Any Other Photo {Emma and Matthew}

Emma (whose blog The Honeymoon Project is a serious must read for anyone who’s not yet booked their honeymoon) has written what are probably two of our most favourite pieces for us in the past (seriously, go and read them, they are phenomenal) and so we’ve been nagging her For. Ever. to send in her Any Other Photo.

And finally, just around the time of her two year anniversary, she sent it in. 

She said that she’d not sent it in before because she’d always been waiting and thinking she’d find a more suitable, more glamourous picture to send in, but that she kept getting drawn back into this one. 

And if that’s not the perfect description of the perfect picture for Any Other Photo, I don’t know what is.

It is about 11.30pm. The band is halfwaythrough their last set, and the dance floor is packed. I’m dancing with my dadwhen I remember that we haven’t had a family photo. Well, we have had one, withMatthew as part of it, but not one with just the five of us. Like, I’m sure,many families, we have plenty of photos of four of us, but few with all five –usually my dad is behind the camera, and these days there are lessopportunities for family photos. I mention this to my dad and he immediatelystarts rounding up my mum and my siblings. Our photographer has gone home, somy sister hands her camera to someone – her best friend? My brother’sgirlfriend? I’m not sure – and we gather at the back of the room to pose.
This is just one of a series of photos thatwere taken over the space of no more than a minute or so, and I love them alldearly, but this one perfectly captures the moment. Behind the photographer,Matthew and our friend Chris are “dancing” at us. I say dancing, but it’s morelike running on the spot in a ridiculous and heightened way, in time with themusic. The expressions on our faces in this picture ensure that I will neverforget watching the two of them dance. My mum, slightly puzzled, but about tobreak into a laugh (as the next photo attests); my sister, already doing aright old belly laugh; me, hiding my laugh behind what is probably a fairlycommon, bemused “oh, Matthew” face; my dad and brother, so cute in theirmatching suits, bearing just the kind of smiles you want to see on your lovedones’ faces on your wedding day.
I wondered (albeit briefly) if this wasreally right to be my “any other photo” – mainly because Matthew isn’t in it.But, of course, he is in it – thosesmiles on our faces are because of him; he is the unseen centre of thisphotograph, and this is the kind of joy he has brought into all of our lives.
Categories: Any Other Photo
11 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted November 4, 2011 at 8:56 am | Permalink

    Emma, you have taken such a different angle on AOP. You paint such a vivid picture, and so much comes through, love of your husband and your family, pride, laughter. Bam. I adore it. Thank you so much!

  2. Posted November 4, 2011 at 9:04 am | Permalink

    Another satisfying AOP friday fix. I love the last line especially, who doesn't want their new family to feel tgat way about them? xxx

  3. Mahj
    Posted November 4, 2011 at 9:18 am | Permalink

    Aww, that bit about Matthew being the "unseen centre of the photograph", sniff!


  4. Posted November 4, 2011 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    OMG how freaking stunning is your dress?!

    Love the pic, and the description. Perfect :) xx

  5. Sarah
    Posted November 4, 2011 at 9:51 am | Permalink

    Lovely end to that AOP x

  6. Posted November 4, 2011 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    Thank you, lovely people. Realised I didn't really explain why this is my AOP, but hopefully it's pretty self-explanatory. :)

  7. Posted November 4, 2011 at 11:33 am | Permalink

    Emma, I followed the link to your previous posts, and I have to say the piece on your grandma is my favourite AOW post. She is just such an amazing and inspiring lady.

    Back to AOP, I love the last sentence, and that Matthew has brought joy into all of *our* lives. It's the word our, that makes my heart sing.

    Andy is also a part of our family, and I just love that he's now our Andy.

    Finally, your family are all so good-looking, and your wedding dress is just divine.


  8. Posted November 4, 2011 at 5:28 pm | Permalink

    Aw. I love mums. Your mum looks like a goon 'un.

  9. Posted November 4, 2011 at 8:31 pm | Permalink

    I did comment earlier – they keep on disappearing, argh.

    Anyhoo, I love this – it's a particular heart string tugger and you all look wonderful xxx

  10. Posted November 6, 2011 at 6:26 pm | Permalink

    Emma – gorgeous pic and explanation! and I agree your dress is B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L! Having a look at the honeymoon project now – great website.

  11. Posted November 7, 2011 at 11:04 pm | Permalink

    Completely not unseen. You can see him on all of your faces!

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