The prettiness…

So when I started this blog I promised thought-provoking posts intermingled with prettiness, and so far I’ve been 100% useless with the prettiness (and hopefully at least a little bit ok with the thought-provoking).

To give you a bit of background to this pretty post, I’ve been having a dress drama. I know I KNOW. It is the oldest bridezilla story in the book. Girl buys dress. Girl finds other dress she likes better. Girl cries and stamps feet. Girl buys another dress. Except I’ve got to the crying and stamping feet part, but not been able to get past that stage to the buying a pretty new dress part. Unfortunately this is not due to my sensible head screaming at me telling me not to be so ridiculous, it’s a WHITE DRESS for christsakes, how wrong can it be? No. I hear that, I do. It’s just that I’ve realised that the dress I’ve chosen really isn’t ‘me’ (whoever that is), and certainly isn’t my normal style, and I don’t think I’ll even feel comfortable in it on the day. Which is not really the look I was going for on the day. I was hoping to look serene, blushing, loved up, extremely pleased with myself…you know…anything but uncomfortable.

But to get back to the point, the reason that I haven’t got to the ‘buying a new dress that I actually like’ stage is, well….I live overseas. I wasn’t really going to mention this on the blog, but I do. And it’s sort of integral to this story. Living overseas while getting married in the UK makes planning the wedding just a teensy bit more difficult than normal. I rushed into buying my first dress on one of our trips back to the UK, and have doubted myself ever since. I won’t be coming back to the UK until 5 weeks before the wedding, and that means I can’t get another dress in the UK from a boutique. Hence I’m still stuck at the stamping my feet and crying stage.

I was obviously whinging about this quite a bit, because the lovely, gorgeous, wonderful (can you tell I like her) Charlotte from Rock My Wedding heard about my self-pitying state, and emailed me and did some research and then emailed me again with some suggestions of where I could get second hand dresses from and have them shipped over to me to get fitted…..and this is where the pretty comes in (I know, you thought I’d forgotten about the pretty).

Have you ever seen Monique Lhuillier dresses? If you haven’t, and you already have your dress, now is the time to go back to twitter, or shopping or whatever it was you were doing before you came here because otherwise you may end up in the same situation as me. They are absolutely beautiful. It’s the only word I can use to describe them. Charlotte pointed out that as I would need to get the dress shipped anyway, I could look anywhere in the world, and if I could look anywhere in the world, then where better to look than Monique Lhuillier…?

Making lace sexy – what an absolutely stunning back Scarlett has.

I’m not one for big dresses, but Sunday Rose could change my mind.

These real brides are looking fabulous in ‘Zandra‘ and ‘Claire‘ respectively.

My personal favourite….how slinky and simple yet wonderfuly pretty is Miranda?

Oh internet, how I want them all. But I am deliberating. Am I brave enough to hand over a significant amount of money for a dress I’ve never tried on?
Categories: Wedding Planning, Wedding Pretty
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  1. Posted July 22, 2010 at 3:40 pm | Permalink

    Oh my, they're all so so beautiful. I especially love the first one – that back is fantastic.
    Personally, I wouldn't suggest you buying a dress unless you'd tried it on already – especially as you're trying to find one that you're really in love with. Wedding dresses are a tricky old business, and I found that there were a couple of dresses that I adored before I tried them on, and were convinced that they were what I wanted, and though they looked good when I did try them, they just weren't as "me" as I thought they would be or weren't quite what I was looking for. That said, the dress I ended up wearing was one that I'd seen and fallen for right in the beginning, but had initially dismissed because of the price – until my mum convinced me to give it a try.
    Where do you live? Is it somewhere without decent wedding dress shops?
    Good luck!!

  2. Posted July 23, 2010 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    Thanks Emma, I know what you mean. Not sure what other options I've got at the moment though, and Charlotte did point out thay I could probably resell without losing much more than the shipping costs.

    We live in Russia, where ther wedding dresses are not really quite the style I was looking for. Think shiny, princess style, ankle length, lots of bling and lots of cheap netting/tulle and you'll get the idea.

    Tis a difficult one.

    Fliss xx

  3. Sarah
    Posted July 23, 2010 at 12:48 pm | Permalink

    I can completely and utterly sympathise with this particular predicament. Although I know at this point that you're more than likely considering it as MUCH more than a mere predicament!

    I bought my dress (which was practically identical to Zandra above actually!) on day 2 of 2 planned shopping days. I was waiting for the fanfares, fireworks and neon flashing 'this is The One' signs but none of them really appeared. I had niggling doubts that I'd just bought it as I was fed up and overwhelmed at two full days of shopping but pushed the thought to the back of my mind. Without boring anyone I didn't say anything to anyone about feeling like this but kept drooling over gorgeous photos throughout, which was NOT helpful! I did have a bit of an explosion after the final fitting (3 weeks before the wedding) where I admitted to my mum that I just didn't like it. Unfortunately by that time there was nothing that could be done as it was too close to the day and there was no money for a second dress!

    I still don't think I got the amazing dress feeling on the day, but it did help once I was all put together with hair, make up and and the whole emotion of the day. People told me that this would be the case and I thought they were just trying to placate me, but as soon as I started walking down the aisle and saw my fiance there every other issue just completely disappeared.

    So I guess what I'm trying to advise in a roundabout way is give your dress a chance – there has to be some reason that you chose it even if you didn't get the obvious 100% feeling about it. It's natural to feel worried about everything during the process but trust me you will feel so beautiful on the day that you'll wonder why you ever had any doubts.

    Not sure if that's helped at all, but I do wish you all the best in the dress decision quest x

  4. Posted July 23, 2010 at 2:04 pm | Permalink

    Aaaah, so you are the random Russia-dweller who has been reading my blog! ;)

    Firstly – don't ever apologise for caring about your dress. It's exciting, of course you want it to be lovely!

    Secondly, I'll be frank and say that it depends on your body size and shape. I'm a 14-18 who gets a lot of "seriously? I had no idea!" and had fallen in love with the look (well, ok, and the price) of Jasmine Bridal. When I got my hands on one, I realised that the delicious skimminess of their dresses was going to make me look like a sack of potatoes. If you are slim and/or toned, most dresses will look gorgeous, but if you are not either of those things, you will definitely need to try them on first.

    One option is to buy your dress off the rack during your next trip home – one of the dresses they have for trying on in the shop. I know that it limits your choices, and that some of the magic is lost because other ladies have no-doubt sweated onto it, but they can be cleaned, and even adjusted if necessary, without the need for the absurd waiting period that dress shops usually have.

    I bought my dress off the rack because the designer was so small that she couldn't absorb any of the £/$ exchange rate differences, and so all her 3 British stockists stopped dealing with her. I got a cracking discount, and I've had it since the moment I handed over the cash.

    Best of luck!

  5. Posted July 23, 2010 at 6:18 pm | Permalink

    Oh no! Now I want them all too…

  6. Posted July 24, 2010 at 8:44 am | Permalink

    Thank you lovely people for all of the advice and ideas – really ought to make a decision as its less than four months until I actually need to wear the dress.,.

    @ Sarah – it's so great to hear from someone who didn't 'love' their dress. I've been swept into believing the wedding industry hype that I must love my dress otherwise my day won't be as wonderful as everyone elses. It's good to know that you didn't get the magical 'the one' experience, but still managed to have an amazing day – the wedding industry would have you believe otherwise!

    Fliss xx

  7. Posted July 24, 2010 at 12:30 pm | Permalink

    Hmm, I guess living in Russia does make it all a little bit tricky! If you feel confident that you could recoup your loses by selling the dress on if you don't like it then it could be worth a shot. Eek, tis all a bit tricky.
    Have you tried on your dress since you bought it? But I guess if you don't feel comfortable in it, that's a bit of a major problem – above all else you do want to feel comfortable in it on the day. But then I also agree with Sarah about all the hype – it's so easy to get sucked into it, especially if you don't stop looking at dresses in magazines after you've bought your dress… At the end of the day, though, you're getting married – and although everything else contributes to you feeling amazing on the day, it's really just this fact that makes it absolutely wonderful.
    Sorry, not really helped there at all….I guess this might be an instance where you just have to go with your gut feeling…

  8. Posted August 11, 2010 at 4:06 pm | Permalink

    Majorly late to the party here {hi by the way!} but if you haven't sorted the dress situation then what about Net A Porter? They have gorgeous wedding and non-wedding but stunning white dresses that can all be shipped internationally?

    If you had someone who could maybe have them all delivered to one UK address and then ship them all out together to you to try on a few different ones maybe? Alternatively, there's two great boutique gems called and who have a massive range of designer dress samples in every size and style ready to take away. Could well be worth a trip back to the UK for? Bon Chance! x

  9. Posted August 12, 2010 at 8:57 am | Permalink

    Hi London Bride – thank you so much for those links. Have just had a look – what a great idea. We are coming back in September (5 weeks before the big day), so if the dress here doesn't work out, I might have to pay these boutiques a visit and hope and pray that they have something that I like.



  10. RelaxedBride
    Posted August 12, 2010 at 10:17 am | Permalink

    What about when you come back to the UK you visit reputable bridal shops(we can help with that) and buy a sample. The bridal shop will have it looking brand new and fitted just for you. Whereabouts are you staying in the UK? I know plenty of good one in the Midlands area (I've visited them all)- RelaxedBride xx

  11. Posted August 12, 2010 at 4:57 pm | Permalink

    Hi RelaxedBride – I'm staying in Cheltenham, so not too far from the Midlands actually. I did sort of try the sample route when I was back last time, but I'm not really standard sample size, which means most aren't any good for me….

    I am destined to be dressless…!

    Fliss xx

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