{On Becoming a Wife} More dreaded details

When we were looking for our venue we tried really hard to not only consider OUR budget, but the budget of our guests. It meant a lot to us for all of our friends to be able to make it, so we had to try to make sure  that not only could we afford the hire costs, but that our guests weren’t put under undue pressure to spend their hard earned cash on things that they couldn’t afford, for what was ultimately, ‘our’ day, not theirs.
When we found the venue we eventually chose, we were pleasantly surprised by how reasonable the hire costs were (still not ‘cheap’ mind you, but significantly less (try a tenth of) than some of the other places we saw. We saw one that told us ‘we don’t have a hire charge as we like to be flexible, so it’s just the £35,000 minimum spend’….queue us making a sharp exit. A very sharp exit. I still don’t think Andy’s recovered). We were UNpleasantly surprised though, by just how much they were charging for guest accommodation, and even more so, the cost of drinks.
We made the decision to share the accommodation costs with our guests – after all, the hire costs were reasonable enough to allow us to. We subsidised the cost of the rooms bringing the room costs down to half the original price, meaning they were less than the premiertravellodgeinnwhatsimacalled down the road.
But what to do with the bar? We just couldn’t afford to make it a free bar, but equally we knew that a hell of a lot of our guests couldn’t justify the £4.50 glass of wine (we’re country bumpkins you know, I know all you London lot will be scoffing at our ‘cheap’ £4.50 glass of wine) . Believe me, our friends don’t NEED alcohol to have a good time (although it always adds to the fun), but we didn’t want our wedding to be remembered as the one where nobody could afford to drink.
So. We agreed with the venue to pay up-front for a certain number of drinks (two per person), and then had to work out a way of making sure a) our guests knew about it, and b) there was a way of the venue knowing how many drinks to give out.
And so the drink vouchers were born. I know I know, the name made me feel icky too, but the venue kept calling them that, so the name stuck. You will have to deal with it.
Being creatively challenged (did I mention this before?), I really struggled to know what to give out as the voucher, other than a piece of paper with ‘drinks voucher’ written on it, which didn’t seem all that inspiring. And then I came across the origami hearts tutorial on Eat Drink Chic, and before I knew it my normally uninspired brain was whirring. I think the process went something a little like this:
“I like these hearts. I want to use them somewhere on our wedding. Where could I use them? The escort cards? YES the escort cards! I am a genius. A creative genius. WAIT. Where would you write the name and number? Also, what would I use those Penguin vintage post card thingamys that I persuaded Andy we NEEDED for? Ok, lets go back to the drawing board. Um. Um. Look at all this pretty stuff on Eat Drink Chic, why can’t I *be* this woman?  She would know what to do. I bet she’s uber cool and beautiful too. Euch. Come on concentrate god damnit, we need to use these somewhere. Um. Um. I don’t work well under pressure, you know that. Um. We could just give them to people! For freeeeeeeeeeeee. For freeeeeeeeeeee I tell you. Might be confusing, but they’re pretty non? HOLD ON A COTTON PICKING MINUTE. Give people things for free? Like we’re doing with the drinks? I feel an inspirational idea brewing….Yes….We could give them out with the drinks! YES! People could exchange their drinks vouchers for…..WAIT. DRINKS VOUCHERS! That’s it, drinks vouchers. We will give these to people and they can exchange them at the bar for drinks. I really am a genius. I can’t believe I managed to come up with that so quickly.”
It’s pretty hard work being me.
This has all been a really long winded way of saying…”Hey ladies! Look at our Russian Ruble origami hearts that we spent what seemed an interminable and never ending amount of evenings happily resignedly making 200 of, look!’
YES. We made them out of Ruble notes. But each note is the equivalent of 20p, so we really weren’t being as generous as we looked. Not only that,  A LOT of people kept them rather than using them because they thought they were pretty cool. Which meant the venue gave us some moneys back. So we actually saved some money, by giving people money.
Win all round again I’d say.
Categories: Wedding Planning, Wedding Pretty, Wedding Reports
11 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted March 23, 2011 at 10:05 am | Permalink

    OK, these are officially amazing – best wedding craft I've seen for ages and ages and so pretty!

  2. Posted March 23, 2011 at 11:49 am | Permalink

    you better give yourself more credit for those, because those are freakin AWESOME!! and love that you got money by giving money, it's a little "pay it forward"!!

  3. Posted March 23, 2011 at 2:48 pm | Permalink

    You are seriously not creatively challenged! They must have taken you forever!

  4. Posted March 23, 2011 at 2:54 pm | Permalink

    Oh ladies….I'm blushing! I'd like to say they were REALLY difficult to make, but by about the eighteenth one, you can start to do them with your eyes closed/whilst watching crap TV/eating ice-cream mars-bars/all of the above…

  5. Posted March 23, 2011 at 7:09 pm | Permalink

    they're absolutely beautiful…really.
    holy cow.
    your inner dialogue…just…CRACKED me up.

  6. Anna K
    Posted March 24, 2011 at 12:32 am | Permalink

    Can we have a tutorial? I want to paper these ALL OVER MY FLAT. They are gorgeous and quirky and relevant and you had very lucky guests.

    And I have frequent Eat Drink Chic-style freakouts. Normally when I'm cooking for other people and I have a total dessert decor fail.

  7. Posted March 24, 2011 at 8:27 am | Permalink

    I love so much reading your thought process as you went through the decisions for all the wee details of your wedding esp as our elopement-ish wedding meant we didn't have any of those details to worry about (and you're inner discussions with yourself make me laugh!). These drinks vouchers are gorgeous and i can see why people would've preferred to keep them.

  8. Posted March 24, 2011 at 1:53 pm | Permalink

    Wow what a great idea!

    They are amazing and so quirky :-)

  9. Posted March 24, 2011 at 2:05 pm | Permalink

    I would have paid over £4 for a glass of wine if I got to keep one of those gorgeous hearts.

    And your internal dialogue made me laugh too. It is nice to know that other people have them too.


  10. Linsey
    Posted March 27, 2011 at 11:37 am | Permalink

    I'm making these for my invites (and possibly place names and order of service, if I can bear it!) I'm using the insides of old envelopes with nice blue patterns and I love them, it's so cool to see someone else doing them too, yours look great!

  11. Posted March 30, 2011 at 8:05 pm | Permalink

    These are brilliant – and I love the value for money side of them as well!

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