By Anna K
Love freely. Find the good in others. Tell them what you find. Leave people feeling a little taller than when you found them. People will remember you if you make them recognise the good in themselves.
Don’t fear failure. It will come, and it will feel like the world has ended, and then it will pass and you will have survived. Fear of failure, of looking like a fool, is what stops us achieving, and going beyond ourselves. Meet failure head on. Shrug it off. It’s smaller than you.
Similarly, when you’ve made a mistake, and believe me you will, put your hand up and admit it. Even if it’s a really, really bad one. There is nothing more insidious than someone who blames their mistakes on circumstance, or on others. People will respect you far more if you step forward, and look for a way to fix the problem. Even better, with time, you’ll respect yourself. Your mistakes can become your opportunities.
There is no “the one“, and it’s a dangerous idea to suggest that there is. Partner, job, wedding dress, decision. The world is full of choice, and opportunity. Listen to your instinct. Trust yourself to know what choices feel right to you. Have the courage to choose. You cannot choose wrongly. In all big decisions, make the most of whatever choice you made and don’t pine over “what if“.
Don’t spend inordinate amounts of time forcing yourself to improve what you’re bad at. Cut your losses. Find what you are good at, naturally. Find what comes to you without effort. Find what you love. It might not be what you always wanted it to be, but it’s there, within you. It might take you years, but find it. Spend your time doing that, practicing that, nurturing that, sharing that gift, and become extraordinary.