally as we would if we’d been in our lounge was great. Those few minutes, twirling around to Nina Simone, really did make us feel that the two of us were alone in the room. We spent it dancing, laughing and kissing. We chatted about how much the day was and how excited we were about seeing people using our homemade photobooth (So 2011, I know but this was 2011!).




We spent the evening dancing, chatting and having a great time with our guests. Before we knew it, the dancing was coming to a close. A big group of our friends have an affinity for ‘Zorba the Greek’ so that was played as a penultimate song. I must share a photo from it as I can’t look at it without sniggering still!

Photo most definitely NOT taken by Murakami

We chose Queen’s ‘Don’t stop me now’ as our last song. There really is no greater feeling than being surrounded by all of your friends and family, dancing like a crazy lady with your husband, at the end of your wedding day!  People were belting out the words, HUGE dance moves and air guitar, awesome! It all ended with a big bundle group hug which still makes me laugh to think about.


We stood in the middle of the dance floor holding each other, just smiling like loons (really sweaty – no one told me being a bride would be such hot work!), taking it all in!  As we turned to wave our guests off, they’d all formed a tunnel out of the barn and into the courtyard!  My husband gave me a kiss, took my hand and we ran through it shouting our goodbyes to their cheers!  As we got to the courtyard, I was handed one of our parasols as the rain was coming down and Mr M promptly through me over his shoulder and ran across the courtyard with me giggling hysterically, waving at our guests smiling faces!

Returning to the tranquillity of the house was wonderful. We grabbed another bottle of champagne from the booze fridge and went up to our room. We cracked open the bottle and sitting on the window seat, we opened the window over looking the courtyard and stared in wonderment at all of our remaining friends playing with the photobooth, hugging new found friends goodbye and having a whale of a time. None of them knew we were up there and the photographs taken from that time are hilarious. We sat there for a good half an hour, maybe longer, just watching our family and friends, talking about the day and quaffing champagne.

As our family started to make their way back over to the house, we went downstairs to greet them. We’d bought a bottle of 1970 vintage port to share with them all (another ‘FVCK, I’ve forgotten‘ moment, this time a decanter.  Thankfully the best man had a brand new, clean sock…). We sat around the table, both of our families together, drinking the best port I’ve ever had (despite the sock), champagne on the go too, and just talking about the day. People were so happy and animated and I loved every minute of it.

My husband and I were beginning to flag so said our goodbyes, took some more champagne and headed up to bed. We sat on the floor, surrounded by cards and gifts, just looking at each other with the hugest smiles! He had to help me out of my dress (ladies, you WILL NOT want to take it off, but prepare yourself for a puddle of confetti!) and I shall spare you the gory details, save that waking up naked save for the most beautiful garter is the sign of good times!

We both slept so well, and waking up together  as husband a wife the following morning was great. Looking across at your husband to be greeted as Mrs M (or whatever you’ll be!) is ace!

So there you have it, the most wonderful time of our lives. So far!  We enjoyed the planning but are glad it’s all over and we can concentrate on what really matters, our marriage.

There’s one thing I must share with you. I’m not eloquent enough to do my feelings justice but our wedding day meant to so much to us in so many different ways. I cannot describe just how loved and supported you feel, not only by the person you’ve chosen to share your life with but your friends and family. It gives you such a huge boost of confidence to know that whatever life throws at you, those people are there to see you through. Once you get to the end of that aisle you won’t think twice about how you look, the weather, getting a grubby dress, things over running or not being able to eat all of your dinner; you’ll just bask in the joy of being so happy and you won’t be able to wipe the smiles from your faces. Each way you turn there will be someone beaming back at you, wishing you happiness and fulfilment for your future. I hope each and everyone of you get as much joy from your day as I did from mine.

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  1. Posted April 12, 2012 at 7:15 am | Permalink

    Ok, I have serious wedding envy. This is all.

  2. Alex D
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 8:33 am | Permalink

    I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed reading this, S. Seriously *the* best wedding I have ever been to. Beautiful. x

    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:47 am | Permalink

      You are a darling! Thank you! It was a joy to have you there.

      Readers – some of the rudest words made with scrabble tiles came from the table that Alex was on. Not that I’m pointing fingers at her, oh no, ahem.

  3. Posted April 12, 2012 at 8:46 am | Permalink

    Love the pictures, you look STUNNING.


  4. Gemma C-S
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:06 am | Permalink

    Lovely lovely lovely. What a beautiful bride Sarah is x

  5. Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:07 am | Permalink

    Oh wow I have seen so many things I wish we’d had at our wedding! Bloody gorgeous and some lovely writing to go with it too!


    p.s. you’re a stunner! (I hope that makes up for you missing your compliments every day!!)

  6. Zan
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:11 am | Permalink

    Awww…have a such a warm lovely feeling now. Fantastic write-up – and how gorgeous are you??

    Also – DUCKS…on a cake of CHEESE…. wow! :D

  7. Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:44 am | Permalink

    He he! Our wedding was the only one I’ve been to with a photo booth, despite blogs being full of them. I would seriously love to go to a wedding with one. I’ve got my best gurning worked out and practised for the pics…

    Thank you for your lovely comments :)

  8. Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:44 am | Permalink

    Gorgeous writing, photos & emotions. Wishing you both a wonderful Thursday & life together.

  9. Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:46 am | Permalink

    I had the pleasure of being part of Sarah & Stewarts big day. It was an absolute joy to work with them both before & on the day, everything S had made for the wedding looked absolutely stunning!

    Every detail was perfect & I would like to wish them both every happiness in the future.

  10. Carly
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:49 am | Permalink


    Please tell me how the Wine Monitor worked? Did they remove wine from people should they have more than their allocation? Ingenius!


    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:15 am | Permalink

      Hi Carly,

      Each table had a ‘wine monitor’, chosen for their love of wine and their ability to get guests who perhaps didn’t know each other well talking. We had a series of enamel badges made up, prefect style, which read ‘Wine Monitor’.

      When the bottles were heading towards empty, it was the wine monitor’s job to wave the bottle at a member of staff who would then replace the bottle. There was plenty of booze available as we supplied it all so we were able to match the wines to each course but people could then pick and choose how much of each wine they wanted to drink without sticking to a restriction of half a bottle each. It seemed to go down pretty well and one of my chums still wears his badge on a night out!

      • Carly
        Posted April 12, 2012 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

        Great idea!

        If anyone reading this is handy with an enamel badge maker
        I would very much like a Wine Monitor badge. Thank you.


  11. Posted April 12, 2012 at 9:49 am | Permalink

    Thank you so much for your lovely comments, I feel really touched and overwhelmed.

    We celebrate our wedding anniversary in 3 weeks’ time and I shall be making my husband watch our slideshow again. Each time I watch it I see something different! Murakami Photography did us proud.

    SJM x

  12. Sandra C
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:18 am | Permalink

    Absolutely gorgeous. Beginning to tear sodden end!! Happy upcoming anniversary to you both!!

  13. Alex D
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:25 am | Permalink

    Rude words?? Me? I would deny it, however there are numerous photos to back this allegation up. x

  14. Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:31 am | Permalink

    Sarah, do you mind getting married again please (same man), and invite me, I am desperate to be Wine Monitor! Except I would probably throw the whole thing off by drawing up Gantt charts and scheduling wine arrival at each table and demanding all guests drink at the same pace…

    I have said it before and I’ll say it again Photo T2 of you and Mr M dancing would be up on my wall, stat (if I were you, that is. It would look a bit odd on my wall). It is absolute love, trust and happiness in picture format.

    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:41 am | Permalink

      I’m rather disappointed to note that my picture won’t be taking pride of place above your mantlepiece, Anna.

      I’d love to do it all over again.

      • Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:47 am | Permalink

        I’ll put the picture up when you come over – a bit like rolling out the ornaments that my Aunt gives me for Christmas whenever she visits!

        • Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:50 am | Permalink

          Perfect! I’ve just taken delivery of the Any Other Wallpaper for my lounge for when you pop by…

    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 12:07 pm | Permalink

      hahahaha – too funny Anna.

  15. Peridot
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:35 am | Permalink

    I love the wine monitor thing too – and will be discussing with the fiance whether we can do this!

    And I LOVE Sarah’s dress – just beautiful. As indeed was she.

    Sarah – what were your table names? Did they describe the people sitting on them or were they significant in another way?

    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 10:49 am | Permalink

      Thanks, P!

      Let’s not talk about the dress – it’s come out ok in the photos but was an absolute nightmare in the process. It was expensive, bespoke but caused me nothing but tears. Shoddy service from the designer but there you go! It does go to show, though, that it’s the people around you that make you burst with happiness and your face hurt from smiling on your wedding day, not the gubbins that goes alongside it.

      As for the table names, I am a bit silly and wanted all of them to contain the word ‘table’! We then found words to suit those on the table so some of the members of my family became ‘inevitable’, our close chums known as ‘rent a team’ became ‘rentable’, old family friends known for their fragrant language became ‘unquotable’ and so on. I don’t think (m)any guests noticed but it made me chuckle!

      • Posted April 12, 2012 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

        So unique, and v amusing!

      • Peridot
        Posted April 12, 2012 at 6:06 pm | Permalink


        And have you named and shamed the designer? (she enquires with trepidation, about to start the big dress shop)

  16. Jo S
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 11:23 am | Permalink

    Your day looked amazing and so did you sarah and I am sure you have inspired many brides to be me included. I loved every minute of this wedding report. I can’t believe a year has passed already.

  17. Posted April 12, 2012 at 11:30 am | Permalink

    This has just made me grin so widely, such a beautiful joyful day. It also made me bounce up and down and email G to tell him that it’s less than 8 weeks and WHEEEEE, because it makes me so desperately excited to get married. Thank you for re-enfusing me with joy and anticipation and more joy.

    K x

  18. AT
    Posted April 12, 2012 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

    For sale: one pair of £17 Jermyn Street socks, unworn. One slightly port-stained. Contact Sarah M for more details.

    • Posted April 12, 2012 at 4:14 pm | Permalink

      Ha ha ha!

      Ladies, AT was (and remains) the very Best Man we could ever wish for.

  19. Posted April 12, 2012 at 8:59 pm | Permalink

    LOVE THIS POST!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

    The Scrabble letters, the cheesecake, the cars, everything- amaaaazing details !!

    Love the photo of your Bridesmaid sitting in the pew.

    Table name idea is GENIUS. Sheer genius. Love it.

    Your writing made me all a bit goosebumpy. If I get another wedding I want this one please.

  20. Posted April 15, 2012 at 6:15 pm | Permalink

    really have loved living this day again thru these posts. :) . Sarah really put a lot of heart and soul into the details. Maid of honour Zoe was a star, and made great efforts to help ensure Things ran smoothly. huge props to Sherrie for her stunning venue dressing, amazing lady. Definately one of my all time favorite weddings My partner in crime, David had commented at the end of the wedding, that it is the people involved who made it such a lovely day. I have to agree. So happy to have been a part of it all.

    Much love to Sarah and Stew xx

    Teri ( Muraksmi Photography )

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