Any Other Photo {Lucy and Tom}

After this week’s utterly wonderful collection of posts written by intelligent, passionate and opinionated women, it seemed only right to finish off the week with Any Other Photo from Lucy, another inspirational and passionate woman from our community.
Lucy is an extremely talented photographer who is just starting out in the wedding business. (Which, as an aside, means that currently she is charging waaay too little for her talent, which means YOU should go and hire her now before her prices go through the roof when she becomes all kinds of crazy famous).
Being ‘in the business’ you’d be pretty sure she was going to choose some technically brilliant photo from her professional photographer. A picture where the light falls just perfectly, and the composition is spot on, and the post processing brings the photo out to its best.
Except, once again, as you girls like to do to me, Lucy has chosen a photo that I wasn’t expecting, yet is totally…. right… for Lucy.  And the way she describes it? Trust me, you’ll want to read this.

When Clare and Aisling asked me to pick one photograph from our wedding that stands out in some way I have to say my mind raced.
I’m a photography person. I shoot weddings and portraits but perhaps more importantly, I love images, the things that catch my mind’s eye. I was explaining to a friend the other day that it’s almost a curse. I literally walk around seeing photos in my regular day to day life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that I can have creativity in my life…but sometimes it feels like I’m teetering across the line between enthusiasm and actual photography induced craziness. It’s hard to switch off. 
On my wedding day, I didn’t want to switch off. I wanted to be, as they say, present. In fact Tom and I decided to make an effort to stick together all day – we had been warned by other married couples this would take a conscious effort. I know, the romance/reality of wedding days!. At several points during the day we found natural interludes, where we looked out at our wedding actually unfolding, said ‘let’s soak it in’ and then we did. It sounds unbelievably cheesy to say this, but it was like pressing pause. We said nothing, people chatted, laughed, ate, danced and we let it wash over us. It’s moments like that when you can hear your heart beating and you think ‘This is it. I’m alive. Life is good’. Those images in my head are probably some of my favourites of the whole day.
So, when I flick through our actual wedding photographs I also find my mind wandering amongst those images committed to my memory’s own heaving photo album. I can’t stop these pictures blurring, seeping into one another, blending with the sounds and feelings of those few beautiful hours, like the world’s most impressive slideshow. 
So maybe there isn’t just one image that sums the day up. But this one, taken by several guests who all saw this same moment of us at the top of a hill, is the one that stands out again and again. There is something so unbelievably simple and real about it. It represents how I feel about wedding photography, as a creative person, a photographer, a dreamer and as a newlywed.
I think it is because it is at once planned (we hiked up to the top of that hill on purpose with our photographer) and unplanned (we didn’t expect guest to be photographing us from the marquee below). Part of me thinks that I wish our photographer had caught this, but actually on reflection maybe not. 
You see, it warms my heart that it’s about more than composition, colour, contrast or exposure or one hell of a fancy camera. It is an example of a real moment deemed worthy of documenting by our nearest and dearest. We thought we wanted fancy photos at the top of this hill. And those photographs are beautiful and fancy. But sometimes life gives you something else, that you didn’t even think of and in the end that can be even better. And you don’t find out until afterwards. And the afterwards part is the best part.
Categories: Any Other Photo
9 interesting thoughts on this


  1. Posted March 11, 2011 at 9:44 am | Permalink

    This is beautiful, a perfect moment captured simply. Moments like this don't need a fancy camera, as they shine so brightly even a child could catch it x

  2. Posted March 11, 2011 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful words for a beautiful picture…
    ps when I saw the tweet about Any Other Photo my first thought 'oh good I wonder what the photo/who the couple will be?' A lovely Friday feeling.

  3. Posted March 11, 2011 at 7:32 pm | Permalink

    such a beautiful photo…i love her description of my friends' weddings, they've all said their favorite photos were taken by guests who knew them well enough to know when something was important to them. i love this!

  4. Amy
    Posted March 11, 2011 at 8:50 pm | Permalink

    Yippee! So excited that you're photographing my wedding! I hope you can capture even one shot like this for us!

  5. Anonymous
    Posted March 11, 2011 at 8:58 pm | Permalink

    Lucy this is so you and I love your description, Lucy's photography is all about feelings but technically she is fantastic too, I urge you to check her out x

  6. Posted March 11, 2011 at 9:21 pm | Permalink

    Oh Lucy Lucy Lucy….

    It's just SUCH a beautiful picture. So, so lovely.

    And your words are gorgeousness. The last paragraph is likely to end up calligraphied, in a frame, on my living room wall. Just warning you…!

    Thank you so much for the picture and the words and you generally-we are sooperdooper lucky to have you!


  7. Posted March 12, 2011 at 1:20 am | Permalink

    I LOVE.

    That is all.

  8. Posted March 18, 2011 at 8:56 pm | Permalink

    Thank you all so much, I can't believe what I'm reading…Two special thankyous are due (well, more but I don't want to turn this into a second essay)

    @Amy yay! I can't wait to photograph your wedding and to capture it all on my camera for you.

    @Anonymous…reveal yourself! You realise it looks like you are me and I'm bigging myself up?! But seriously, whoever you are thank you x

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