‘You can see it in the set of her shoulders’…

It’s been an astoundingly fabulous couple of weeks here on AnyOtherWedding. We’re still recovering from the epic series ‘In Her Own Words’ that ran on International Women’s Day. I wrote about how in awe we were of all our contributors and our readers and of women in general, but I still find myself totally overwhelmed at times. I’m proud. So proud.

Clare and I ‘talk’ every day. Whether it be via Skype or e-mail, not a day goes by without some form of contact between us and it’s changed my life. That sounds uber-dramatic, non? But true, I promise. She is, without a doubt, one of the truest and most wonderful people I have ever met and it is with genuine delight that I count her as one of my best friends. I wanted to make an effort to thank her properly and publicly for giving me the chance to be a part of AnyOtherWedding. And for giving me someone with whom to dicuss the merits of Glee and Hellcats and whether or not it’s viable to have ‘Hey Soul Sister’ as a personal theme tune. You’re pretty great, Mrs.

We saw Lucy‘s favourite wedding photo-and gollygosh it was a stunner. In fact, mostly 100% of everything that Lucy does is stunning. Go have a look, seriously. Clare and I have got to know Lucy over the last 6 months and it has been FUN. We’ve stalked her incessantly and literally begged her to be our friend-I *think* that we may have been successful. Ssssh….don’t scare her off! She’s lovely, she’s sweet, she’s really very pretty, she’s a wonderfully loyal supporter of AnyOtherWedding. As if that wasn’t enough, she’s also a ridiculously talented wedding photographer (who, as previously stated here on the blog, charges FAR TOO LITTLE for her stupendous services. Go hire her. Go!) We’re very proud to count her as a friend.

On Tuesday we featured our most heart-wrenching guest post yet. Emma wrote so eloquently and honestly about such a torturous time and it was with great pride that we featured her writing and watched as you all shared experiences and love with each other in the comments.

For me personally, it’s been a big ol’ fortnight. My little brother (who, by the way, is 20 years of age!) is leaving the UK for Australia in 10 weeks. For TWO YEARS! 2! He’s Brisbane-bound, where he’ll be helping to rebuild the areas devastated by the flooding and cyclones that occured recently. Our Mum keeps crying, I’ve cried, my other little brother has called dibs on Nathaniel’s bedroom…it’s been emotional. In all seriousness though, I could not be ANY prouder of him. Whilst I’m jealous that he’s waltzing off to the other side of the world for fun-times, I’m bursting with adoration for him and his decision to do something amazing.

My ‘little’ (THAT’S a joke…) brothers and I. Courtesy of Simon Fazackarley

I made a big decision regarding a job offer…the decision went firmly in favour of our plans to have a baby. Phil and I have spent a lot of time walking and talking recently, we were always on the same page with regards to ‘babygate’, as it’s affectionately referred to in our house, but it’s been lovely to realise that we are essentially at the same sentence on that page.

At work, I manage a team of 13 ladies. I’ve been with them for 9 months, since I was promoted the day before our wedding! They’ve been an absolute dream to work with and it’s with humongous pride that I say goodbye to FIVE of them as they move on to promotions of their own…wow!

You’ve probably noticed a common theme. Pride. Feeling proud. Proud of myself, proud of the amazing people I’ve met through this blog, proud of my family and my husband, proud of all those in the blogging community who observed the Blogger’s Day of Silence in honour of those struggling in Japan. There are times in life when you feel good. Just plain and simple good. You’re happy with life and proud to be you. It’s important to let yourself feel like this I think. Too often we don’t want to be self absorbed or self aggrandising. These are not attractive qualities. But loving yourself, your life-this is attractive. And so, YAY FOR ME! Ahem….
Oh, and the post title? Is part of a conversation I heard on Tuesday that inspired this rather rambling post. I was walking along the High Street in Oxford when I had to step onto the road to nip around two little old ladies and I caught this,
Lady with awesome flowery shopping trolley: ‘Gosh! She’s tall! Isn’t she Sylv? Isn’t she TALL?’
‘Sylv’: ‘Ever so tall! Almost as tall as my Robert! And he’s a MAN! Looks good on it though, doesn’t she?’
Lady with awesome flowery shopping trolley: ‘Oh yes. Wears it well, she does. You can see it in the set of her shoulders, she’s proud of her height she is.’
I could have kissed them both.
Categories: Body Image, Life Experience
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  1. Posted March 19, 2011 at 10:49 am | Permalink

    Love this post the cheeriness of it just what I needed to start my day! You be so proud and its lovely to get to come along for the journey


  2. Posted March 19, 2011 at 4:29 pm | Permalink

    What a great upbeat post! I love that your brother is off to do something exciting and charitable at the same time – what an adventure he'll have I'm sure. Congrats on your babygate decision. I didn't know about the bloggers day of silence until after it was over unfortunately(and I'd already blogged on Friday).

  3. Posted March 19, 2011 at 6:58 pm | Permalink

    Oh Aisling, even your positive posts make me cry

    We have 'gates' in our house too. But the good thing with gates, are that they are there to be opened. I really hope your babygate opens soon and you get one step closer.

    Good luck to your little brother, I have 3 and everything they do (even the naughty stuff sometimes) makes me proud.


  4. Anna K
    Posted March 19, 2011 at 8:59 pm | Permalink

    You be proud, miss! No-one deserves it more than you. Like attracts like, and you have incredible family and friends. Like attracts like. And a virtual hug for those two ladies! I think I'll buy you one of those flowery shopping trolleys for your birthday.

  5. Posted March 19, 2011 at 11:25 pm | Permalink

    What a lovely post. You *should* be proud of what you and Clare have built here – In Her Own Words just showcased what a wonderful blog and wonderful community of women you have created out of nothing. And it's so great that these relationships are actually part of your "real" life too, just as much as your family and your colleagues. It's great to hear that you have so much to be proud of and there's nothing wrong with celebrating that!

    Sounds like those wee old ladies were spot on x

  6. Posted March 20, 2011 at 6:14 pm | Permalink

    Here here…{what they all said}

    Nope you're not going to scare me off…you and Clare are in the Lucy Stendall circle of trust. Ha! x

  7. Posted March 20, 2011 at 6:15 pm | Permalink

    Oooh apparently that's supposed to be 'hear hear'…sorry, I didn't know that x

  8. Katie
    Posted March 21, 2011 at 10:36 am | Permalink

    Love it. You clearly have great posture and poise. As a teen I wanted to be petite and cute, and felt awkward about my height. It took me till my mid 20s, to become confident about my height (5'11).

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