When the little things matter

When we ran Susie’s post a couple of weeks ago, so many of you agreed in the comments that you felt pressured by (other) blogs into having a perfectly styled day full of details and prettiness, when that’s just not you. But what if it IS you? What if details are important to you?  What if you thoroughly enjoy making things look beautiful? Should you feel guilty about wanting to make your day look how you want it to?  Does it make it less meaningful? Hell no. 

Bex’s day is full of absolutely beautiful details, and yet you can also feel the joy radiating out of some of these pictures. Bex really makes a good case for doing exactly what you want on your wedding day. If that is  diy-ing the whole shebang, because you love doing things like that, fab. And if it’s not, that’s ok too.



I bring you Bex, and her love AND detail filled wedding… 



First of all, apologies for the brackets and exclamations – I seem to write how I speak and I often go off on tangents and get over excited – I realise it may be annoying and give free rein to the AOW girls to edit as you see fit!!

I have struggled thinking about how to write about our wedding in an AOW type of way – i.e. well written, interesting, open and honest rather than just your bog standard ‘wedding report’  (which I will be doing on my own blog eventually anyway).  In the end I just decided to talk about what I felt were the most important things about our day – the ceremony and details and why I made the choices I did. 

The obvious important bit about any wedding is the actual getting married part, otherwise it’s just a really good party.  That is why there are weddings, whether it be those small, intimate, beautifully simple kinds or the big, full on, full of beautiful detail kinds, or somewhere in between, they all happen so we can share our massive love and commitment with our people.  We had the big, full of details type of wedding with a much larger guest list than anticipated due to hubby’s HUGE family (who he sees frequently and is close to so we didn’t want to cut it down beyond a certain point – leading to a few disgruntles, but that’s a whole other post!)  Even when in the throes of planning and playing with pretty things I always remembered this day was about becoming a wife and gaining a lifelong husband. 




I thoroughly enjoyed planning our ceremony and vows just as much as the details, because I am awfully sentimental, but the details were HUGELY fun for me and were definitely an important part of our day.  I have always liked crafty things since I was little and used to make jewellery and paper crafts with Mum and I’ve always had a thing for interiors and design so getting to plan an event like this, which means so much to us, was just too exciting for me!  I basically felt it was a way to share us with our families and friends, beyond the words of the ceremony and the music we chose – it showed them the things we love and a little of our personalities – OK, mostly mine, but still, you get the point. 




I joined twitter after getting married and in some ways am sad that I seem to have missed out on certain suppliers or ideas I would have liked to incorporate (the wedding reporter being one – such a lovely idea, especially for those of us who love reading!)  But I am also glad as I have noticed a lot of ‘this is what I think’ type posts and articles lately regarding details and how you should only have them if they mean something and avoiding trends and what wedding photographers and bloggers should and shouldn’t be showing.  I find it all a bit guilt-inducing making brides question their choices.  I chose some of those things, because of some of those blogs, because I wouldn’t have seen them otherwise.  I was majorly inspired by the things I was finding on-line.  I wasn’t trying to be trendy or doing it to get on one of the blogs (although I admit the thought of being on one crossed my mind and I did send our wedding in, unsuccessfully) they weren’t my reasons at all. 


 


I chose things because I loved them – whether it was something I had always thought I wanted (green theme) or had a deep meaning to me (photographs), or just something I saw on a blog which I instantly loved and made me laugh (moustaches) or swoon (apothecary jars) or, well, just plain want it (cheese table)!  Now each and every one of the details I (I know I should say we but hubby really is a minimalist type and I had to do some convincing on the things I really loved which he wasn’t sure about – e.g. personalised M&Ms; – far too perfect not to have filling one of said apothecary jars and he was glad he’d agreed when he saw them and got to eat chocolate!) picked to feature on our day had a reason, regardless of whether it was trendy at the time or not. 






Some of the reasons were just, “oh that’s so pretty” (the jars again) but why should everything have to have a meaningful reason – why can’t you just want to make your day pretty and fun?  Plus, I still have those jars and they are on display (still empty as I can’t think of what to put in them yet – sweets just wouldn’t be safe for us!) in our home and when I look at them, I think of our wedding day. Here are some of the details we chose to include, and some things I learnt along the way…



  • I’m pretty sure I will not look back at our photo booth pictures in ten years time and say – “Oh, everyone had a photo booth and  those moustaches were all over the blogs – I wish we didn’t bother.”  I hope I will look back and say “I’m so glad we did that as we got so many more photos of everyone there having fun, they really seemed to enjoy making silly faces and laughing at the camera and do you remember those moustaches I made that turned out all wiggly and a bit rubbish!  I loved making stuff out of Fimo again – the smell brought back memories of all the things I used to make with my best friend in primary 7!”





  • We had lego men because we both grew up playing with lego but I saw them and thought they were cute and how I could play with them to make them more like us, good enough reason for me.  But some things were more obvious choices – green for example, EVERYONE who knows me knows I am obsessed with green – it is all over our house, I wear it most days even if it’s just my eyeshadow and now my blog is green. Luckily Nik likes green as well, although he doesn’t have much choice but to like it, and we had our green bridesmaids, green flowers, green home-made jam favours – that was a saga! I even had green eye make-up on the day as it’s just so me!



  • The cheese table was fantastic as we like cheese, it gave us a reason to get everyone out of the room by serving it downstairs (so the main room could be changed around for dancing without folk just having to wander outside milling about with nothing going on), we got to go cheese tasting as well as wine, food and cake tasting (bonus!), AND I got to style a cheese table and had fun doing so and making things for it – oh and it meant I could get super cute little wedding mice to go on it, like I saw on a blog on a cheese ‘cake’ and fell in love with!  (They now live in our kitchen in a display cupboard with the champagne glasses and teapot.)



  • The main things I had on my mind when choosing the details for our wedding were the photos and sharing our day and something about us with our guests.  I LOVE photos and I wanted amazing and fun photos to look back on and even managed to use photos in the day.  We did have some props just because I thought they would make a nice or a fun photo – because we wanted nice, fun photos.  We used my own underwater photos as table numbers and dive sites we have dived together as table names.  We asked all of our married wedding guests to send us in their own favourite wedding photo and displayed them on a table with the apothecary jars and a sign saying Happily Ever After (my little bit of romance).  We hung photos of us throughout our relationship across the huge fireplace which we used as our photo booth backdrop and placed a huge canvas of the photo I took of where we got engaged (taken before I knew I would end up being proposed to in that very spot!) along the mantel.  We even planned our Thank You photo in advance to use on the cards we sent after the wedding – along with a photo collage of our honeymoon as that had been our alternative to a gift list.




I think these little touches really made our day more interesting and fun for our guests (judging by the comments we received in thank you cards after the day) and helped them feel more included as there were little bits dotted everywhere.  I loved having all of these details around us on the day and not one person said – oh that was very on trend or I’ve seen that at a dozen weddings lately or what are the M&Ms; all about (in fact they loved the quirkiness of green and white sweets with our names and wedding date on and those sweets disappeared very fast indeed!)  To me, all that mattered was that we loved our day, our guests enjoyed our day, I had fun designing and decorating our day and I got to make things!  I forgot how much I love to make things!  I now have lots of fab photos and some of those little details around the house that remind me of the best day of my life and bring it all back!






I would absolutely choose details just because you want them, even if they mean nothing to you, because wanting them does actually mean something – it means you like them, and you should like your wedding.  I loved mine, fripperies and all!

I was planning on getting to our ceremony and how we injected our personalities into that as well but this has already gotten extremely long so maybe I can do that another time – if the girls want to hear from me again after these ramblings!

And as if you needed any further proof how beautiful Bex’s day was…we have a small sneak peak of her wedding video. Don’t say we’re not good to you…


*All images by the obviously uber-talented Matt Wagster and video by the similarly talented Cherry Tree films*

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  1. Posted February 16, 2012 at 7:35 am | Permalink

    Your wedding was beautiful Bex, and I love seeing your happy face shining out from the pages of AOW

    There has been a lot of talk recently about wedding details and wedding blogs – but to be honest, I very much doubt any sensible bride does something just to appear on the likes of RMW

    In your case, your details were v 'you', and they brought you happiness, so why not have them?

    Xxx

  2. Posted February 16, 2012 at 8:36 am | Permalink

    *applauds*

    Bex your wedding was beautiful, a fantastic reflection of your personality. I love every detail! The thought that your wedding wouldn't be detail heavy (or that it would be done in a way other than you wanted it just to keep up with trends) is so hysterical, I may actually need to utilise your crafting skills to sew up my sides again.

    The cheese mice!! ARGH

    The plain fact is that most of us who have a detail heavy wedding do it because we want to, and we take inspiration from the blogs – we don't do it because we feel we feel pressured by them. The only pressure I felt was the expectation placed on myself and my husband, BY OURSELVES, because we know we're crafty, detail-obsessed oddballs and we so desperately wanted our wedding to be a reflection of that.

    Thanks so much for sharing, I've loved reading all about your day and the pictures have put a massive smile on my face!

    Px

  3. Esme
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:08 am | Permalink

    Yes! Yes! Brilliant! Good on you my dear – you wanted a detail filled wedding and you had a frickin' fantastic looking one! I love what you said about being 'inspired' by the blogs – I think that's the point, isn't it? Weddings are inspired by things around us, from our lives, and if you read blogs and enjoy them, then why shouldn't your wedding be inspired by them?

    A wedding is no less meaningful if it doesn't have a photo booth/cheese mice/personalised M&Ms;, but here is proof that it can be just what the couple wants.

    xxx

  4. Zan
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:22 am | Permalink

    Cheese mice! Genius. And the lego bride and groom are fab.

    Looks like you had a great day with lots of quirky little details and (most importantly) it looks really fun!

    Also – am now in love with your dress. That embroidery is gorgeous.

  5. Becca
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:23 am | Permalink

    Ah yes. Details. Now. Where to start? Clearly the last post about the pressure of details was driven by me. To clarify, I don't think details are BAD, I think:

    1. Blogs (and magazines – my issues aren't about just blogs) that focus only on the detail are bad – and its the same detail (dress, invitations, venue). I'd actually like to know what music they chose, or what readings they had or how the bride dealt with inviting 20 or 400 people…real life issues. The ceremony and not just the party.

    2. Details for the sake of it, or for pressure, are bad. Bex, your wedding was beautiful because it reflected you and I wouldn't even say it was "detailed heavy" – you had cheese because you liked eating it and who doesn't like M & M's?! My issue is with detail which detracts from the ceremony and the purpose of the day….a marriage and a gathering of families. We went to a wedding last year where an hour of the drinks reception was spent with the bride and groom holding various props (including those bloody signs and arrows) and not even speaking with the guests (or with each other from where we were standing). Its about perspective and proportionality and unfortunately, with the pressure of some blogs, that disappears.

    My florist said that she had some brides who ask her if they book her "will they get in a magazine or on a blog". SERIOUSLY. Details can be details because they reflect the couple, not because a bride wants to be PUBLISHED.

    For the record, we are also having a wedding cake of cheese. I have ALWAYS wanted a wedding cake made of cheese, despite the smell in summer.

  6. Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    this has made my day. I love how Bex's enthusiasm is evident in everything that she does – and how she built herself and Nik an absolutely glorious wedding day. can I also add that it was more fool the wedding blog who didn't want to share these details, but all the better to see both sides of your day (ie the detail and the immense love and bubbling excitement that is evident in it) here on AOW. ps. I can verify that Bex does in fact ADORE green and that I have not ever seen her sans olive green eyeliner x

  7. Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:57 am | Permalink

    Blogger just ate my comment. I promise it was stunningly witty and wise, sadly the moment has passed so it probably won't be, this time around… ;-p

    Bex, your wedding was beautiful. Your were beautiful. The details were beautiful. What I love is that you did what you wanted, your day was what you wanted it to be. Nothing else matters. There should be no room for judgement in an industry that celebrates love.

    K x

    PS: Cheese mice. Fricking GENIUS.

  8. Posted February 16, 2012 at 11:34 am | Permalink

    Oh this makes me grin like a loon.

    I'm the opposite of you, Bex, the DIY-thing really doesn't drive me (I'm currently losing in a wrestling match with Aisling who is trying to convince me to have tissue paper pompoms at my birthday party), but I love that I can see this, and see how proud you are of all the amazing things you did!

    And you look SO HAPPY.

  9. Posted February 16, 2012 at 11:53 am | Permalink

    Bex what a beautiful wedding!!! and I now know where your Twitter avatar came from – that's so cool that it's you at your wedding – what an amazing picture!

    I really enjoyed reading about your day and the decisions you made on details. We didn't go in for details for our wedding but not because we don't like details (hubby is a designer and I'm a creative person too) but more that we didn't have time and didn't feel it was necessary for the kind of wedding we wanted. But we did plan our wedding in 4 months so you can probably understand why!!!

    I ABSOLUTELY ADORE your 'Happily Every After' display, what a lovely idea, and so personal.

    As an aside… just saw Hobo's comment about a wedding blog who said no. WHAT THE ACTUAL F***?! Made me very cross to hear that. And I'm so annoyed on behalf of anyone who has a wedding blog tell them they're not going to feature their wedding – I just want to ask if this has happened to many AOW-ers? I'm not part of the wedding blog world but I did read one recently which made my blood boil a little. Anyway, it's totally the blog's loss and as someone said the wedding industry should be about LOVE and not overly overly focused and judgmental about STYLE.

    I want to go back and comment on all the Any Other Photos I never had a chance to comment on now….. x

  10. Posted February 16, 2012 at 12:37 pm | Permalink

    *holds hand up* Frankie, you can add me to the list of AOW'ers whose wedding got turned down by a 'style' blog. I don't know why we do it to ourselves really – it's just asking for someone else to judge your wedding, and deem whether it's worthy or not. Apparently mine was not. Hey ho. (Totally over it now, obvs.)

    We never turn down AOPs, because there is beauty in every one of them – so if you've been turned down by another blog, send your AOP our way right this minute…

  11. Posted February 16, 2012 at 12:41 pm | Permalink

    CHEESEMICECHEESEMICECHEESEMICECHEESEMICECHEESEMICE!

    Details for the sake of it, no. Just no. Get a grip.

    Details because they're special to you and your friends and family? Details because you love them and want to share them? YES PLEASE.

    You lot are so bloody brilliant. I love you all.

  12. Posted February 16, 2012 at 12:50 pm | Permalink

    Wow, thanks guys! Loving the love for the personal details and the cheese mice, hehee :)

    I totally understand the pressure thing but after seeing a few articles saying to strip it all back and forget the details just made me feel the need to defend my choice to have them. I think Penny summed it up perfectly for me :) I don't think that because you like pretty things it means your day is any less about the love or real meaning of marriage.

    Becca – I have written a post about our ceremony words and first dance lyrics too! :) (coming soon…)

    Zan – thanks, I too fell in love with the embroidery!

    Anna – have the pom poms, you don't have to make them yourself, you can borrow mine – they are green though obvs! ;)

    Frankie – 4 months is super impressive even without details – ours was 11 months and even that was busy!

    Oh and the wedding blog thing – they didn't even bother to say no. Not even a stock reply to say thanks but no thanks. That was the bit that made me sad and put me off sending it anywhere else (except here of course – can always rely on these AOW girls to reply and be genuine!) The only wedding blogs I still read religiously are AOW and APW.

    Loving reading all your comments – am smiling from ear to ear, I really need to make an effort to comment more now I know how insanely happy it makes the writer! :D

  13. Posted February 16, 2012 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

    Bex that video is goregous!

    Also completely agree with everything you've said, including Twitter. I've had the exact same experience as you, joining post wedding!

    I'm a detail fan because that was the part of the planning that I loved the most, searching for inspiration and finding things that suited us as a couple. Not just every detail on every blog, but searching out the ones that I instantly thought 'that will be perfect for our wedding!' And then attempting to DIY it. I love how your enthusiasm comes across in your writing Bex because that's totally how I felt when everything finally came together on the day and I could see our months of planning in one place. I'm sure that's the same for everyone.

    Thanks for defending details, Bex and how they can make your day yours rather than blog worthy!

    xXx

  14. Becca
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 2:01 pm | Permalink

    Free play (so Northern) to anyone that wants to have their wedding on a blog. Personally I can't see the difference in whether its personal or not between paying someone to print our invitations, compared with spending our limited time cutting and sticking for 6 months. Generally speaking, I find photographers blogs so much better (you see more and they are usually of a similar ilk and style hence the choice of photographer) but the idea of someone judging whether a wedding is worthy or not based on details and the way the napkins are folded makes me want to spit tacks at them.

    I've rejected suppliers we've seen on the basis that they refused to take out the clause in their contract which said they had control to send a wedding to a blog or magazine. I've been bitten by the internet once before (stalking birth mother…long story) and there is no way that either of us would let ourselves open to such a risk again, without thinking it through first. I understand that some photographers are setting up and may want to submit their work to a blog but the privacy of the guests at the wedding, the privacy of the bride and groom and family is more important to us. I must admit that my issue here is more the internet than blogs as the internet is forever whereas a magazine or newspaper is often tomorrow's fish papers (clearly feeling really Northern today).

    In terms of rejection, I think we all know that sometimes things are rejected because your photographer or make-up artist isn't a sponsor of the blog. Bex and Clare – your weddings both rocked and I think not featuring your wedding is more to do with sponsorship politics than with taste.

  15. Posted February 16, 2012 at 2:15 pm | Permalink

    Bex! I can't believe you don't even get a reply from the blog you submitted to. That's awful awful behaviour. :-(

    Can I ask where you get personalised M&Ms; from… they're are The Awesome! :-D

    K x

  16. Posted February 16, 2012 at 2:47 pm | Permalink

    This is exactly why I love AOW. There isn't a 'type' of wedding, or of person, to conform to. It's all about the WHY and not about the what.

    Personally, I was planning DIY projects way before we were even engaged. But that's just who I am. And it'll be me doing it all because James hates making stuff (unless it involved using a hammer) but we're making all the decisions together and they're all reflective of us and our lives.

  17. Esme
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 2:59 pm | Permalink

    Re: blogs rejecting your wedding. We very much didn't want to send our wedding to a blog (other than AOW of course!) but we got, er, 'spotted' and felt that our photographers deserved the publicity. It was a hard decision (and said blog didn't make it any easier) and it honestly was a bit weird, but it's done now.

    By being told that your wedding was 'blogworthy' it almost makes you feel that all the hard work you put in to make it personal and not cookie-cutter was irrelevant. Maybe I'm not explaining it very well, any more thoughts Anna and Aisling?

    xx

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  19. Anonymous
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 3:51 pm | Permalink

    Katie here, on client's computer. Should be book-keeping but having a short break.

    Oh I love this post.

    Bex your wedding looks so much fun, and the details are gorgeous. I love the buttoned heart, and the old family photos. Your dress is stunning!! Totally blogworthy in my opinion.

    I only sent photos to AOW. I didn't have any getting ready photos (did not want to be bothered by photographer). I doubt any other blog would have included our wedding, with no getting ready pics!

    I'm going to cause blog condemnation, and I apologise in advance for any offence caused, the fault is with me. There is a certain wedding 'blog photo' that always tickles me. The photo of the brides shoes. I just don't get why a bride would want a photo of her shoes. Sorry. I think I'm too much of a tomboy, and it's outside my realm of comprehension.

    xx

  20. Posted February 16, 2012 at 3:55 pm | Permalink

    Yes! Let's defend a woman's right to as few or as many details as she wants! But that's the key – no-one should have to feel that their wedding day is lacking something because they don't have a sweetie table or a photobooth or ANYTHING other than a groom, really.

    I think that wedding mags and blags (blog-mags) can make some of us doubt ourselves but it's great to see as many different interpretations of what makes a good wedding as there are people.

    Personally I don't love a theme (circus theme? Really? As a symbol for your life together it's lacking something in my book) and so snorted with mirth when I heard the story of a woman being asked in a wedding dress shop what her theme was, only for her to reply: "Me, him, GETTING MARRIED?". I like to think that it was with a slightly derisively curled lip but not everyone is as rude as me!

    PS Defending your right for a theme though. Even a circus one. Maybe.

  21. Anonymous
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 4:16 pm | Permalink

    Katie (again)….

    Been thinking about wedding shoes. I suspect to some brides the shoes are special, and a thing of beauty, to be photographed and treasured.

    Bex, you talk about why we make our choices, and you are right, this is the most interesting aspect of AOW reports. It would be ever so boring if we all chose the same things and same photos. I love the picture of you and your husband snorkelling.

    xx

  22. Posted February 16, 2012 at 4:48 pm | Permalink

    It would be so great to discuss this "blogworthy" b***ocks in more detail….can we have a post on it please?!!…without AOW alienating the rest of the wedding industry I suppose?! It makes me really cross and I think magazines and blogs can be a real force for the negative* when planning weddings.

    (*as well as possibly positive, although I have no experience of that as I didn't look at them)

    And as for suppliers not being able to guarantee they won't send your stuff to blogs – I think that's terrible and it makes me sad. Almost as sad as the thought of people seeking out suppliers to actually get themselves and their wedding featured on blogs. Like some kind of validation of what they've done. Just awful.

  23. Posted February 16, 2012 at 6:05 pm | Permalink

    M&Ms; http://www.mymms.co.uk/customise-mms.aspx?cid=FlaMariageUk

    (shamefully expensive for chocolate but when else could I justify being so indulgent as to have M&Ms; with our names on, in my colour!! Plus they had the desired effect – they looked so pretty in that huge jar and our guests raved about them!)

    I think it's ridiculous that suppliers should get to insist on being able to share what is your private day if you want it to remain private. It's not like they are doing it free for the advertising (I'm assuming), you are paying for a service, not for them to receive publicity!

    I, for one, wanted to share my wedding on the certain blog because I had gained to much inspiration from it myself and not only wanted to show how I had taken the ideas and made them my own but also loved the idea that my wedding might in turn provide more inspiration to other brides. I would never have thought of a cheese table had it not been for seeing one (and all the sweetie tables) on a blog – but it was so perfect for us and I got HUGE enjoyment out of styling (and eating) it!

    I love that here on AOW we can explore more of the whys of wedding choices among other things (life choices even) and have to say that so far the most exciting comment came via twitter thanking me for inspiration! I take that as the hugest compliment! :) (I hope I don't sound shallow!)

    x

  24. Posted February 16, 2012 at 6:36 pm | Permalink

    Hhhmm Becca I wish I'd got that clause taken out of our photographer's contract that said they could use our images for their marketing. Embarrassingly I didn't think it would be an issue when we signed it and didn't think I could ask for it taken out. Very stupid seen as I write other peoples contracts a lot in my job!

    Anyway, we've had a similar situation to Esme in that our wedding got 'spotted' *read: sent in by our photographers probably* for a magazine and after getting angry that a conversation seemed to have happened behind our back that we'd already agreed, the article had gone so far down the line already that we ended up agreeing to it. I didn't want to cause bad relations between us and our photographers because I really like them and they do deserve to promote their work, but it's weird how they assume you'd love to be featured without really checking with you first. The magazine had seen our pictures before it was mentioned to us. That's the part I didn't like.

    The thing that made me most angry though was that about a month ago a friend text me a picture of me in a wedding magazine in a feature about having flowers in your hair. There had been no mention to me so I could consent to my frickin' face being in print! The writer had put a call out on twitter for photos and our photographer had submitted the one of me without checking with me first. Is it just me or would that pee other people off?

    I feel slightly differently about blogs because I did spend my time whilst planning getting ideas from blogs so, like Bex, I feel like I'd be giving something back a bit. But the point is the need to ask a couple rather than going ahead anyway or psuhing them into it!

    Also I agree with Becca in that I think what gets weddings on blogs is if the photographers have a relationship with the blog already, or sponsor it.

    Sorry for the giant rant!

    xXx

  25. mahj
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

    This is pure olive green lovliness!

    xoxo

  26. Becca
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 10:55 pm | Permalink

    What really makes me chuckle with certain wedding blogs is that they have identikit weddings to their own – down to dress style, jewellry, photographers. That can't be personal in any way unless they are the same couple. It's CREEPY.

    Jenny, don't get wrong. I read blogs ALL the time but I become more upset by the messages behind them. And its why I want nothing to do with the ideology.

    Jenny, I'd be OUTRAGED.

  27. Posted February 17, 2012 at 9:44 am | Permalink

    I'd be outraged too Jenny.

    I was nervous about having guests photos on AOW, as I had not asked them for consent to appear on the internet. I made sure they were flattering photos, and of guests who I did not think would mind. One of my bridesmaids is particularly shy, and I thought she might not want her photo on the internet (so I never submitted a photo with her in it to AOW).

    I don't think photographers should send your photos to blogs, without asking first.

    I don't think a wedding being blogworthy matters, it's the sharing of the vows, guests enjoyment, and of course the actual marriage!

    xx

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