Loving yourself {revisited}

You know, when I wrote the post about how I didn’t love the photographs from our wedding,  not because of the photography, but because of how I looked in them, I’d only had the photographs for a few days.
Two weeks on, I’ve had time to fall in love with the pictures, regardless of how I look. Because they really did capture the essence and the joy of the day. The few people that I’ve shown the whole lot too, have all told me how wonderfully Matt, managed to capture the love that was radiating towards us, from everyone who was there. And the more I look at them, the more I can see it myself.
And the more I’ve realised that actually, this is what you want a photographer to capture. The love, the joy, the pure unbridled happiness of the day, so that when you look at the pictures, you can’t help but smile, because you can almost somehow *feel* the emotion. It didn’t need to be a photoshoot. I shouldn’t have spent more time trying to find flattering angles. I shouldn’t have stopped doing that goofy smile thing where my chin sticks out.  No airbrushing was needed. If Andy and I want a photoshoot, we can have one some other time.
For the entire twenty minutes that we allowed the photographer to take “posed” pictures at our wedding, we were both desperately wishing that this part could be over, so that we could go inside and join our favourite people and have a party. Yes it was nice to have a few moments alone, but posing the whole time didn’t leave much time to actually enjoy one another’s company. We got that time when we snuck outside later on, and hugging to keep out the cold, peaked in through the window to the warmth, and watched our guests chatting and dancing and drinking and laughing. And somehow, looking at our pictures makes me feel like I did at that moment when I was huddled up with Andy, watching the most important people in the world enjoy themselves, because of us. 

Categories: Body Image, Wedding Planning, Wedding Reports
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  1. Posted January 24, 2011 at 10:58 am | Permalink

    I'm so glad you have come around and that you like your photos after all. You're right, the love of everyone around you is what you will want to see when you look back on them in years to come!

  2. Posted January 24, 2011 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    That's my girl. I like to hope that you've become a little more comfortable with YOU throughout this experience too…

    Despite having seen the pics, I'm still getting excited when you post to see which ones you're going to use!


  3. Posted January 24, 2011 at 11:36 am | Permalink

    Isn't it funny how differently we look at ourselves? When I saw your photos all I thought was 'wow she's gorgeous' and 'what a beautiful dress' – I'm so glad you are now able to enjoy them though. I hope one day you see how beautiful you are too though. xx

  4. Posted January 24, 2011 at 12:13 pm | Permalink

    I am dreading the photos and it is a constant source of fighting with my Mum who thinks a photographer is pointless but then I try to explain this the love and joy that a professional can capture and she looks at me like i'm being a diva…
    Your photos are lovely!

  5. Posted January 24, 2011 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

    I've had exactly the same thoughts over our wedding photos. I love them because they capture the most amazing day of my life and the fact that we have New York city as our backdrop just makes it all the 'wow' but I still cam't help picking myself apart in them- oh look at my chin in that one, oh i didn't realise my 'laughter lines' were quite that pronounced, meh if only i looked more like someone else and less like me. But ultimately, however my chin looks there is no denying that i look immensely happy in every shot and right by my side is the man who loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me even if i don't look like Eva Mende and that is the part i need to focus on!

  6. Posted January 24, 2011 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    Yay for a bit of self-love. Your photos are wonderful, and I'm so glad you are starting to see what we do! xxx

  7. Posted January 24, 2011 at 3:01 pm | Permalink

    Yes, yes and yes. The wedding photos i love most are of people enjoying themselves, of stolen glances of love and of delight and emotion on people's faces. I think you are beautiful in your photos and I also think that of the ones I've seen so far Matt really has caught the wonderful emotions you and everyone else experienced on that day. Truly delighted you're happier with your photos and of course, looking forward to seeing more ;)

  8. Posted January 25, 2011 at 8:28 am | Permalink

    Thats fantastic to hear, these are the photographs that make everything seem timeless


    O x

  9. Posted January 25, 2011 at 12:53 pm | Permalink

    I much prefer candid lovely fun images where the people look naturally stunning and looking as if they are enjoying each other rather than fashion style poses.



  10. Posted January 25, 2011 at 2:31 pm | Permalink

    Ladies, you are all marvelous. Thank you so much for your support and nice words.

    and @pointypix – New York?! How jealous am I right now!

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