Esme and Tom~Part the First

Yes, it’s that Esme. ‘Our’ Esme, as we rather cheekily refer to her here at AOW! We’re incredibly lucky to have more coming from both Esme and her lovely husband Tom in the near future-watch this space as they’ll both be making even more stunning contributions to AOW for which we are eternally grateful.

Esme and Tom’s wedding report is coming to you in two parts, so as not to overload you with the gorgeousness-if you are already married, this beautifully written report will bring to the surface all those wonderful little memories that you sometimes forget…if you’re engaged, pre-engaged or not even in a relationship, these words will give you a sneak peek into how wonderful your wedding day can be.

Esme, over to you…

For some reason, I decided that I needed to be able to sum up our wedding in 5 sentences, so here they are:
  1. We couldn’t have had more perfect weather on the day, which was good because we were incredibly under-prepared for rain!
  2. It is so wonderful to know that there are a lot of wonderfully generous people in the world and we are honoured to know some of them.
  3. Something can go completely majorly wrong and it will still be alright because there will be more than one person there who loves you so much that they will fix it, no matter what.
  4. No-one can quite prepare you for the feeling of saying your vows.
  5. Even though I woke up on the morning after the wedding with the worst migraine I’ve had in years and my brand new husband had to carry me to the bathroom (I gave him major husband points for that), and there was a point on the day before that I honestly thought that I was going to lose it, our wedding day was practically perfect.
So now to the wedding ‘report’:
My girls and I got ready at a small hotel down the road from our venue. We chatted, giggled, had a few tears over the stunning bouquets made by my sister (who, along with Tom’s Godmother and our Mums, did all of the flowers), tried to stop my 18 month-old niece from getting into the make-up artist’s bag by distracting her with stickers, and I thoroughly enjoyed watching my favourite ladies in the whole world being pampered and made to look even more beautiful than they already were.

I was really calm throughout, I think because I completely trusted Sheelagh and Matt, who did our make-up and hair, and because my best friend and Maid of Honour was so on it with timings, that I didn’t even have to give it a second thought.

Being made into a bride is a strange process, and I suppose that, if I’m really honest about it, I didn’t focus all that much on each individual part whilst we were getting ready: the hair, the make-up, the looking at the dresses hanging in the window, seeing everyone getting ready for MY wedding. And then my Mum ushered everyone out of the room to help me get my dress on, as we had agreed many weeks previously, and I found myself taking some deep breaths – this was it. I looked at myself in the mirror quickly and saw an elegant bridal version of myself looking back. I was struck by how perfect it all was (by which I mean perfect for ME): the dress that I had known Tom would love since the moment I saw it, the hair that was exactly what I had pictured, the make-up that was making me look my absolute best, the earrings that I had borrowed from my Mum and the bracelet that she had given to me as a bridal shower gift (to stop me spending hundreds on a white gold and fresh-water pearl one, damn her!) – it all looked exactly how I had wanted it to and worked together so well. I positioned myself in a ‘bridal’ pose – you know, slightly in profile, train in a little puddle behind me, bouquet in hand – and shouted that everyone could come in. Standing in the hotel room with my Dad wearing the biggest smile you’ve ever seen and everyone wearing the clothes that had been picked out months ago, I knew that it was finally time for the wedding to start.

Just a quick aside here: I cannot describe how much I loved the four different dresses my bridesmaids wore. It took us a while to solve the problem of how to get four very different ladies look like my bridesmaids, whilst also showing their personalities, and I think we nailed it. Aren’t they gorgeous?

Lovely wedding memory number 1
Because we were ahead of schedule, I was able to have some individual photos taken before I got in the taxi to the venue. The photographer and I went outside and saw all of my university friends sitting having a drink, waiting for the minibus. Not normally a quiet bunch, I had to beckon them over and managed a quick hug and a photo before I waved them off. It felt like I had shared a little secret with them and that was lovely.

Before I knew it, I was walking down the aisle. I couldn’t hear the music, and dimly recall seeing lots of faces on either side of me (along with some pretty decorations that my Mum had done that morning as a surprise), but mainly I just felt so excited that the moment had finally arrived. Tom and I stood up in front of people we loved, read our vows, exchanged rings, kissed and then walked back up the aisle again to applause. It felt like nothing else I’d ever experienced – absolute happiness that is still yet to wear off, several weeks later.

After a moment together to say hello and compliment each other’s outfits (I’m still swooning over his suit!), we were welcomed as Mr and Mrs W.
Lovely wedding memory number 2
We were very lucky to have real flower petals for confetti, from flowers that my Mother-in-Law grew from seed, picked, dried and wrapped in little packets for everyone to throw at us (and in our champagne). This bit of the day took place in part of the garden that had a bit of an incline and as such my Grandma, who is in a wheelchair, couldn’t get to us in time to shower us in petaly loveliness. So I went and kneeled in front of her whilst she poured the whole pack over my head. Awww.

Then to cake! Some of you may know that my husband is a research chemist (not a pharmacist chemist, i.e. he doesn’t work in Boots). What you probably don’t know is that he’s a bit of a dab hand in the kitchen, because, as he always says, cooking is just chemistry! He informed me about a week after THE question that he would be making our wedding cake. Because he is a perfectionist, I decided it was best to leave decisions about flavours, layers, decorations etc to him. And he did me proud (and it tasted bloody gorgeous. Well done Tom!). We also had a large selection of cakes that family and friends made for us, which I think must have been nice because everything was gone by the time I made my way to the cake table, as well as two types of tea that were blended for us by Tom’s Best Man, Mark, who knows his stuff, tea-wise.

To be continued…

*All super-beautiful photos by Martmari Photography.

Categories: Real Married, Wedding Planning, Wedding Pretty, Wedding Reports
21 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted October 24, 2011 at 9:16 am | Permalink

    So beautiful… Esme this was a total joy to read. x (waiting for Tom's comments ;) )

  2. Mahj
    Posted October 24, 2011 at 9:17 am | Permalink

    I am so in love with both Esme and Tom this morning.

    Le sigh.


  3. Posted October 24, 2011 at 9:22 am | Permalink

    HOW amazing to have your own tea blend?! I mean… amazing!! Can't wait for more Esme, it's so beautiful and you looked just stunning x

  4. Posted October 24, 2011 at 9:24 am | Permalink

    Doesn't she? Aren't they?! Total Esme and Tom love over here. And the Gramdma and confetti moment makes my heart melt.

  5. Posted October 24, 2011 at 9:41 am | Permalink

    I'm such a fan of the Granny picture! Lovely Esme, you are a stunner.


  6. Esme
    Posted October 24, 2011 at 10:35 am | Permalink

    Thanks lovelies! Bella, having our own teas was brilliant and not too difficult to do – especially as I didn't actually do it, although I did stuff all of the tea bags! It also provided endless amusement to our friends who kept coming up to me and saying 'I'm having a cup of you!'. Hilarous guys, seriously…

    I'll get T on the comments too xx

  7. Posted October 24, 2011 at 11:12 am | Permalink

    You got your own tea? That is actually the coolest thing I've ever heard.

    That shot of Esme all ready and raring to go is a beaut!

  8. Posted October 24, 2011 at 11:41 am | Permalink

    Stunning photos, and beautiful write up.

    I agree on the vows, I was also taken aback by how wonderful and monumental it was making our vows to each other.


  9. Posted October 24, 2011 at 11:45 am | Permalink

    Awww lovely! It makes me so excited hearing about the vows and walking up the aisle…which I am already abnormally excited about and it's reassuring to hear that for many that is the best part of the day.
    That's what I imagine my fave part will be.

    You look beeyootiful and how gorgeous are those maid dresses…I want one!

    Can't wait to read more about it all!

  10. Posted October 24, 2011 at 12:11 pm | Permalink

    Love this so much. Beautiful text and gorgeous photos. And the colour of your bridesmaids' dresses – wow.
    Completely agree too about the ceremony/vows – I guess amongst all the party-planning it was something we hadn't thought too much about (aside from choosing the readings, the music etc), but it was my favourite part of the day. As an over-emotional person at the best of times, I had expected to cry throughout it (with happiness, of course), but instead M and I laughed our way through it – the joy just bubbled over, really.

  11. Posted October 24, 2011 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

    Esme you look stunning! Great to see some more pictures and your write up is fab! It really does bring back memories from our wedding too.

    The colours of your bridesmaid dresses are gorgeous and I love the picture of Tom waiting at the top of the aisle with you in the blurry distance! Also, I can't believe your sister made those bouquets, they are amazing!

    Can't wait for more!


  12. Posted October 24, 2011 at 12:56 pm | Permalink

    Oh Esme – I'm pretty sure I've mentioned this before, but I love you and Tom. I love that you had your own tea, I love that you thought so carefully about making your bridesmaids comfortable, but most of all, I love the concept of the 'bridal pose'!


  13. Posted October 24, 2011 at 1:25 pm | Permalink

    Is it weird to have wedding-couple hero worship for Esme and Tom? As in, I think I want to actually BE both of them.

    Tea, cake, Grandma, beautiful happy joy. Love love love it.

    K x

  14. Posted October 24, 2011 at 1:28 pm | Permalink

    Bahaha Katielase, no it's not weird, it's exactly how me and Aisling felt when we met Esme and Tom for the first time!

  15. Posted October 24, 2011 at 5:49 pm | Permalink

    Ahhhh. Really enjoyed reading this.

    Yes, Esme, I agree – the bridesmaids look amazing in their dresses and the different shades of bluey/purple along with the pink bouquets look absolutely wonderful! Your dress looks amazing too.

    I liked your 5 sentence summing up as an intro… I'm very into summarising- haha! In relation to point 5- my hubby developed a ridiculously bad headache ON our wedding day as we sat down to dinner, but luckily – as you mention in point 3 – there were some friends on hand who'd got super strong painkillers with them, meaning he'd FULLY recovered before dessert. Phew.

    Looking forward to reading Part 2!

  16. Tom
    Posted October 25, 2011 at 8:51 am | Permalink

    I cannot recommend highly enough getting other people to make cakes for your wedding day! It was a great way to get people involved and everyone really pulled out the stops so we had a brilliant spread. Took the pressure off Esme and me too…

    Blending your own tea is easy (and cheap) – just find out what's in a blend you like (such as English Breakfast) and go from there.

    I could not believe how good the bridesmaids looked in their dresses – as a spectator to the process I realise how much effort went into getting them right but it was all so worth it!

    One of my favourite pictures above is the one of Esme's sister giving us the thumbs up from the top of the aisle – it's a brilliant, honest photo of her.

    But, I mean, LOOK at Esme. Lucky ain't I?

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  18. Posted October 25, 2011 at 1:51 pm | Permalink

    As someone who was very involved in this wedding (MoH!) I just wanted to tell everyone reading this what a special day it was for everyone there – you could see on peoples faces how happy everyone was, and I think Tom and Esme's happiness literally rubbed off on everyone else! Every single person was wonderfully well looked after and cared for, and I don't think I've ever spent such a happy day :-) I only hope my own wedding is as wonderful. Thanks again my lovelies xxx

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